Sex and the age thing.. men older than woman, How much

[ThornyRose]

I just looked at some posts that were on the subject of older women and younger men.. The funny part was a lot of the replys were asking if it was ok to have sex with an older woman such as 35 years old.. I guess that older is in the eyes of the beholder..

Ok how about the man.. and how much older than the woman.. Society ok's easily a few years, and at least 3 or 4 years older for the man is expected.

In all this talk, could you as a man make love to a 75 yr old woman.. Even if you could find one that wants to.. My friends would be shocked if they saw me with a 50 year old.. Although my serious lover is 52, and is at my activity level..
My two marriages were to 21 and 28 year differences.. Both ex's are still close, and friendly to each other.. All Holidays include them.
I am 70 Plus, and will spend this weekend in the mountains with an 22yr old..
After the legal age, I do not see any age question... It is between two people.. If they want it well maybe she is an older lady of 35 HA.

[Tian]

i think it all depends on your age

when your young (like junior high, so 11-14) it was frowned upon if you dated someone more than a class younger or older (so 8th graders shouldn't date 6th graders)

when in high school and college, it was frowned upon for seniors to date freshmen (4+ years apart), although it happens more commonly in college


So now that you're older, i think it's fine that you're dating much younger women. In my opinion, if you're still able to attract them in your old age, you have every right to date them. So once you clear college, you can pretty much date anyone who is also out of college

i use the word 'date' but you guys know what i really mean, right?

[baller16]

22? damn dude you are a pimp plain and simple.

[inifty]

i put 10 yrs on the poll but not bacause of any decency crap. Im 32 and while i certainly enjoy the hell out of looking at younger women and wouldnt mind a free piece without commitment i just cant see dating someone that much younger. when i was 30 i dated a 22 yr old and we had very little in common so while the sex was great the rest of the time i had to deal with young woman tantrums and other drama filled crap. (im not knocking women i was the same way when i was younger)

[madmax400f]

I'm with inifty, after so many years apart they just don't have the same mentality. But i guess it's different for everybody. I hope I'm still attactive to 22yo when I'm 70.

[baller16]

seriously though the only other person i could think of getting a 22 y/o when they were 70 and not because of money would be the Big Dipper

about the age thing i say hey as long as you're not going after underage girls then go for it.

[Rain]

For me, age just doesn't matter. I think society weighs too heavily on the subject. If a 60 yr. old guy is dating/married to say a 25 yr. old, what business is that of anyone else's? The limits of age should only be set by the individual themself.

My opinion probably helps growing up in a household where my dad was older than my mom by 21 yrs.

[ThornyRose]

This weekend is not a spur of the moment thing, relationships build, and a trip to the mountains with a 22 yr old, is one of many, and almost a day to day thing... She is rare, and knows why she is attracted to me.. Sex with us is not an every day thing,, but often. It started after a long friendship, and spending time with me in the shooting room while I did some semi nudes.
Her question was, "don't you get turned on by those beautiful women" and I explained, that while I am working behind the camera, my mind does not go to sex.
A few evenings later as we were enjoying the wood burning stove and some long conversations. She come out with the question "If I took off all my clothes would you tell me if I am beautiful?"
We had slept together many times, but no sex. Why? Because I had to know that I was attractive to her before romance.. On those occasions she wore a long T shirt..
I told her what I thought of her beautiful body, but not with seduction in mind, for she knew I was telling her the truth about every little nipple and hair.. Our first sex came a night or two later.. With my business and her college it is hard to get enough of her, and good time together. Her parents would crap if they knew that she was in town every weekend and did not go to see them.. NO I will not post a picture of her..
Oh yes she is not after money. She is worth 100 times what I am (inherated from frandparents) Owns a horse ranch in colorado, She flies in from school and leaves her plane in a hanger and I pick her up.. After her equine science classes she will be going to Colorado state for her masters.. So we both know that this will end..

[Sex_On_My_Mind]

Age is just a number for me but at this time in my life no more than a 10 year differnce.

[Nympho]

To me, age is only a number. If my soul mate happened to be a lot older than me, who is anyone to say that that's wrong? I don't see anything wrong with you being with a yonger woman, even if she is younger by that much.

[bnthrdntht]

i don't think it makes a difference in the age as long as they're legal i mean i'm 20 and married to a 34 yr old and there are some views that we differ on but a lot that we have in common

[Doc]

Thorny, all I can say is , I don't plan to even make it to your age, working on cars wares hard on a person. With that said, I don't plan on ever leaving my wife, unless death do us apart, hopefully me first, Because she is a beautiful woman, and deserved alot better than me. But god forbid something ever happened to her, Maybe after a long time, even then I don't think I would bother, But I might go 10 or 20 yrs younger. I met my wife on a blind date, 25 yrs ago May 2, she hated me...lol.
But I guess her mother saw something about me, and told her if she didn't grab me while she had the chance, she would be the biggest fool on earth!
No lie!, I loved her mother like she was my own mom.
But my wife and I grew together, and I wouldn't know what I would do with out her, I shudder even thinking, and writing about such a thing.
But my hat is off to you! If a 22 yr old girl wants you. All I can say is have a blast!
Doc.

[ThornyRose]

Thorny, all I can say is , I don't plan to even make it to your age, working on cars wares hard on a person. With that said, I don't plan on ever leaving my wife, unless death do us apart, hopefully me first, Because she is a beautiful woman, and deserved alot better than me. But god forbid something ever happened to her, Maybe after a long time, even then I don't think I would bother, But I might go 10 or 20 yrs younger. I met my wife on a blind date, 25 yrs ago May 2, she hated me...lol.
But I guess her mother saw something about me, and told her if she didn't grab me while she had the chance, she would be the biggest fool on earth!
No lie!, I loved her mother like she was my own mom.
But my wife and I grew together, and I wouldn't know what I would do with out her, I shudder even thinking, and writing about such a thing.
But my hat is off to you! If a 22 yr old girl wants you. All I can say is have a blast!
Doc.
I totally beleivce in your thoughts and plans.. My ex and I were together for 17 years.. I began to spend more and more time with work, and she got restless, thus a wayword girl friend led her astray. I jumped to divorce her. We never really seperated mentally and sexually, eventhough I married and divorced again.. She is the only 60+ woman that sex happens.. So many strange, or unusaul things happen to put my 22 yr old and I together.. She told me this weekend that she was sucking every bit of experience out me that she could get. She knows that my ex and I are close, and tells me that she wishes she could be a little mouse and see how old folks make love.. My form of photography has put way too many temptations in front of me..

[LittleMiss]

I am 20, and my boyfriend has just turned 28 and I'm pretty sure he doesn't find the same problem as inifty!
I have another friend who is 19 and her boyfriend has just turned 33 and I've never known such a happy couple.
It's not the age that matters it's how well you get on, find each other attractive and enjoy the company!

[ThornyRose]

Yes I have found mature teen's and childish grandmothers..

[vackyvic]

i know im young but it totally depends on ur attitude for me. if he's cute and fun and acts energetic and mischievous or entertaining that matters more than a number. that being said tho, bald and wrinkly is not usually all that cute... sorry

[rajoo888]

Biologically men/women have age parity by about 4 years, I mean a woman is as old as a man 5 years ahead-this is normal. some men/women just for sake of sex/relationship/companionship do not bother much about age differences.

[Wafarer]

Since when is `three or four years older' expected for the man in a a relationship?
Are we talking about casual or long term, with regard to the OP?
You seem to be doing alright Thorny...I say, personally, for casual(18+) and for long term, no younger than 13 years, women my age are too close to peri/full menopause, so I look for a few years younger than me(though not carved in stone).
Have fun in the mountains!

[can i be your sex kitten]

depends on the guy i think.

[makemetakeit]

The Domly One is eighteen years older than me and we've been together since I was eighteen. We've always been asked what on earth we could have in common. But really, does the soul have an age?

[MintyKisses]

Age matters to me, as in, I like them older. I usually ballpark for my youngest to be around 8-9 years older and my oldest to be about 20-25 years older. I have been with guys around my age, but I just don't find them appealing. The maturity levels, intelligence levels, and sexual appetites seem to not match up with mine.

[vwbub]

I'm 45 and my wife is 27. She's the best.;)

[NaughtyBBW]

In my experience with an age gap greater than 15 years or so, there are less shared generational experiences between you... for me that makes it harder to form connections with someone. I'd happily give a guy 10 years older a shot... 10 - 15 years older is starting to push it.
That said, I'd also drop down to 6 - 8 years younger than me... as long as he's out of Mummy and Daddy's house :eek:
jk (sorta).