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DontTurnAway
07-28-2006, 02:24 AM
I have been sexually abused and raped before. Now I'm with my boyfriend and its hard for me to do things due to flashbacks.. He understands but is very dissapointed.. I feel horrible..
What should I do? :( :oops:
bnthrdntht
07-28-2006, 02:49 AM
don't do it...not until you're ready i've been there and i still have nightmares and there are certain things that i can't do without flashbacks so i say don't do it and if he truly cares for you he should understand
DrUnKeNLullAbie
07-28-2006, 04:48 AM
thats fucked up... i cant see how someone could do that to a girl... or a guy but thats a different story all togeather... sorry 2 hear that
LittleMiss
07-28-2006, 11:09 AM
What should I do? :( :oops:
Nothing you don't feel like you can do. Don't rush yourself. Put the emphasis on romance rather than sex and it might help you feel more comfortable and trusting towards him. Eventually things will get better.
ShakeZula
07-28-2006, 12:01 PM
Some counseling and therapy probably wouldn't be out of the question either. How long have you been with the guy and where do you see it going?
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DontTurnAway
07-28-2006, 04:42 PM
Well I've been with him for about a half of a year.. and I will hopefully be with him forever.
Alexxxm
07-28-2006, 05:29 PM
Tell him how u feel, sit down n have a chat... share your emotions with him... having a partner to talk to is always good
Furred Goddess
07-28-2006, 06:57 PM
I have been sexually abused and raped before. Now I'm with my boyfriend and its hard for me to do things due to flashbacks.. He understands but is very dissapointed.. I feel horrible..
What should I do? :( :oops:I have been where you are. I told my partner about it after I had a flashblack when we were in the middle of intimacy. He at first thought it was something he did wrong but after I told him of my past, we just slowed everything down until I was absolutely ready. It's been more than 10 years since the attack and there are still days I have a panic attack due to it. If he loves you, he will not pressure you. Don't feel guilty, you didn't choose for some asshole to hurt you and you sure as hell are not choosing to live with the flashbacks. Just keep reassuring him that you will soon be ready, you just need time.
I agree with ShakeZula, seek therapy. It does help and so does time.