Q about Friends w/Benefits

[TalkinDirty]

So I have this friend who I've known for a few years now and we're pretty good friends. She actually watched over my place while I was gone for the summer and etc. Anyways, I think she's really attractive and would love to be intimate, but at the same time I don't want long-term relationship due to relocation reasons. Anyone have any advice on how I should approach this? I don't want to hurt or jeprodize our friendship but it would be nice do stuff. I have the balls to ask flat out, but I'm just afraid that after that she may find it awkward to be around me. Any thoughts?

[ladygodiva123]

So I have this friend who I've known for a few years now and we're pretty good friends. She actually watched over my place while I was gone for the summer and etc. Anyways, I think she's really attractive and would love to be intimate, but at the same time I don't want long-term relationship due to relocation reasons. Anyone have any advice on how I should approach this? I don't want to hurt or jeprodize our friendship but it would be nice do stuff. I have the balls to ask flat out, but I'm just afraid that after that she may find it awkward to be around me. Any thoughts?

I think it would be difficult to turn a platonic friendship into a FWB without jeopardizing your friendship. I think you'd be better off finding someone new and being clear about keeping it casual.

[xiara74]

I agree with godiva. You're already friends with this woman, you'll change the relationship and risk losing it.

FWB works if you know upfront that that's what it's going to be.

[artstopper]

Agree with both girls... Even though for some men is really hard to miss a possibility to get "benefited"...I've always been against this as long as my opinion is friends r friends and the other is..other. When i have such a "friend", we always know each other from a really short time and the idea of two of us is clear...

[TalkinDirty]

Interesting. Thanks ladies and gents!

[alwayshorny1991]

It doesnt hurt asking. You could get no strings attached sex out of it

[BisexualKinkyGirl]

I agree, I took a friendship to FWB and well now there really isnt a friendship, it is very hard to do...

[ladygodiva123]

It doesnt hurt asking. You could get no strings attached sex out of it

On the contrary, just asking could put a strain on the friendship if she's not interested.

[TalkinDirty]

Ladygodiva.....let me ask you....

She has maintained a friendship with me long distance. When was was on the west coast and when we was in the other hemisphere she still maintained contact and now that shes back we calls me up every now and then. Maybe I'm over analyzing. I guess it could be that we are just friends and that she's not interested.

[sexigyrl]

If you feel that there is a possibility that the relationship could head in that direction, let her make the first move. However, keep in mind it may not be obvious. That way, you don't have to worry about being embarrassed or bringing it up if that's not what she wants.

[ladygodiva123]

Ladygodiva.....let me ask you....

She has maintained a friendship with me long distance. When was was on the west coast and when we was in the other hemisphere she still maintained contact and now that shes back we calls me up every now and then. Maybe I'm over analyzing. I guess it could be that we are just friends and that she's not interested.

She may very well be interested, but the question is, does she want the same kind of relationship that you want? You say that you're friends and that you have been friends for a few years. To go from true friendship to being fuck buddies is a giant step backward IMHO. You say that you don't want a heavy involvement because of relocation concerns, which is valid. But what if she's THE ONE? Are you going to pass up whar could be true love just because someone has to move?

[Kimiko]

So I have this friend who I've known for a few years now and we're pretty good friends. She actually watched over my place while I was gone for the summer and etc. Anyways, I think she's really attractive and would love to be intimate, but at the same time I don't want long-term relationship due to relocation reasons. Anyone have any advice on how I should approach this? I don't want to hurt or jeprodize our friendship but it would be nice do stuff. I have the balls to ask flat out, but I'm just afraid that after that she may find it awkward to be around me. Any thoughts?

The next time she house sits for you, leave your entire porn video collection on the coffee table. That should get things started. :)

But seriously...friends are far more valuable than people you have sex with. Enjoy the friendship, but let her know, however subtly, that you find her very attractive. It's not that hard to work an offhand comment like that into a casual conversation.

"Well, sure, YOU can say that, because you're a total babe!"

[Madman81]

I agree with the ladies. Having a friendship then thinking of adding sex to it can ruin what you have. If you want a friend with benefits it's better to find a woman you can build a friendship with and share the physical attraction together where it will feel more natural.