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Rain
06-03-2006, 01:09 PM
Without coming out and saying to your partner that they can't kiss, how do you go about making them a better kisser? I love to kiss, but my husband acts like he's going to eat my face. It's such a turn off.

wickedsin
06-03-2006, 05:21 PM
Rain,

In my marriage, I've found that direct and honest feedback works. I know everyone is different and the dynamics of each relationship are different but I've always found that honesty, as long as it is not said hurtfully, is the best approach. Good luck hun!

WiltallicA
06-04-2006, 05:14 AM
Damn right.

Tell him hes doing it wrong, but make sure he understands that you would love to teach himh ow to do it right.

ShakeZula
06-05-2006, 07:42 PM
Yeah, us guys really aren't that great with subtlety. If you've been together this long and he hasn't picked up on it that you're not happy with the way things are going in that department, it's unlikely he'll just suddenly wake up and say "Oh...so that's why?". So yeah, just break it to him gently and say I want to work on this.

Or at the very least, turn it right in to sex and say "Baby, it's so sexy when you kiss me like this, it gets me so hot." Guys are suckers for that kind of stuff. Anything that makes you want to have sex more is perfectly okay with us. And it's not really lying since it really would get you hot if he's kissing you the way you like.

I saw a female commedian one time talking about how she would get her boyfriend to do housework just by making it sexual. For example: Baby, you know what would make me so hot...? If you would mop the floor...naked. Yeah...get those corners. Ooo, that's so sexy. Okay, now...DUSTING!"

As silly as it sounds, if I was unsuspecting and my girl tried that on me, I'd be too preoccupied thinking about all the hot sex it would lead to to realize that I was doing all the housework. It would probably dawn on me eventually, but think about all the stuff I'd have gotten done in the mean time. We're really not complicated creatures, it's embarrassing sometimes.

Oddly enough though, I thought girls wouldn't mess with a guy to much if he was a horrible kisser. I always heard it was one of those tell-tale signs that girls lived by. He must be a helluva guy to have made it past the dating stage on bad kissing. Well done him. Let's just see if we can't make him a little better :wink:

S

casper
06-06-2006, 02:14 AM
rain if i am reading you right, you are talking about kissing your husband as a form of fore-play before and during sex. if this is correct to me this is a very serious problem, i think you should take this problem outside of the bedroom first, and be a little more aggresive and patient towards your husband's kissing you the way you want to be kissed. i hope you are getting what i mean.

Reach Deep
06-07-2006, 08:43 PM
Without coming out and saying to your partner that they can't kiss, how do you go about making them a better kisser? I love to kiss, but my husband acts like he's going to eat my face. It's such a turn off.

You mean your husband acts like a labrador dog (just a joke) when kissing you?

Communication is the key.

Bigwater
06-08-2006, 04:57 AM
Girls, is they're a way to know if you don't like it :wink: , and if so, got any tip on how to improve?


/doesn't know if he kisses well :(

Nick Nayme
06-16-2006, 05:51 PM
The fragile male ego is not a myth. It is real. I have a huge one. (At least something I've got is big.).

Please be careful to avoid even hinting that he is doing it wrong. Instead, find a way to explain that you have somehow seen kissing, maybe in a movie, that you are curiuous about and want to try out as an experiment. Remember that training any animal depends on praise and reward immediately after we do the right thing.

Rain
06-16-2006, 06:01 PM
The fragile male ego is not a myth. It is real. I have a huge one. (At least something I've got is big.).

Please be careful to avoid even hinting that he is doing it wrong. Instead, find a way to explain that you have somehow seen kissing, maybe in a movie, that you are curiuous about and want to try out as an experiment. Remember that training any animal depends on praise and reward immediately after we do the right thing.

Thank you, I'll try this.

ChronoTriggerJM
06-16-2006, 09:01 PM
Be the dominant kisser, Tease him, if he goes at it to fast back off and give him a sexy smile of some sort and just take it into your own hands to slow it down and show him how to be more passionate about it. Most guys tie kissing with sex like right off the bat lol, just make it more sensual and be assertive (_) as a guys I LOVE IT when my woman shows me how to do something lol.

pookey227
01-02-2007, 08:17 AM
In the middle of kissing slow it down and pull away so ur haning off his face just a little and be like "no like this baby" and show him and sexially point out some mistakes like "nooo bring your toungue in and drag it around my mouth"


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I had to break a record of draggin out old topics, I saw "Smut_King" drag out one from 3 months ago SOOOO I just had to grab one from 6 months ago!

Dony
01-02-2007, 12:40 PM
I had this problem with a girl once..

Just tell your husband you want to talk about kissing (hope that won't seem susicious to him). Then be sure to ask him what he likes about kissing first, before you make your point.

Also instead of telling him what you like, say you want to show him.
Just tell your husband to lay down and relax, and only copy your actions slowly ("Do what I do"). Then start kissing him the way you like, making sure you have a build-up of at least one or two minutes in it so he can get used to the new technique. After a while just stop to tell him this is how you like to be kissed.

emma 7
01-02-2007, 01:03 PM
Use sort of french kissing.He'll never eat your face.

dilasipsip
01-02-2007, 01:16 PM
KISSING TECHNIQUES
Kissing is a delicate art and must be taken slowly with your partner. A good kisser knows how to pace themselves, has an active imagination, and understands what their partner likes or may not expect, but will enjoy. When kissing, remember the following: never slobber, don't stare, try not to belch, always pay attention with ytour non-visual senses (touch, hearing, ESP, etc.) and there is no such thing as too slow.

If you are unhappy with a kiss, then chances are your partner is going to feel the same way. The best thing you can do is relax, and not just in your body, but your face, lips, neck, everywhere. Be relaxed and confident with how you kiss. Let yourself go with the flow of the moment and savour every second of it. While you are kissing, remember to use your hands, nose, and breath to entice your partner's senses. Everyone enjoys being touched and caressed while being kissed. Use your hands to gently caress the cheek, the jawbone, the back, arms, and collarbone. A gentle exhalation of air, that does not smell foul, can provide your partner with extremely light, warm feelings on their face, mouth, and neck that can be quite arousing.

Never "attack" someone when you kiss them, unless they like that sort of thing, and most people don't. Treat their lips like you would a dangerous creature. Move in slow and prepare for a kiss. Initial contact should be lips only, firm, yet gentle. React to how your partner is kissing. If they speed up, speed up with them. If they slow down, follow suit. Try to synchronize your actions with one another and always pay attention to their body language.

dilasipsip
01-02-2007, 02:38 PM
TRIUMVERAT
Kiss between the eyes, on the tip of the nose, and then on the lips.

TOP AND BOTTOM
Kiss the top lip, then the bottom lip, then both.

LICKABLE LIPS
Run the tip of your tounge along your partner's lips.

EARLOBECSTACY
Gently kiss, nibble, and suck on the earlobe.

FACIAL LINES
Trace the neck and jawbone with your lips and tounge.

THE BIG TEASE
Kiss everywhere but the lips, until your partner pulls you to their lips.

CARESSED LIPS
Rub your finger gently across their lips and then go in for a kiss.

SENSUALITY
Look in their eyes and whisper you want to kiss them. Press your lips gently to theirs', caress their lips with yours, and then give her/him a passionate kiss.

CHEEKY
Gently brush cheeks with your partner.

ESKIMO KISS
Gently rub the tips of your noses together.

BUTTERFLY
Brush eyelashes with your partner. Make a flattering motion of the eyelash by quickly opening and closing the eye.

ROSE PETALS
Make a small "O" with your lips. Press your lips against your partner's skin and suck softly. Lift your lips off a little, move over slightly, and repeat.

HOSTAGE KISS
Cover your lips with tape and get your partner's attention. When they come near, make noises like you're trying to tell them something and motion as if you can;'t get the tape off. Once they remove the tape from you to hear what you're trying to say, tell them,
"I've been saving my lips all day just for you!" Then kiss them passionately.

STRAWBERRY SECRET
Place a strawberry in your mouth without your partner knowing. Crush the strawberry in your mouth and feed some to your partner while you kiss.

COLD AS ICE
Put a piece of ice in your mouth without your partner knowing, Kiss them on the neck and let the ice softly touch their skin.

BACK KISSES
Snuggle upbehind your partner and proceed to cover their back with little kisses.

FOOT KISSES
When your lover comes home from work, or wherever, wash their feet and give them a massage. While you're giving them the massage, lean over and give little kiss on their feet.

HERSHEY'S KISS
Try not to kiss your partner all day. Throughout the day leave Hershey's kisses or some sort of romantic candy in places that they will know it's for them. Later in the day, start leaving notes with poetry or quotes on kissing for them. After that, leave a love letter describing how you'd like to kiss them and the satisfaction that it would bring you. Once you feel they've had enough teasing, spend sometime rewarding them with lots of kissing! This is rewarding for yourself as well, since you've been thinking about kissing them all day too.

RED LIGHT KISS
When in the car with your partner, every time you stop at red light, lean over and kiss them until the light goes green.

RECORDED KISS
Record the sound of yourself blowing a kiss. Then either e-mail it to your partner or leave a note somewhere with instruction to press "play".

VIDEO KISS
Record on a videotape or webcam youself blowing kiss to your partner and tell them how much you miss them.

E-MAIL KISS
Draw or animate a pair of lips kissing. Then send it to your sweetheart.

THE LOST KISS
Look around your partner, looking under things and appearing like you're searching for something. When asked what you're looking for, say "I've been looking for a kiss all day but I can't find one anywhere. Oh wait, I found it!" Then give your partner a kiss.

WAKE UP KISS
Before your partner awakes, lean over and kiss their cheek. Then give soft kisses across their cheek until you reach their lips.

MAKE UP KISSES
At the end of the day, sit down with your partner and ask them how his/her day went. Silently keep track of all the bad things that happened during the day. When he/she is finished, give them a kiss for each one. When asked what you are doing, say you are helping make up for all those bad things.

POST-IT KISS
Make a post-it note trail that leads to your lips. On each note leave a lipstick kiss and an arrow or clue to find the next note. Place the last note over or near your lips.

FULL BODY MELTDOWN
While your partner is laying down, slip over to them and start running your tounge, very gently, up their legs, arms, reaching their lips give them a full passionate kiss.

THE GRANDIOUS TEASE
Softly run your fingers across your partner's lips, lure them into kissing you, but before you kiss, pull away and then go in for the kiss, then pull away again, etc., etc., etc.

Kimiko
01-02-2007, 03:09 PM
Wow! I'm printing that out...:)

chnrgr
01-02-2007, 04:49 PM
To prevent problems with our fragile ego because as you are probably aware every man is a fantastic lover in his own head.
Work on suggestions of "lets try it this way" and then compliment him on what you enjoy.
You may still get your face washed on occasion but believe it or not we are potentially trainable and make fairly good house pets when given the right encouragement.

Kimiko
01-02-2007, 05:21 PM
To prevent problems with our fragile ego because as you are probably aware every man is a fantastic lover in his own head.
Work on suggestions of "lets try it this way" and then compliment him on what you enjoy.
You may still get your face washed on occasion but believe it or not we are potentially trainable and make fairly good house pets when given the right encouragement.

DOWN, boy! Roll over....good BOY! *scratching your neck*

I use movies for educational purposes. For kissing, use the scene in "Cruel Intentions" where Sarah Michelle Geller is teaching another girl how to kiss. Lesbians do it a LOT better than most men. During the scene, you can lean over and say: "Mmmmm, she kisses really nice, don't you think?" Guys always receive messages like that.

Kimiko
01-02-2007, 05:22 PM
Come to think of it, there was another good scene in "Rain Man".

Girl: "How did that feel?"
Rain Man: "Wet."
Girl (smiling): "Then we did it right."

baller16
01-03-2007, 02:26 AM
yea, but the Cruel Intentions scene is so much hotter


and what the hell? This is from June

Caffeine
01-03-2007, 06:09 AM
Pook expertly revived an old dead thread as a joke.

He even chose a dead thread started by an inactive member, yet people continue offering advice....

I love it.


And yes, the Cruel Intentions scene is insanely hot.