The best sex we've ever had was either of desperation/satiated or a truly masterful sexual partner(s), I truly believe we all have the potential to learn the skills. But that there are the exceptional ones who have almost an inherent gift for being artistic in their sexual nature. I walk and talk it when I'm not having sex, I ask a lot of questions of some of the most gifted minds in the sexual realm. Mostly science while some were porno stars and the call girls of the 70/80's who had working knowledge of turning on the what, where and how. A wise man once said, "If you pay close attention, you might just learn something?"

 

I barrel in like a water buffalo and leave just as haphazardly. I lack any sort of technique and have yet to meet anyone with any real talent. Still fun though

 

A few years back, in the middle of a session, my girlfriend at the time kindly went to grab me a beer from the fridge and on her return, proceeded to squat over the corner of the coffee table and slowly produce a 440ml can of Strongbow from her vagina. No hands and still cold. Well I was impressed.

 

Before I got with my Husband I was actually mentally accepting bad sex as the norm, on more than one occasion I wanted to scream my lungs out at the frustration at yet again not receiving a orgasm from my previous partner during one of our boring sessions of me doing all the work and getting fuck all fot my effort. With speaking with friends this is sadly the norm rather than the exception it would seem. Now I will say that some women do not make it easy for men and vice versa regarding being very open with what they want regardless of how kinky or twisted, you sometimes have to be taken way out of your comfort zone to have a mind blowing session.. I would have never have thought I would accept a ball gag whilst having a enema and being fucked relentlessly to a massive orgasm..

It takes a lot of work and yourself and partner need to be sexually and emotionally intelligent to have a really satisfiying sex life and I can only think it is the lack of these skills that means thousands of people comment on here about poor sex and not beng satisfied by their partner..

I thank my luck stars I am with someone that is very sexually talented and that I have opened my mind to possible sexual adventures..

 

I would say you were blessed more then lucky to have found that person, also I couldn't agree more that intelligence has the potential for mush more if we choose to use it for the good of another in a sexual way.

 

I strongly agree. But can you suggest some techniques for learning the relevant skills of which you wrote? Personally, I have found that there is no 'one technique fits all' panacea. Every woman is brought to a strong orgasm or orgasms in different ways and requiring different techniques. The only thing that stays the same for each woman is the need to learn from her what arouses and excites her the most. Talk with her about her needs and pay close attention to what she says. Unfortunately, not all women are at ease discussing their sexual needs as much of human society does not feel that women should openly control their own sexuality.

 

Re your comment!

Not at all Milo my offer of help was out of genuine concern to be of assistance Learning can be found in the most unexpected of places.

Enjoy the turkey and the holidays!

Thinskin

 

As you said there is no one size fits all technique, but to call yourself an informed lover all should read "The Joy of Sex" and "Sexual Energy Ecstasy." Lets face it most of us have sex so serendipitous that we never really take the time to learn in a more academic way based on years of research and practices that are time proven when viewing our approach to the subject.

 

I'm not sure I've ever had a sex partner who was really well-developed in terms of sexual acts in general. Then again, I'm of the "pound me as hard as you can" school of fucking. It doesn't require finesse.

Personally, I would consider myself a journeyman of blowjobs - not a master or artist, but I keep getting better at it, and I love it. I have a lot of different techniques, strong lips and tongue, and can deep throat. I got a great compliment last night: "I've had over a hundred girls give me blowjobs, and you're edging out the top 10." (And this is only the third time we've been together! Challenge accepted...)

 

Best of luck besting the challenge placed on you! Having been introduced real early to sex and the written word on it set in motion the ideal consort being one I could swoon and then lay back and ravage her body. Explore every fantasy or fetish she ever had and if it was her wish to be pounded, then pounding it would be! My sexual style is a reserved enthusiasm till I know the woman better with no false fronts only genuine interest.

 

Now hold on One could argue that all that's really needed for truly great love making is chemistry and desire. With those elements other obstacles like lack of experience and rhythm even knowledge can be overcome . Now I guess the counter would be time can make theses attributes wane but time also brings experience. So I guess what I'm saying is nothing can compare to natural born ability I've had a lot of partners and I'll tell ya some people practice some people refine their technique and then there are those who were born to fuck so to speak

 

"WE MUST ADMIT THAT SEX/MAKING LOVE REQUIRES A SKILL SET, NOT UNLIKE ART?"

Totally agree in terms of creativity and open mindedness! Also, I would suggest, like any art form practice will help with the quality of the end product.