For some reason this year I have all of the sudden had multiple situations where I have had opportunities to cheat I'm not sure why this year has been like this so much. I haven't pursued any of them but must say I'm definitely flattered and it makes me feel good. So the latest one was last night-

I was a my HS reunion and it was getting near the end. One of the females asked me if I could do her a big favor and walk her to her car so she was safe. I told her I would so a few minutes later I asked her if she was ready to leave and we left the building to walk across the street to her car. There were only a few cars in that lot.(most people parked in a lot behind the building as I had. So her car is behind a large SUV. As we step off the curb to walk across the street so links her arm in mine. We cross and go behind the SUV to her car and she hugs me what I thought was a good bye hug. She keeps her arms around me and says, "I'm so glad you came. I was hoping you would be here tonight." Then after a small conversation she pulls me tight and passionately kisses me. Yes, I probably should have pulled back. She then says, " I know, I'm the one being naughty." I just can't hep myself then she kisses me aggressively again. She tells me not to be a stranger and says, "Let me know if you need anything." Asks me if she can have one more hug so I say OK. She hugs me real tight lifts her head up starts kissing me more. At this point the shock wears off and I gently pull away. She says " I guess we better go now." I say yes and say good bye and cross the street to go to my car. All the way back to my car and most of the way home I keep asking myself, "Whar just happened?"

Would you tell your spouse or just let it fade into oblivion ?

 

Let it fade. Make sure you wash up good to get any traces of perfume or lipstick off.

 

You might want to avoid that woman in the future.
Once is happenstance. Twice is coincidence. Three times, it's enemy action.

 

Just let it pass, enjoy the moment, and think about in your alone time. Make sure you wash up good to get any traces of perfume or lipstick off your clothing etc.
If you tell her, no matter how innocent you were in the heat of a disagreement it will be thrown back at you. Women and elephants never forget. Been there done that.
Beaver.

 

Let it go, but try to avoid that kind of situation in future.

 

I'd let it fade into Oblivion. You won't get any credit for the walking away part.

 

If your spouse is even remotely jealous just let it go. Jealousy is not an open emotion. It is pretty crazy . If you have no interest in pursuing her just let her go and use the incident for fantasy.

 

Trying to explain how you ended up in that situation is going to be complicated and likely end up a little messy. Unless there is any chance of your partner finding out what happened behind the SUV then I would keep quiet and let it fade as you say

 

Let it pass

 

Roll reverse and its sexual assualt ...... No I would not say anything as what good will come from it and why does she need to know?, if you was the one going after it and you feel guilty in the morning different story but why rock a boat..

I was actually in a similar situation only a few weeks ago, a women I work with who I can only assume is use to getting her own way with men was far to touchy feely in the back of a work car for my liking, I couldnt be more clear I had no interest and she is now in full bunny boiler mode whenever I see her ..

This song comes to mind for her... Maybe the case in your situation??..

 

Thanks for all your responses. I will follow the advice. I think your right.

 

I tell my wife everything.....and I do mean EVERYTHING! It's part of the reason we have been married for 33 years. NO SECRETS in our marriage!

 

Depends on what "telling" means.

Repeating that exact story? FUCK no.

Saying "Another woman wanted to fuck me but I didn't"? That could actually go over well with some women.

Overall, FUCK no would be my advice.

 

Let's role reverse, your wife attends her HS reunion and while standing by another man's vehicle he takes her in his arms and gives her a passionate aggressive kiss . She knows she should stop it but doesn't the first or second time, but during the 3rd kiss walks away. How do you feel ? Would you want her to keep that from you?

Maybe it's just me but I can be forgiving if not lied too (yes I consider hidden secrets a form of lying) if it pops up years down the road I wouldn't be near as forgiving about it.
Although I would be real careful about your words.

 

Face it, if man was as aggressive as she was with me, he would probably have been charged and put on a list.

 

Just throw it to the highlight reel and do not tell.

While I agree that trust is in any relationship my wife agrees she does not need to know everything. She does not need to know how I trim my asshole hairs.

 

If that had happened to me first off I would have told the gal..."Wow, I never knew you were a lesbian." Next thing I would say is "this is great, now I wish I had gone to school here." The last thing I would have said is "whoa, wtf?! Who do you think I am, Jhnthis?!"

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