So... I downloaded grindr and had my first "nsa" experience....As an inexperienced Bi guy. (I feel like I want and actively pursue a relationship with guys and girls and have had some sexual experience with both but not actual sex yet) And I don't know what to think honestly. I mean, It wasn't horrible, it was nice but it made me think.. It was a slightly opposite with my first fwb, where he made me realize like guys, where as this guy made me think if i actually like guys. I try not to worry about sexuality anymore. I like both girls and guys. I met up with this guy who, in his pictures, looked moderately attractive. But meeting him in person, he was a little bigger than I had hoped but more or less looked the same. not enough to change my mind. all we agreed to was for him to give me a Bj, and cuddling, I found it odd he wanted to cuddle for nsa but as long as he did a good job blowing me, I wouldn't mind. The whole experience was.. awkward. he could tell I was uncomfortable, I'd fold my arms, shake my leg/foot, and giggle at random moment. But he was understanding. The blow job was great. It took a while, and he cuddled with me and asked if it was cool if he could take his clothes off and i said sure, he cuddled all over me. i wasn't weirded out by the fact that he was on me. it didn't really phase me so i at least i know im good with guys being naked near me. it was just odd that he wanted that when I really don't feel emotional attachment toward him besides being cool and understanding. It started feeling odd at the end when he asked for a kiss. I told him that i wouldnt be into it, but would do a quick, normal kiss, but he asked for a little more tongue. but i just couldn't do it, so he said its okay if I didn't want but he was sad. but he'd hold/rub my hand when we headed back to drop me off at my place. It felt like it was very relationshipy for me and i didn't want that, at least not with him. It feels weird cuddling and kissing with basically a stranger I just wanted a BJ, but I guess that's no different. I just feel kissing and cuddling is something to do with someone you like and have known for at least a month or so, that was the biggest uncomfort for me. but it was a hook up app, so i can't complain. and now it's got me worried if it will be like this with other guys. I found another guy I actually like and set up a date back at my hometown ( I was away on vacation) and am attempting an emotional relationship, unlike with the grindr guy, and I'm worried if I'll neglect kissing or feel awkward with him like I did with this guy, I find him more attractive and relatable than grindr guy. I've been with one other guy experimentally and I would be fine kissing him and definitely cuddling him because I actually felt something towards him so i guess im okay? Maybe I was just unattracted to the grindr guy, maybe things just went a little too fast, or just in a direction i wasn't looking for. I just wanted a BJ. I don't regret the experience, I just hope how i felt isn't a recurring feeling, even with guys I wanna be with.

 

That is one complicated situation. Sounds like you are open to the cuddling/kissing so that's cool if you are open to it. My first thought is, don't ever feel like you MUST do something or anything. The interaction should be great fun, awkward is not what you'd like I'm sure.

I couldn't see myself cuddling/kissing another guy. I would love to suck cock and receive a blow job, nothing more. Sounds like you might be a bit more bi than I am and that's great. My thought is that more communication between you and your "partner" so that you both know what is comfortable and what is expected/tolerated. If you are more interested in an emotional relationship with someone, that would certainly mean more intimate contact, ie, cuddling, kissing, sweet talk.

Hope you find your way and can have great fun.

 

I've met a guy on Grindr and I sucked his dick and he sucked mine then after that we went our separate ways

 

I'm not only looking for emotional relationships, I use grindr just for hook ups when I want to satisfy urges. Grindr guy isn't someone I wanted to be emotionally connected with, so i felt no need to communicate besides saying what I want, doing it and being done with it. My problem here is that im not sure if im cool/open with kissing and cuddling. maybe if the person is attractive enough and im attached enough, sure. I may be more inclined but the grindr experience made me realize how unsure i still am about being bi. but generally, I think I'm OK, if the guy i meet, meets my standards. As i've said, I need to have an emotional connection with them to desire to kiss and cuddle without questioning it.

 

That's how I expected my encounter, but there was a lot more involved, it felt like the guy wanted a relationship. as he said, he wanted me, a virgin to take his virginity, despite only knowing him for a couple days. the way he cuddled and caressed made me feel like i wasn't getting what i wanted, which was completely NSA.

 

I only met that guy like an hour before so we didn't real have a chance to talk or cuddle or anything. But I understand where you're coming from though

 

if I was gonna do that again I would wanna get to know the guy before and then plan what was gonna go down

 

And I still have a grindr account

 

Don't over analyze it. If you both comfortable Tho if you are seeking any kind of friendship I would advise non sexual encounters as well now and then

 

I see, i was only visiting the area, so establishing a connection wasn't my goal, we talked for abut 4 or 5 days, mostly talking about stuff as friends. I do feel that dislike in kissing him was because i didn't like him nor was I sexually attracted. I mean he was a cool guy but he was 5 years older, a bit larger and was somewhat hairy. I dunno, I can't kiss hairy guys.