Based off an interesting conversation I had in another thread, I thought I'd speak up as I've noticed for years an inherent bias against the act of simply sharing "turn offs" when it doesn't fit the narrative of others. While the turn offs can sometimes be along racial lines, body types, modifications, sexual acts and even preferences in sexual imagination (such as adult incest.)

While I may not agree with these preferences it would seem better to discuss them in a mature manner then express disgust and be taken as ad hominem attacks on any one person who shares these characteristics. If I told you that I only liked big natural tits how others might like big dicks, I being of a moderately sized cock am not offended as it's your preference. Just as valid if a guy or girl has fantasies or realities of fucking around with adult family members not through rape or coercion who am I to judge.

It is in a place like XNXX where you'd share these feelings, where you should expect to see more open minds and candid discussions rather then triggering and shaming for opposing views. Maybe this is how we teach or learn something new without being so thin skinned as the public might be given a forum that we all want to share in an adult way and not take things so personal? Just a thought............................

 

Nobody on the forum cares to hear what I don't like.

 

I think if you post a thread pertaining to any given subject it is therefore up for ridicule. Personally if a certain thread doesn't strike my intrest i will probably reframe from ever leaving a comment...unless i just don't like the person or i wanna be a dickhead...sometimes its others lack of a sense of humor that usually triggers the asshole in me. But then again I'm not looking for advice for i already know every GODDAMN thing! And if by chance i did need advice i sure the fuck wouldn't ask @Hush her fucking responses are too long drawn out and just plain boring. But i would titty fuck the old hag!!

 

Welcome to America. The idea of acceptance has been taken to such an extreme that it's become bigotry. Now, even the dumbest things (like the mentioned turn-offs) "offend" people and are an considered an "attack".

Seriously, how do avoid a girl's turn-offs if she doesn't tell me what they are? Not all of them are obvious.

 

"Just as valid if a guy or girl has fantasies or realities of fucking around with adult family members not through rape or coercion who am I to judge". But would you judge if those fantasies or realities were of fucking around with underage family members , and was through rape and, or coercion? You can say you don't approve, but how can you say you wouldn't judge? Fantasy is fantasy, but realities are not. We all judge, it's human nature. We've judged each other in the past. There's no discussing fucked up things in a adult manner, you don't have to judge, just tell them their fucking sick, touched in the head, a sick fuck, but don't ever judge.

 

Of course I would condone it, but I clearly stated adults which for me means an equal balance of responsibility in a bad idea aware of repercussions?

I show my disapproval when I skip the post, if a related guy and girl are already banging there's nothing but there choice that can stop them.

And for all the frustration of arguing a point of how sick they are, I'd do better to ignore them and burn out the thread?

 

Well, for instance, she likes foot play. It isn't a turn off or on for me. I like black guys. She doesn't for herself but likes me being with them. It isnt necessarily a turn off or on thing with us just a what we can deal with while being with each other alone thing. That is why we reached the conclusion to allow each other a bit of freedom as long as at the end of the day we are happy and cuddle.

 

Sex is sex. Emotion is entirely different. If you can learn to seperate and appreciate both of them together you can lead a happy life.

 

Fuck i may make that my new signature.

 

Then how is this the place to teach and learn if people only discuss what they think, or feel is right? Adults don't show their disapproval by ignoring or by running away from topics, and issues they disapprove of, they get involved and show their disapproval, and give their reasons why, that's teaching and how people learn, hearing the positives and negatives. Having an adult discussion isn't just about discussing topics we like, feel knowledgeable about, that's a book club. Like you said this is the place to ask, question, voice your options and views and to tell a few stupid jokes to lighten up the mood. The joke thing I said.

 

Well people may give different opinions or views and even be biased, but i for one would like to believe the person looking for answers has the ability to sort through them and choose to agree or disagree with one or none or pieces of all of them integrated into their own thought structure

 

Ignoring and running away are completely separate and I didn't imply running away, but ignoring of course works in this forum otherwise you answer and push them up the top of the list. Think about it this way would you waste your time to send a reply to a chain letter or a candidate you didn't agree with, no you take those messages and throw them in the trash ignoring them! Just saying.............

 

On the bright side of things there is still plenty of cake left

 

Milos I agree with you on most of these accounts, really I don't see anything totally wrong with this particular opinion of yours at all. Just as we have things we enjoy, we have things we dislike. If you don't like something and don't share it, then someone may accidentally cross a boundary they don't know about and hurt you, or vice versa. We have preferences for or against things too. But it can also be said that sharing and discussing both our preferences and dislikes can in fact open up a broadening of our horizons. There are some things a few years ago I wouldn't have liked or tried if not I talked to someone about why they liked it, saw some appeal in their reasoning, and decided to try it on my own. Sometimes I was right in my distaste, sometimes I wasn't and changed my mind with new experience or perspective. Cutting off dialogue cuts off personal growth and the sharing of knowledge. Lastly, I agree as well about some people taking offense to being labelled as part of a "disliked group." If you're interested in a person, and they don't like a certain quality generally speaking, it may apply to you, or it may not. And if it does apply to you, then great, you saved both of you some time, so you can both find people who fit your preferences. I'm a big guy, and even at a healthy weight I will also be big, it's how I was born. Some girls don't like guys who are way taller than them, some girls absolutely love it. So find someone who does, and let the people who don't find people they do like. No skin off my back, no harm done, and more people are happy in the end.

 

well said...

 

@HylianAlchemist you have a gift that i envy. Disagreeing in a none confrontational way. I often come off as this major dickhead when voicing my opinion...but i also blame the fucktards that don't get it...

 

My first philosophy professor, and I'd say is one of the biggest reasons I'm working on being one now, always said that everyone looks at the world with a different lens. Different zooms, different lens colors, all based on how they were raised and how they allow themselves to think. I firmly agree with this, and the only way to have a good look at the overall picture is to learn how as many other people view the world through their own lens, so I can add what they see to what I can see. Some people have wide lenses, but ignore the fine points of it. Others too zoomed in, and miss the big picture. Just gotta know what your lens sees, and work on developing the best kind to see the world as best as possible. Not everyone gets that, and that's alright. That's their lens, and only they can change that. Do I get frustrated, absofuckinglutely lol especially on some things more than others, but it's all just a lens.