So, my husband became aware of the fact that I was cheating. Nothing emotional - only for selfish reasons to get what I wasn't getting. He is traumatized...will only sleep on the couch, arg. Any advice?

 

I know...he's not really open to discussing anything right now except for calling me a whore lol. I know I need to tell him that the reason I did what I did was bc I wasn't getting it here. He just hides in the bathroom with the light off. I have a feeling he is now aware of his lack of attentiveness.

 

If he really loves you then he will come around to his senses and talk with you. I'm a male but same thing happened with my wife. I cheated for awhile cause we were not being very attentive to each other since she was paying attention more to her phone. At first she wanted to leave but then after long talking with her she realized that I had fucked up but she somewhat pushed me away as well. We ended up working it out and are on 8 years of marriage. Now we are in an open relationship as well. Not like anything goes but we just decide that someone is ok and then we either swap partners or it's a threesome with one of another sex. Love will trump all if it's real.

 

My first marriage lasted 20 yrs - and i had a handful of brief affairs. Always coming back to my husband because he wanted me, and fought for it (not physically) because he realized the "neglect". And not that i want that but this guys hiding in the bathroom and stuff. (and not to validate my cheating but he has not licked my pussy for almost a year, i give a bj anytime and any sex has lasted less than 2 minutes, for real :/ )

 

This is all good and well, but why is it in the Stories Section?

 

Well I can't blame you for your choices in reality that's more or less what drove me to my decisions.

 

Or maybe it's just bullshit.

 

Don't blame yourself, marriage is not a prison you have to enjoy it and support each other mutually emotionally, sexually, financially , it's a give and take, so when you don't get what you need so ask, if it doesn't work stop this fucked up relationship and another guy having pleasure of eating your pussy and asshole and pound both your holes and make you moan and happy that is the definition of useful relationship.
Good luck and big kisses

 

Beats me...

 

Ok...but he's got me trapped lol

 

Shit Nicole! And I was getting closer to finally getting a taste of your sinful pussy! Or do you plan on still playing around?

 

Trapped = basically a housewife less children. So, noneof my own money, everything is in his name, no family, etc.

 

I know - it just will take some time & i dont want to lose my pets

 

Don't give up bb, we all with you, you're not alone, go beat that motherfucker's ass and get your share. You're my girl

 

Thank you so much

 

It is too bad that he can't see that it is his lack of attention that lead you to being unfaithful. My wife and i have a little different situation. My job has always been on the road and she traveled with me until the last 6 years or so when the grandkids came along. Since that time she has stayed at home. that coupled with the fact that I can only eat her pussy and finger her to do medical complications has lead to her not being properly fucked for even more years. She always had fantasies of being with other men and women but always put it on hold due to the kids and her strict upbringing. About 3 years ago she met a couple of bisexual girls and started to fool around with them. She was upfront with me about it and i gave her my blessing. About a year and a half ago I knew she was wanting more because she was going to the bars and dancing and rubbing against the guys to feel their dicks against her and letting them play with her titties. She was always honest with me and upfront about doing it. I didn't mind and started to encourage her to do more. It took time because of the way she was raised, but she got to where she and her friends were bringing guys back to a motel room and playing with them. The other girls would fuck them and my wife would jack them off and blow them. She wouldn't go any farther because I said that I didn't want her to. I finally told her it was okay if she wanted to fuck other guys but she said she wouldn't. I told her that if she ever got a hard dick in her pussy again that she wouldn't be able to stop. She has always loved sex and I was the only man she had ever been with. One night she and a friend and her husband were together and she almost fucked him. She stopped when his dick touched her pussy. After she told me about it, i asked her if she liked the feel of it on her pussy and she said "Yes." I said that she needed to ga\o ahead and fuck him. The next weekend, she did and she hasn't stopped yet. In fact, this weekend so far her and six of her friends went to the bar on Friday where she sucked off 7 guys and they each took a guy to the room where she sucked and fucked 5 of them. Last night they invited 3 other girls and 8 guys to the room for a party and she sucked and fucked all 8 of them.

So even though our story is different then yours to some degree, he needs to quit hiding, come to the realization that it is his neglect and either start taking care of you or if he doesn't want to let you go, let you go take care of your needs with his blessing. It was hard for me to do but I had to do it before she did. It was coming and I realized that it was just a matter of time that she would with or without my blessing no matter how much she denied that she ever would.

This is just our story and my thoughts about your situation.

 

You have my sympathies ,
But.
I do have to wonder ,
why , being an apparent habitual cheater , you married a second time , to a man who is not into sharing you ?

If you're not a faithful one man woman , why marry a one woman man ?

It just don't make sense to me.

For security ?
Well if that was it , that was totally unfair . The price for that security under those circumstances ,
Fidelity.

 

I in no way anticipated being a cheater, again. Things were great for about 6 months and he got content, he got what he wanted - an attractive, younger woman. And that was it. It was fine for him to lay on his back and get a bj (which i love doing) but i rarely get the favor returned. Then he would get angry if i complained. Wtf was i supposed to do?

 

Well he is hurt. Everyone is different in how they react and deal with things like this. Your have to talk with him and see what he wants and if you both are going to stay together.