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    I guess I'm looking to the women of XNXX for a little advice. I'm a virgin and enrolled in my first few years of college. I really want to lose my virginity, and I have two ideal situations in mind:

    1. With a sexually experienced guy that I trust, but am not necessarily romantically interested in.
    2. With a boyfriend who (regardless of sexual experience) I care about.

    So. Any advice on making this happen? I don't want to go up to guys and be like, "Hey. I'm a virgin. Do me?" Are there more tactful ways of getting some in those contexts?

    I also worry about just making out with random guys. Will they think I'm leading them on if I'm not interested in one night stands? I'm also inexperienced with oral sex. Would most guys be really shocked that I've never given head?

    As you can tell, I'm a very sexual girl. I always have been. I've just never had sex. I'd love your advice!
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    personally i chose option 1. I just asked one of my friends strait out if he could "teach me how to have really good sex" looking back i don't know which was more funny the shock on his face or the color of mine. but the point is he knew me and i knew him and how he would treat me.
    just tell them straight out that you aren't into one night stands if they can't or won't respect that they don't respect you
    as for oral its been my experience that guys are more amazed if you haven't recieved...sex is a go at your own pace kinda thing also better to find a guy that moves too slow then a guy that moves too fast
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    First I'd like to say, congrats to you for being ready for this step.

    I would be in the same boat as you, except that recently I did lose my virginity. It was a horribly sad way to lose one's virginity considering I didn't have any sex. It was just in for a little while. And honestly the guy is an asshole and rejected me. So, since then I haven't tried it again. A bit of a sore spot.

    Anyways, If you're feeling some impatience to get this done option two might be difficult to achieve.
    Unless you've already met a man who you care for and who in return cares for you, that can take time. But I think it would be worth the time and effort.

    But if you do go with option one, definitely make it clear that you don't want a one night stand. I should have done the same. Also, be careful about any emotional attachment you will innevitably harbor for the man who you lose your virginity too. And just be safe about it, of corse.

    Good luck! I hope your first time is better than mine was, tenfold.
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    Quote Originally Posted by zefaft21 View Post
    I guess I'm looking to the women of XNXX for a little advice. I'm a virgin and enrolled in my first few years of college. I really want to lose my virginity, and I have two ideal situations in mind:

    1. With a sexually experienced guy that I trust, but am not necessarily romantically interested in.
    2. With a boyfriend who (regardless of sexual experience) I care about.

    So. Any advice on making this happen? I don't want to go up to guys and be like, "Hey. I'm a virgin. Do me?" Are there more tactful ways of getting some in those contexts?

    I also worry about just making out with random guys. Will they think I'm leading them on if I'm not interested in one night stands? I'm also inexperienced with oral sex. Would most guys be really shocked that I've never given head?

    As you can tell, I'm a very sexual girl. I always have been. I've just never had sex. I'd love your advice!
    Maybe you should have a contest.

    Just anounce in the school paper or somewhere that you're a virgin, that you want to make a permanent change in your status, and that you're taking applications. State your criteria clearly.

    As far as oral sex goes, why not start there? Ask a guy you know and like to teach you how. Trust me, he'll be happy do comply. And that way you can kind of ease into the main event, as you feel more comfortable.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kimiko View Post
    Maybe you should have a contest.

    Just anounce in the school paper or somewhere that you're a virgin, that you want to make a permanent change in your status, and that you're taking applications. State your criteria clearly.

    As far as oral sex goes, why not start there? Ask a guy you know and like to teach you how. Trust me, he'll be happy do comply. And that way you can kind of ease into the main event, as you feel more comfortable.
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    What school are you in? I am an experienced guy that you do not have to be emotionally attached to...
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    My neighbor in high school asked if she could practice giving head on me. I think she was a little buzzed when she asked but who am I to refuse such a request. She sucked on me for 2 weeks, after school until she perfected her skills. I don't know any guy that would turn down a BJ.
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    Go with the second option...
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    No contest, you must pick no.2
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    Don't pick either, because it will only put pressure on you to follow through with it. If it doesn't feel right don't do it. Also you have to remember that its more than likely not going to be "special" like in the movies. Like the majority of people here, my first was horrible with the wrong person. Well done for not making that mistake (yet). Its like everything, first time it might be a little awkward, but the more you do it the more you'll get to enjoy it and find out whats the right way for you.
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    got to a frat party and get drunk out of your mind
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    Yeah get drunk, then you won't have to remember cause we can send you the link! Hee Hee
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    Of the two choices I'd say #1, you'll gain knowledge at a faster learning curve, but if you choose a boyfriend you are close to and it turns to marriage(does happen), you may regreat the singularity of partner at some point, may develope that "grass being greener on the other side of the hill" syndrome. I'll be a one night "sugar daddy" if you like.
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    Thanks for all the replies, I really appreciate the advice!
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    Another option may be to hire a male escort/gigolo. No ties, no misleading, just a nominal fee for sex.
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    Quote Originally Posted by zefaft21 View Post
    I guess I'm looking to the women of XNXX for a little advice. I'm a virgin and enrolled in my first few years of college. I really want to lose my virginity, and I have two ideal situations in mind:

    1. With a sexually experienced guy that I trust, but am not necessarily romantically interested in.
    2. With a boyfriend who (regardless of sexual experience) I care about.

    So. Any advice on making this happen? I don't want to go up to guys and be like, "Hey. I'm a virgin. Do me?" Are there more tactful ways of getting some in those contexts?

    I also worry about just making out with random guys. Will they think I'm leading them on if I'm not interested in one night stands? I'm also inexperienced with oral sex. Would most guys be really shocked that I've never given head?

    As you can tell, I'm a very sexual girl. I always have been. I've just never had sex. I'd love your advice!
    It's very refreshing to see someone that is taking the time to consider what to do. So many rush than then regret.

    I think that option 1 is more common at university (especially in the first few weeks) but option 2 is far more memorable and heart warming.

    There are lots chances for sex at uni. Going out or hanging out with a group of people might be your best chance for either. Will give people a chance to see you looking good (assuming you take care for your appearance when you go out!) and also the chance to get to know you and flirt.

    What I would say to you is; dont go in with a game plan. Relax, enjoy the experience and let things happen. Being pushy or desperate isnt fun for either party. Enjoy the flirtations and anticipations.
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    take ur time u will know when ur ready
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    I'd go with option 2. If you go with #1 there could always be the risk of you feeling like you got used and that you loseing it wasnt special. With #2, being with someone you like and actually likes you can make your 1st time a lot better. Just my 2 cents
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    2. It will be far more special in the long run

    besides who is to say the guy you find for #1 will be any good? What your going to take his word for it?

    and you can always get the special training of an expert later.
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    I'd say none of the above.

    A better way may be, if you have a good male friend who's also a virgin. Talk to him about it, and then go to bed with him after discussing it and coming to the understanding between each other that neither of you knows what your doing and you're getting together to start learning. Have the understanding that your first time together WON'T be good and because of that neither of you should have any expectations of "performance" from the other; and you'll continue with each other until you're both comfortable and confident in the act of sex.

    It may not be "fun" or "romantic" it is by far the safest option.
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    you are way too late. honelty
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