It seems to me that lots of men want and like women, including married ones, to dress provocatively and act sexy, and even admire them for doing so, but don't want our own wives to do the same. What are we afraid of?
Men will fool around on their wives and rationalize it, but go through the roof when they find out their own wife flirts or kisses another man. God forbid that she fuck another guy.
I went through the agony and pain that jealousy brings years ago, and with her help came to accept her slutty side along with the rest of her. It is 30 years later and we are still happily married and have an abundance of memories that we can share and enjoy in bed.