So I have been married to my wife for a little over a year now and we have a open relationship. I have noticed she enjoys having Fast, Hard, sex with hairpulling, But she can't do the fast and hard with me because My dick it too big for her to handle. When we first started having sex she made comments about me being "larger than average", but I just blew that off to her trying to boost my ego. Recently one of the guys she slept with was around 5inches. When I found that out I almost laughed, I personally am close to 9 inches if I havn't had sex in 24 hours, If I have it usually stays around 7 3/4 to 8 1/2.
My question is, Is there any way I can do the fast hard and deep with my wife, Or am I doomed to have slow shallow sex for the rest of my life with her? Or does anyone know how to keep a penis from growing to its full length with still being hard enough to fuck?