Why did you cheat?

[1t2meetu]

I'm new to the forum and having a good time reading some of this stuff. The stories are pretty cool, and I'm actually learning stuff I didn't know before. Also, being new I did a search but couldn't find this specific thread. How many married cheaters are out there, and why did you cheat in the first place? I'd be happy to go first.......10 years ago my wife turned celebate (I'm guessing it's a weight issue..."I'm not pretty anymore"). For all my efforts, she calls me silly when I propose an adventure and walks away. She is not having an affair, I thought of that and ruled it out. I got really frustrated and stumbled upon a woman who was interested in me and we have a pretty good thing going. She doesn't want anything more than a fuckbuddy, and neither do I. Since then, I've come across four other women who are not happy in the bedroom but they have not yet committed to being a fuckbuddy......marriage vows or other bullshit. Anyway, that's my question.

[Faulkner1993]

my ex gf cheated on me, i took her back and then proceeded to serially cheat on her. She didn't deserve my fidelity

[axsiter]

All three of my Ex wives cheated on me. I spent 26 years in The U.S. Army. They all had so many opportunities to cheat due to some family separations I had to endure. As soon as I learned they had cheated, I cheated.

[swingerguy95621]

if you don't keep your partner happy, they WILL go somewhere else for it.

Women who lose their sex drive or never had it, are stupid if they think they can just swear off sex all together and expect a man to do the same. They're selfish.

[aztec161]

Originally Posted by axsiter

All three of my Ex wives cheated on me. I spent 26 years in The U.S. Army. They all had so many opportunities to cheat due to some family separations I had to endure. As soon as I learned they had cheated, I cheated.

Three time? Holy Shit! I hope you learned your lesson, brother.

I've cheated once, and I did it because it was funand exciting! If i found another chick that was down, and one I trusted, I'd do it again.

[1t2meetu]

Since my first cheating adventure I've found other women whose husbands have lost interest. I was able to fling with one of them but she wanted more (me to divorce and marry her) and that couldn't happen. The other two want to but 1) respect their vows and 2) are afraid of getting caught, so they are out of the loop. Actually, I found a woman online who was 70 y/o and I fucked her one day and ate her pussy.......I never would have thought it, but she was really sweet. Would have gotten back with her, but it was a really really long drive.

[SweetHemiStud]

I've never cheated, and never had the thought to actually cheat. Now there is a grey area in that statement, occasionally I had the thought that maybe I should try cheating as it must be tremendous fun since I've been cheated on so many times. But besides that, nothing involving cheating. But recently I can't help but feel slightly guilty about this new thing I am doing...I don't see it as cheating, but I don't see it as perfectly harmless either...however, I have decided to myself that if my wife asks me if I have been chatting online with a woman that I have A LOT in common with and have VERY enjoyable conversations with, etc...then I will respond with the truth. The bad part of it all is how it erks me a little that I have been driven so long and far away, to this point where I am flirting with the line of cheating...So I've basically decided it is a means to an end. Somehow this someone I have been chatting with online, just from seeing our compatibility has helped me work up the courage to get out of this marriage/relationship that has been making me miserable for 7 yrs, that I only stayed in because of how much I'd end up losing by leaving...it's been brought to my attention to think of how much I'd gain, not lose...and the someone I've been chatting with makes me see that very clearly. But regardless of what becomes with this "chat buddy" (for lack of a better term), I will be divorced before I act much further to the possibility of cheating.

[SilverLycan]

I cheat all the time so I don't run out of ammo, or so I'm invulnerable. Heck, sometimes I cheat just so I can enjoy the story without having to worry about gathering resources and the like.

[Diatravire]

I cheat on my girlfriend. She doesn't make enough effort to be pretty for me. i work out, groom, shave, and wash. She just lies on her back, wants me to eat her out, but doesn't even wash, will try and kiss me after eating food. She thinks I'm out of order for telling her to brush her teeth before kissing me, just because her sisters boyfriend doesn't mind kissing her sister after she's eaten.

It's your duty as a boyfriend or girlfriend to make the effort to make yourself look sexy. When I'm having sex I'm always concious of what I look like at any given moment, I always try to perform for my partner. She doesn't do the same for me, so i have no qualms cheating on her.

[goldenman888]

And I'm guessing it's a very common situation. Happily married to a woman that I love, with a great family, but she stopped being interested in sex many, many years ago. We have sex (usually fairly one sided), maybe 4-5 times a year, with a few unenthusiastic, half-asleep handjobs in between. Over the years I have cheated a few times, been caught once.

The reality is that masturbation only works as a release when you are not frustrated and have your wits about you. Men can't turn it off. It's as simple as that, and any woman (including my wife) that thinks they can is fooling themselves. For me, if I am away, or drunk, the temptation is always there. It's frankly fed by frustration, anger, and the desire for a bit of spark in my life.

The last time it happened, I was at a dive bar while my wife was away, and simply ended up making out with a bar fly. The kind of person I would n't even look at sober, but it was awesome at the time.

It's really important to feel physically desired. It's very basic to the male psyche.

[Milo Cronos]

It always starts with one partner which may be selfish or feel alienated in the relationship, just as much as men are usually to blame when a woman goes to another man so, too is it his fault when he seeks solace in another woman (by the public at large standards) we feel sorry for the woman because it's acceptable to believe that all men are fucking dogs who'll fuck anything on two legs, I was and never will be Dangling Dick Vicious! A man who's motivation was to bed as many women as possible, the women in my family left a slew of bad men and fucked up relationships so, I prided myself that I would never be more than a one woman man (if I could find the right woman and I did!) It was the several women over 15 years who were always fully aware of my wife and /or children and that they had a spot on my dick and not in my heart from the beginning to end of each relationship! When small signs of being too busy, tired or any discomfort began with my wife, I always did the best I could to make changes in my schedule or daily routine to try and accommodate her needs? Massages for soreness, extra time for naps, dinner made, kids in bed and over and over it never seemed to be enough, what most people in a relationship of only two need to realize is she is the reason I feel like a man who is attractive and vital, turned away time and time again like we had a million years to catch up! When we stopped touching and talking all that's left was eating, sleeping, work than rinse and repeat, a year and a half of waiting for us to be married to be intimate (per her honor) didn't give me rights to getting more than I deserved just, that my feelings for her are very committed to fixing problems as they presented themselves and not putting them aside like sex, romance and time spent together didn't matter (which is how I felt) Like she had me so, why try hard to give me what I appreciated in the relationship I bent my world to accommodate stayed up till the early morning hours to greet her when I got in at two in the morning as a chef, when she got depressed after being out of work for almost two years I spent a whole year taking on every chore and child in the house, it was only when she was losing hope that I had to help her pull up her boot straps (I was getting scared and No, never cheated during that time!) The reason (at least in our case) Why I didn't leave her?, the problems were not unique or intolerable they needed to be given the TLC necessary to fix them and that's what she felt she was doing by giving me indiscretion permission but, it backfired when throwing me a bone just, made it easier to look for more bones when I needed them. So do I believe that cheating can fix a problem? (I'm not that stupid) it was harder but, in our case it finally made us face the truth and ask questions as to how it was going to end or continue, I had no problem putting other women aside once she realized that sex wasn't a throw away emotion and I had as much rights needing it as she had denying me? We will be married 26 years on August 2nd and together for 28 years in September 22nd. LOL, Milo

[1t2meetu]

Sweet Hemi Stud.......ever consider an adventure with your chat buddy to see if it is what you want? Could be the chat line is more erotic than the real thing.

[ThomP]

Originally Posted by Faulkner1993

my ex gf cheated on me, i took her back and then proceeded to serially cheat on her. She didn't deserve my fidelity

Lol. Good for you

Originally Posted by swingerguy95621

if you don't keep your partner happy, they WILL go somewhere else for it.

Women who lose their sex drive or never had it, are stupid if they think they can just swear off sex all together and expect a man to do the same. They're selfish.

Works the other way too. I can't imagine being in a relationship where I didn't want to engage in any sexual activities whatsoever... That's beyond belief!

[army wife]

My care was my husband remain fairly sexually conservative while I wanted to explore.

We both came from very religious and conservative back grounds, at university I allowed myself to explore he stayed as he was.

We get along fine, no marital issues, finacially sound etc etc I just find sexual satisfaction both in and out of my bedroom thats all.

[SweetHemiStud]

Originally Posted by 1t2meetu

Sweet Hemi Stud.......ever consider an adventure with your chat buddy to see if it is what you want? Could be the chat line is more erotic than the real thing.

Well, I don't think it's quite to that point yet. Yes, the thought crossed my mind in passing, but I;m never one to rush anything; because it may turn into something more, but I'm also willing to accept the fact if it arises that way as well that it may end up being something less. And our chat hasn't got into the erotic stage yet either, it's still the "getting to know you" stage. I realize the getting to know you thing isn't totally necessary for online fun, but a couple random things were mentioned and we found that we seemed pretty compaitible, so we kept the freindly chat going, and so far so good...if nothing else it makes me see that there are people out there that will be a good match for me, even if nothing pans out directly from it.

Thanks for the advice though, at this point I could use all I can get.

[sissyboycindy]

I am a crossdresser and have been doing it since I was very young.Before I became a teenager I was woke up by a brother who told me about sucking cock,he described how to do it and how good it felt to do it and suddenly I wanted to suck his cock.He never told me to do it,never forced me,I just slid out of bed ans started sucking his cock and immediatly fell in love with a hard cock and wanted to suck a mans cock all the time so baddly.I was still wearring womens clothes but haddnt had sex with a man in a very long time so when I fell in love with her I supressed my feelings and desires for cock but they wouldnt remain forgotten and soon found their way back into my head and once again I was thinkig about how good it felt to have a man treating me like a girl ,letting me suck his cock and fucking my ass.We had started having problems before we got married and they didnt go away and we werent getting them resolved and my wife began with holding sex from me which was the only thing holding back my urges to dress feminine and have sex with a man like a female.Finallly it was more than I could handle and one day when me and my brother were at my house alone I am unsure who started it but I ended up on my knees with his hard cock in my mouth and I sucked his cock until he came in my mouth.After that I still tried to get my wife to make love to me like normal but was doing everything I could to get me and my brother alone somewhere so I could suck his cock and get fucked in my ass by him.Ne and my wife have since divorced and I have never told her about my sexlife with my brother,before,,during,,or after we were married

[chosuke]

Cheaters usually cheat because they are missing something with the partner they have if it is a closed relationship. Nothing more than that.