Why did you cheat?

[Norespect]

I would like to hear from anyone who ever cheat On there spouse or bf/gf. Why did you do it and with whom

[Milo Cronos]

I waited one and a half years to do the right thing by my virgin wife and we finally began making love,5-6 days a week sometimes twice a day (hindsight A Lot!) 6 months in she tells me were having too much sex as devastating as it was I figured we'll tap the brakes some? But, now every time we'd go to make love the postponements became more frequent in the way of headaches, backaches, too tired, too late in the day; I see a pattern emerging and I confront her with it and tell her we need to work out a reasonable schedule! After 2 months she allows me to go get laid which takes the pressure off of her for the moment (she's allowed 3 indiscretions) but, now she gets cocky and says while we're arguing, "Maybe I'll just hold out on you?" like giving me sex is doing me a favor I spoke up, "60 seconds after you were born with a pussy so, was another!" I held mistresses on and off for about the first 15 years of our marriage. I'd leave notes or motel slips in places they could be found and she'd be attentive for a few months after so, like Pavlov's dog if we had a problem I cheated and got caught intentionally! Surprisingly in the long run this worked out for us and she realized that attention to us was not an option, I felt bad that I'd hurt her but, never to this day will I apologize! I know too many men and women controlled by their lover's demands and I will never be a part of that, it's always been about giving each other the consideration earned in a committed relationship and respect is earned not, deserved! __________________

[Kougar4B]

after 15 years together, 10 married, about 2 years ago my husband and I had a huge fight on New Years Eve nonetheless, way to ring in the new year, and he drunkenly told me he didn't want to be with me any more and hadn't for a long time. So, I devised a separation agreement, and when he read it freaked out and said it wasn't what he wanted. For the last two years I've been slowly building a wall, I'm left to do everything, take care of the kids, the house, the money, work, him, the laundry etc etc etc you see where I'm going with this. When our HVAC and grinder pump systems blew within weeks of each other, he did nothing, I had to borrow money after our savings was zapped, I had to worry about it, I had to be the "man" and handle it all. That didn't help. My stress levels were out of control. I was depressed, sleepless, anxious and empty. He went about life skipping along because he didn't worry about any of it. I begged him to be more involved, screamed, cried....he would for a day or two and then back to the couch and tv he went. So, a couple months ago an old friend of mine from high school needed a ride to her family's beach house.....I needed a couple days away so off we went. Low and behold her younger brother was there. And although I have never had any intentions of ever stepping out on my husband, one thing led to another one drunken amazing, fun night.....and here we are. Still continuing, he lives a couple hours away but a couple weeks after our first encounter he came up to see his family which is where I live and we've taken every stolen moment we can together. He's leaving to go back home, and I'll miss him terribly! But we have our plans...... When romance, passion, respect and lust move out of a relationship, people go seeking. We have to feel wanted, appreciated, sexy and lust to feel whole as a human I think. And once all of that is gone from a relationship, I don't think it ever comes back. And that is my long winded explanation! haha!

[rlovett91]

i was in a 2 year relationship with a girl and we didnt have sex the whole time but with her other bfs she had sex pretty early. she said she didnt want that kind of relationship which was fine. but after 2 years she still didnt want to have sex. so i ended up having sex with a friend of mine. i look back and i think it was a huge mistake

[SweetHemiStud]

Originally Posted by Kougar4B

after 15 years together, 10 married, about 2 years ago my husband and I had a huge fight on New Years Eve nonetheless, way to ring in the new year, and he drunkenly told me he didn't want to be with me any more and hadn't for a long time. So, I devised a separation agreement, and when he read it freaked out and said it wasn't what he wanted. For the last two years I've been slowly building a wall, I'm left to do everything, take care of the kids, the house, the money, work, him, the laundry etc etc etc you see where I'm going with this. When our HVAC and grinder pump systems blew within weeks of each other, he did nothing, I had to borrow money after our savings was zapped, I had to worry about it, I had to be the "man" and handle it all. That didn't help. My stress levels were out of control. I was depressed, sleepless, anxious and empty. He went about life skipping along because he didn't worry about any of it. I begged him to be more involved, screamed, cried....he would for a day or two and then back to the couch and tv he went. So, a couple months ago an old friend of mine from high school needed a ride to her family's beach house.....I needed a couple days away so off we went. Low and behold her younger brother was there. And although I have never had any intentions of ever stepping out on my husband, one thing led to another one drunken amazing, fun night.....and here we are. Still continuing, he lives a couple hours away but a couple weeks after our first encounter he came up to see his family which is where I live and we've taken every stolen moment we can together. He's leaving to go back home, and I'll miss him terribly! But we have our plans...... When romance, passion, respect and lust move out of a relationship, people go seeking. We have to feel wanted, appreciated, sexy and lust to feel whole as a human I think. And once all of that is gone from a relationship, I don't think it ever comes back. And that is my long winded explanation! haha!

Wow, very similar to what I'd say, except the opposite in that I am the man, but take care of EVERYTHING including myself. And We've been together for 8 years and married 9 months. I never considered cheating ever in my life. After 6 years of minimal sex and neglect and total lack of passion, I was driven to seek a little more. So I started chatting with this really great girl online, not naughty chat or anything, just getting to know each other, had great intellectual conversations and everything. I was smart enough though to keep my tracks covered, knowing my wife wouldn't approve. I reactivated an old cell phone on a dormit business cell line I had that I still have to pay for cuz contract isn't up yet; so texts and calls wouldn't show on my regular phone. I slipped up once, I texted my cousin and casually mentioned a very little bit about this girl I was chatting with, and didn't think to delete the messages. My wife decided to go through my phone and saw those messages to my cousin about this girl; and doesn'nt feel there is any difference between enjoying conversation with someone who actually understands me and having this (or any) girl in the bed that my wife and I used to share. But apparently I am an absolute total prick for being driven in 6 yrs to enjoying talking to someone that makes me smile when we chat and actually sounds interested in listening to and understanding what I say, etc. BUT, it is totally fine that my wife neglected and ignored me for 6 yrs, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with going through my phone.