Sexual relationship with your ex???

[shitbag]

Has anyone here maintained a sexual relationship with their ex during the breakup? I'm looking for opinions from married members and advice on how they managed the situation.....

Actually I'm interested in advice and stories about couples and how they manage sex during a breakup when they are forced to live together and there are no other people involved.

Yes i'm currently living with my soon to be ex and I think it's gonna come up soon. We have a mutual friend who felt obliged to turn her back on her husband and lift up her nighty and let him use her during the last months of their marriage. They knew it was over but she let him use her as long as they lived together ( not through fear but a sense of duty).

[werelookingforathirdone]

we had sex before during and after our divorce actually never stopped haven sex we were divorced for 2 years and had sex for the whole time plus now we are remarried again so we still have sex

[Batterup!]

I don't know if I can give you any advice. All break ups are different.
My first wife and I maintained a sexual relationship during and after our divorce.
We didn't have kids together and just grew apart. We both wanted to go our separate ways. She wasn't the kind of women who would just sleep with anyone and she was obviously comfortable with me. If she was horny, she would stop by and visit me. Actually it was the best sex that we had, had together since we were dating.
The only way it happened is if she was the one who was horny. If I was and I tried, she shot me down.
After about a year she started dating another guy and it all came to an end. We're still friends but no sex anymore.

[NewtonInk]

Oh HELL NO!!

[cuckboy2011]

From someone who had a 5 year relationship with a girl and wanted to reamin "friends with benefits" for awhile after, please take my advice and believe it. Does it work? Yes. FOR A LITTLE BIT. Eventually feelings (jealousy, affection, love) find their way back in and it becomes 100x worse than whatever caused you to break up in the first place. Trust me.

[Druidoak]

Not only no, but hell fucking no!

[Milo Cronos]

There's always a reason why they are "The Ex!"

[crippleddonkeystyle]

Ive never had sex with my ex wife but she finds a way to fuck me just about every day of my life...

[NewtonInk]

Oh HELLTOTHEMUTHAFUCKINNO!!!!

[Draegus]

Originally Posted by Milo Cronos

There's always a reason why they are "The Ex!"

Exactly. Words of wisdom.

[Rixer]

I never saw my ex-wife again after we split. I couldn't tell you if she is alive or dead. A clean break is a healthy break..

[SecretSexyBlogger]

I've done it, and it has almost always worked out fine. I followed some pretty simple rules though.

Don't talk about the break up, don't talk behind their back, don't EVER ask a favour, don't let them buy me things, don't hang with their friends/family etc. The most important: don't stay over.

I kept things seriously simple, and I didn't argue with them. Even when something came up that could have been contentious, I didn't care enough to argue.

If my feelings started to climb, I stepped back from their friendship. I had absolute acceptance that they could do whatever they wanted, and owed me nothing.

And most of all, don't fuck your former/current significant other if you don't want to. You don't have to. You don't "owe them" and there is certainly no duty - your body is your body.

[SweetHemiStud]

I'm in the process of divorce as well. Though I slipped up and mentioned something in frustration about not wanting to be married anymore a week or so ago...we sat down and talked about it A LOT 2 nights ago, and I came home drunk last night and we talked a little more. But anyway, for the past month I have had ZERO interest in sex with her. She's even tried throwing her self on me a few times and I just brush her away. Granted I am interested in someone else whom has mentioned has mutual feelings, but both agree that there are some pending circumstances; but even long before I became seriously interested in this other person, I had absolutely no interest in sex with my wife. We're just too far gone, and we went for 6 years with very minimal sex as it was, so it's really not much different. Now we only have what is referred to as hallway sex....we walk past each other in the hall and say fuck you fuck you fuck you.

But every relationship is different. Some couples realize they have just grown apart, others realize they just have no similar interests and it won't last that way, etc. My situation is the latter, but we toughed it out for 6 yrs to the point that we now resent each other...which kind of kills me inside, but not nearly as much as staying together is doing/will do, so I HAVE to pick the lessor of 2 evils, and just think it's best to leave sex out of the equation because of all of the emotion that can go along with sex when you've been together for so long.

[N.E. Woman]

Originally Posted by Milo Cronos

There's always a reason why they are "The Ex!"

Originally Posted by Rixer

I never saw my ex-wife again after we split. A clean break is a healthy break..

I am still married, so no exes yet but if we were to split up I'd have to take the stance of the two men's quotes above me.....

It just seems like if an ex-couple is still being intimate... It has the potential to become very messy. Old feelings coming up, love rekindled for one person, for a brief span, jealousies, etc.

Find a new partner and move on!

[mo.bil]

New, are you related to Dear Abby, or Ann Landers? They could have learned a bit from you.

[mrwhite480]

Sure have. With 2 ex's gf's

[filipina34d-25-38]

I had sex with an ex maybe half a dozen times after we broke up in the span of a few months. Eventually we both said it had to stop even though we still loved the sex.

[mrwhite480]

Originally Posted by filipina34d-25-38

I had sex with an ex maybe half a dozen times after we broke up in the span of a few months. Eventually we both said it had to stop even though we still loved the sex.

Gotta get it from somewhere. Why stop?

[shyguyy2]

Nope, If they are a ex there is a reason for it.

[knoxvillainswife]

Once the relationship went so far that we broke up, I did everything I possibly could to never see that person again...including moving thousands of miles away if I had to. I couldn't imagine having sex with an ex. You do not Owe him sex. If you've divorced or broken up, there is no reason to give it to him. He can go somewhere else and get it, I sure as hell do.
You have sex with someone you at least like, or think is interesting, not an Ex.

[SweetHemiStud]

Originally Posted by knoxvillainswife

Once the relationship went so far that we broke up, I did everything I possibly could to never see that person again...including moving thousands of miles away if I had to. I couldn't imagine having sex with an ex. You do not Owe him sex. If you've divorced or broken up, there is no reason to give it to him. He can go somewhere else and get it, I sure as hell do.
You have sex with someone you at least like, or think is interesting, not an Ex.

Every break up I've ever been through I felt the same, but there are many reasons for breakups...Around me, there are many couples getting divorced but continue living under the same roof for a number of reasons. It makes it easier on kids, obviously, but the economy around here BLOWS, and often times one person couldn't afford to keep up the house, so they'd both have to move to two smaller impractical houses, and one person would be left without medical insurance. So they divorce and sleep in different rooms, but can manage to get along perfectly fine as freinds. So situations like this, they may or may not be having sex, and also, if so many couples can survive this, why couldn't other couples survive just maintaining an occasional sexual relationship for a while after deciding they just aren't a match as companions??

[sexomaniac]

Originally Posted by knoxvillainswife

Once the relationship went so far that we broke up, I did everything I possibly could to never see that person again...including moving thousands of miles away if I had to. I couldn't imagine having sex with an ex. You do not Owe him sex. If you've divorced or broken up, there is no reason to give it to him. He can go somewhere else and get it, I sure as hell do.
You have sex with someone you at least like, or think is interesting, not an Ex.

Words of truth!

[shitbag]

Well thanks for all the advice though as expected there was no clear answer I guess because one doesn't exist.

My wife is in no way interested in other men ( for now) our breakup reasons are our own and no others are involved.

I'd be up for sex as long as nobody else is in the picture. I think we have enough trust and comfort with each other that we can meet our own needs but I accept this is in the short term.

That said the thought of still fucking her while she starts a new relationship is weirdly exciting.....

[knoxvillainswife]

Originally Posted by SweetHemiStud

Every break up I've ever been through I felt the same, but there are many reasons for breakups...Around me, there are many couples getting divorced but continue living under the same roof for a number of reasons. It makes it easier on kids, obviously, but the economy around here BLOWS, and often times one person couldn't afford to keep up the house, so they'd both have to move to two smaller impractical houses, and one person would be left without medical insurance. So they divorce and sleep in different rooms, but can manage to get along perfectly fine as freinds. So situations like this, they may or may not be having sex, and also, if so many couples can survive this, why couldn't other couples survive just maintaining an occasional sexual relationship for a while after deciding they just aren't a match as companions??

I just don't believe a couple can break up and still live together and be friendly without the same shit that made them fight still coming into play. Is it really better for the children to still see their parents fighting every day? Money and the things you get with it do not make a home. I've lost everything I owned to leave a man, and I'd do it again. I simply cannot see a reason to stay, I know I haven't been in every situation out there, but I've seen quite a few of them. I also have surety in the fact I can work anywhere, and do anything, so that opens up the field for moving to where I CAN live if I'm having issues doing it where I am.
I've never been around an amicable break up, where people just decide the separate. In that situation, things might change my outlook.

[SweetHemiStud]

Originally Posted by knoxvillainswife

I just don't believe a couple can break up and still live together and be friendly without the same shit that made them fight still coming into play. Is it really better for the children to still see their parents fighting every day? Money and the things you get with it do not make a home. I've lost everything I owned to leave a man, and I'd do it again. I simply cannot see a reason to stay, I know I haven't been in every situation out there, but I've seen quite a few of them. I also have surety in the fact I can work anywhere, and do anything, so that opens up the field for moving to where I CAN live if I'm having issues doing it where I am.
I've never been around an amicable break up, where people just decide the separate. In that situation, things might change my outlook.

I don't know anyone doing it like that, it was a discussion an early, early morning radio, so all I realy know is what I remember from that. But I guess it was along the lines of they make a clean break and end up being much better friends than lovers, so they are not fighting around the kids and all that. I too kinda saw it as being an issue cuz if one person starts moving on and bring people home it could cause major jealousy...maybe they have an agreement to not bring anyone there, but then what happens when one is ready to move into a new relationship??? Is it still ok to live in the same house and such...maybe they can work through it, but will the new person be excepting of it, doubtful.

I know most of my breakups were ugly, and the others weren't exactly pretty. I understand what you mean leaving everything you own to get away. I am at that point right now to leave my wife. I'm only taking my tools, many of which I use to make money, and my stereo speakers...only cuz she despises them, and they are worth A LOT of money and she will just throw them out to the road. If I didn't know for sure they'd just end up destroyed, I'd be content in leaving them behind along with everything else. It hurts, but not as much as staying.

[Rachel2]

my sweethearts my husband who to do for picture me during my fuck for stranger

[whatwhat2]

Originally Posted by Rachel2

my sweethearts my husband who to do for picture me during my fuck for stranger

Alright Rachel2, you posted the same thing in 3 other threads and it doesn't make any fucking sense there either. If you would like to contribute to the thread that's great, but if your gonna copy and paste nonsense like this then you should really shut the fuck up

[speakeasy]

A long time ago, my girlfriend and I figured out that although we loved each other, we were relationship poison to each other.
I moved out.
We remained friends and whenever she was in the mood she'd stop by to get laid.
Eventually, we both became involved with other people.
I'm still friends with her today but that's all we are.
Turns out we're better at being friends than a couple.

[swingerguy95621]

my ex and i were together 12 years. had a kid after 8years. We had some differences so she cheated on me with her ex from high school...for 4months before telling me. Then she stayed in the house for 8months to help with the bills because 2 days after i lost my job, she told me this.


Anyway, that was 3years ago and about 3months ago we tells me she's been wanting to fuck again. She'd been thinking about it less than a year after she left.

So now, when we get the chance, we mess around. Just tonight she picked up my daughter from me, put her in the other room with her android phone...came back in my room for 5mins and swallowed my load :D

nothing better than a fuck buddy.

[reallywantapeging]

Yes I did for years and she was really into anal

[luvzaslammerx3]

I think the question that follows is if you have sex with ex, are you really ex's

[XxhammiexX]

I broke up with a ex and I think we were still fucking on a regular basis for like 2 yrs. Guess it was more or less just to easy to make a phone call and get laid instead of going out looking for it

[toesucker30]

I used to fuck an ex years ago for a while after we broke up.

[Frolip84]

I wish I had my ex as a fuck buddy.

[Emme_]

I did it with an ex-boyfriend but only because I was stupid and thought I could win him back. It didn't work. Thank you God.

[Cheltenham]

Originally Posted by shitbag

Has anyone here maintained a sexual relationship with their ex during the breakup? I'm looking for opinions from married members and advice on how they managed the situation.....

Actually I'm interested in advice and stories about couples and how they manage sex during a breakup when they are forced to live together and there are no other people involved.

Yes i'm currently living with my soon to be ex and I think it's gonna come up soon. We have a mutual friend who felt obliged to turn her back on her husband and lift up her nighty and let him use her during the last months of their marriage. They knew it was over but she let him use her as long as they lived together ( not through fear but a sense of duty).

It is possible. Sometimes both of you have needs that only the other person can satisfy. There is no clear cut way to make this work, nor do I offer a specific way. Discuss the matter with your ex. Tell her that she still turns you on but be blunt about it. Don't hesitate and act like she's going to finish your sentence for you.

If she's open to it she will let you know.

[Jimmy6512]

Seems like a great idea because of the original sexual attraction. But can garuntee it gets complicated quickly

[DocFreakNastee]

had sex with my ex from years ago. back 4 yrs ago we ran across each other. I was on a business trip. I knew it was to her city but to be honest I tried to not be seen while there. I knew from many emails to me in the years before, off and on, that she still wanted me sexually. I wasn't about to travel there to see her. Besides she was really one of thes vanilla types anyways.

Any one that knows me here knows I am far from Vanilla ...

So I was hiding out. One day after class (I was there for some telecom training) me and a couple of class mates went to grap some burgers at one of those "Dare you to eat all of this" types of places .. sounded fun so we went.

Who turns out to be my freakin server .... her.

We talked a while and then I left with them ... all was cool until I get a call at my room. Turns out one of the guys that was in a room a few doors down, that was with me at the restaurant, was "nice enough" to give her my room number. I thought what the hell ... It beats rubbin one out so whatever.

Turns out ole gurl learned a few things .. 20 yrs worth of things .. she was kinky as Fuck. Loved it .. I especially loved that she was a slut for the BBC I mean a serious "I will do anything you say whore" ....

So!

Yeah .. been there done that .. loved it and moved on with my life the day class was over .. and she was cool with it .. I especially was ... we knew it was purely lust ... and we were both good with that.

Did she leave the room while i was there? only to go to work .. last day had a bit of a tiff but it was cool I shut her the fuck up with my cock and ended the last night well

[ctluvr]

My ex suggested it a couple of times during our divorce proceedings. I refused outright! He even asked the day we received he final decree. I told him there was no way he would ever get in my panties again!

[mrgoodtime2]

I got engaged to a ex a while back and we ended it again this weekend. The sex was great but leave your ex's be.

[angelacandy1]

Ya, whats wrong with that...Have done it often...sometimes it could be that you are together and theres that urge...or there could be so many reasons.

[Operatorman]

I've been apart from my ex now for a long time. Hell I'm re married but I still enjoy fucking my ex. She loves it. No strings attaches raw rough sex. She has great pussy. Why not...