Am I Bi

[sax]

hey i'm new here and this is my first post.
I love girls but I sometimes fantisize about having sex witha guy does this make me bi

[Kimiko]

Yes.

Not that there's anything wrong with that....

Next question.

[AdamB]

Originally Posted by sax

I love girls but I sometimes fantisize about having sex witha guy does this make me bi

Maybe or maybe not. Some questions to ask yourself. Do you want to go out on a date with a guy? hold his hand? Cuddle up with him in front of the fire place? Kiss him on the mouth? On the traditional 10 scale, how attractive would the guy need to be to have sex with? Then ask yourself how would you answer those questions with respect to girls?

I think thers's more to it than a simple desire to have sex. Speaking for myself, I have in my life seen exactly one man that I wanted to have sex with, and I didn't fanatsize about a romantic relationship either. So my answers for men would be No, No, No, No, and perfect 10 while my answers for women would be Yes, Yes, Yes, Yes, and somewhere in the 5 range. So for myself, I think heterosexual is a much more accurate description than bi-sexual, even though I have one time fantasized about having sex with a man.

[sax]

no its only been with 2 guys and ive never imagi=ened going out with them or holding there hands, but with girls well i'll do almost anything with them

[Katie Girl]

I wouldn't read too much into it. You may just be fantasizing about something you find very naughty and are enjoying the taboo.

[AdamB]

Sax, my take is that you're probably not bi but just sexually a adventuresome hetero.

[valkyrie]

Originally Posted by AdamB

Sax, my take is that you're probably not bi but just sexually a adventuresome hetero.

I'm with AdamB. I love women, but I do like my wife to shove a big one in my ass!!! It's not a gay thing, it just feels greeaat!!!

[SmilesOfFun]

I would hesitate to say you are bi. I consider myself a hetero male because I'm attracted to women and am interested in romatic relationships as well as sex...yet I occasionally find myself thinking about giving oral sex to a man. I sometimes also get off watching porn of a guy masturbating. But I have yet to meet a guy I'd actually want to have sex with or have a relationship that went beyond friendship.
So I would have to agree with AdamB.

[Syndicate]

I'd say you may be bi-curious, but just from what you said not totally bi. I'm in the same boat, i sometimes fantasize about other guys (I even have a semi-crush on Michael Weatherly >.>) and i'll admit i'm curious to have sex with a guy and suck him off, but i am far from bi in the traditional sense. Just Bi-curious.

If i like it though, who knows >.> lol

[crystal]

honestly dude, its no big deal. as long as you feel good, who cares about labeling. enjoy life, take it as it comes and don't worry. sex is the most beautifyl energy of all.

[bigpat]

Originally Posted by crystal

honestly dude, its no big deal. as long as you feel good, who cares about labeling. enjoy life, take it as it comes and don't worry. sex is the most beautifyl energy of all.

AMEN!!!!!

[bnthrdntht]

actually it is completely normal to fantasize about the same sex, actually the majority of the population have fantasized about homosexual sex at one point in time...it's just human nature

[Corleon]

Here is almost 99% of the time the answer if you think you're bi or have to ask if you are bi or not then you are bi.

[amac]

Originally Posted by bnthrdntht

actually it is completely normal to fantasize about the same sex, actually the majority of the population have fantasized about homosexual sex at one point in time...it's just human nature

Not Dubya, Dick Cheney, or Karl Rove. It's intellectuals like them which we should mirror ourselves on. They're above homosexuality, and other such sins, as premarital sex, extramarital sex, masturbation, or commiting treason as a form of political retribution.


Take a good look, at a fine American, and an even better Human-Being.

[Corleon]

Originally Posted by amac

Not Dubya, Dick Cheney, or Karl Rove. It's intellectuals like them which we should mirror ourselves on. They're above homosexuality, and other such sins, as premarital sex, extramarital sex, masturbation, or commiting treason as a form of political retribution.


Take a good look, at a fine American, and an even better Human-Being.

I myself am not christian catholic or baptist but I will correct you. There is no where in the bible that says any of that stuff is a sin it is simply something some fucker thought of to scare people into not doing it. Masturbation is a natural thing look at monkeys they jack it all the time. Homosexuality is not a sin either it has been prooven that it is caused by genes not enviroment so that would mean your god made a mystake. If extramarital sex is cheating then thats a 1/2 sin.

[amac]

Originally Posted by Corleon

I myself am not christian catholic or baptist but I will correct you. There is no where in the bible that says any of that stuff is a sin it is simply something some fucker thought of to scare people into not doing it. Masturbation is a natural thing look at monkeys they jack it all the time. Homosexuality is not a sin either it has been prooven that it is caused by genes not enviroment so that would mean your god made a mystake. If extramarital sex is cheating then thats a 1/2 sin.

L2Sarcasm.


And you're one to correct Bush, haven't you heard? God speaks too him quite frequently.

Also, Sodom and Gimore is the story that preaches against homosexuality, and in some other part of the Bible it says your seed is better in the belly of a whore than spilt on the ground.

I beleive in God and Jesus, however, I take alot of stuff I read in the Bible with a grain of salt since over time alot of people have influenced what's been added/taken out, such as Mary being portrayed as a prostitute, she wasn't one. And more is just lost in the multiple translations. And no I didn't watch the Da Vinci Code, I have a rule about not watching shitty movies. Best was Steven and William Donahue discussing the Da Vinci Code.

[J.A.W.]

Originally Posted by Corleon

Homosexuality [...] has been prooven that it is caused by genes not enviroment

No it hasn't. It's still much argued. Some recent research indicates an environmental cause, specifically number of older brothers, for male homosexuality. (Not that I fully accept the study, but the result was so unexpected that it makes my point about the current arguments anyway.)

Of course you may have intended to say that homosexuality seems to be a biological phenomena and not a social one. I believe that is generally agreed, with the caveat that all the research I've seen has dealt with male homosexuality. For some reason female homosexuality seems more difficult for researchers to deal with.

[Corleon]

Originally Posted by J.A.W.

No it hasn't. It's still much argued. Some recent research indicates an environmental cause, specifically number of older brothers, for male homosexuality. (Not that I fully accept the study, but the result was so unexpected that it makes my point about the current arguments anyway.)

Of course you may have intended to say that homosexuality seems to be a biological phenomena and not a social one. I believe that is generally agreed, with the caveat that all the research I've seen has dealt with male homosexuality. For some reason female homosexuality seems more difficult for researchers to deal with.

What I ment is its not something that can be changed or prevented. If you go to one of those gay christian things where they try and brainwash you weather that will work a week or 40 years you will still be who you originally where sexuality wise. So basicly even if you think you are cured it may come out again after you've been married 30 years which is 100 times worse then just being who you are.

There was a guy now too long ago maybe 6 months when we went hunting one of the guys I go hunting with found him with his brains blown out. The story is his wife was leaving him after 30 years he was so crushed he took a 12 gauge back into the woods and blew his brains out. Not that he was gay but that is how hard it can be.

[tempefool]

Yes it does......

[BraG]

I recommend not getting caught up on labels in general. That was a mistake I made earlier in my life when I felt I NEEDED to be something specific. Anyone whom says that they are 100% sure about their sexuality is either in denial or an extremly dull individual. Enjoy your fantasies, and if you ever get the urge to take them beyond that stage, go right ahead.

[jevk]

Originally Posted by amac

L2Sarcasm.


And you're one to correct Bush, haven't you heard? God speaks too him quite frequently.

Also, Sodom and Gimore is the story that preaches against homosexuality, and in some other part of the Bible it says your seed is better in the belly of a whore than spilt on the ground.

I beleive in God and Jesus, however, I take alot of stuff I read in the Bible with a grain of salt since over time alot of people have influenced what's been added/taken out, such as Mary being portrayed as a prostitute, she wasn't one. And more is just lost in the multiple translations. And no I didn't watch the Da Vinci Code, I have a rule about not watching shitty movies. Best was Steven and William Donahue discussing the Da Vinci Code.

aahh here we go
There is nothing in the Bible forbidding masturbation, and i do not believe anything forbidding premarital sex, that is mainly up to opinion (whether or not you are cheating on your future wife). However, the Bible does prohibit adultery, so masturbation COULD be added into that if you have VERY STRICT opinion. There have been multiple translation errors, and most of the things in the Bible are not meant to be taken literally. Also, Leviticus was written by a Jewish high priest, and not Moses.

[Caffeine]

If the Bible was the best moral code ever written, written by GOD HIMSELF, don't you think you'd not have to cherry-pick certain parts in order for it to make sense?

[Kimiko]

Originally Posted by Caffeine

If the Bible was the best moral code ever written, written by GOD HIMSELF, don't you think you'd not have to cherry-pick certain parts in order for it to make sense?

It's much easier if you ignore the Old Testament, which is chock full of what appear to be mainly primitive superstitions.

If you confine yourself to what Jesus actually is reported to have said, it makes quite a bit of sense, morally speaking. And it's too bad most Christians don't do this.

[YoungNCurious]

Originally Posted by SmilesOfFun

I would hesitate to say you are bi. I consider myself a hetero male because I'm attracted to women and am interested in romatic relationships as well as sex...yet I occasionally find myself thinking about giving oral sex to a man. I sometimes also get off watching porn of a guy masturbating. But I have yet to meet a guy I'd actually want to have sex with or have a relationship that went beyond friendship.
So I would have to agree with AdamB.

Exactly how I feel. I think some guys in porn are hot, and I would love to fuck/suck them. But those are only perfect 10s... and it is only in a sexual manner. Whereas I love women, love being with women, kissing, cuddling, etc, and most would say my girlfriend is far froma 10, but i think she's a beautiful person.