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[Rexxracerr]

hi ya'll i have a date tomorrow night, first one in 15 years, (i shit you not)
i need some advice, and we can make a little game of it.

first off I know not to plan on sex for the first date, but i am old, and haven't been laid since.......well at his point forever, i think my cherry has grown back.

so tell me how would you go about scoring on the first date. (for the dudes)
or how would i score with you, on the first date.(for the ladies)

[cijababe]

Make me laugh! I'm sure you wouldn't find that difficult

Good luck sugar, Mistress is rooting for you!

[Rexxracerr]

i am really rusty except for on here. the girls here has gotten me to the point of asking.
i thought their advice would help.

[Pussy Shark]

Damn Rexx! Well I'm very happy for you!! Well hopefully you've met a girl that will put out on the first date! Be yourself! Listen! Listen! Listen! Talk about yourself only if she asks, and don't elaborate! Open the door, pull out her chair, yada yada! If being a gentleman doesn't work, ply her with alcohol!!! (Don't do that!)

[Lioness]

Originally Posted by Pussy Shark

Damn Rexx! Well I'm very happy for you!! Well hopefully you've met a girl that will put out on the first date! Be yourself! Listen! Listen! Listen! Talk about yourself only if she asks, and don't elaborate! Open the door, pull out her chair, yada yada! If being a gentleman doesn't work, ply her with alcohol!!! (Don't do that!)

I can't believe you said that!

Notwithstanding, my favorite lovers were first dates...it was chemistry.

[Pussy Shark]

Originally Posted by Lioness

I can't believe you said that!

Notwithstanding, my favorite lovers were first dates...it was chemistry.

Why? I didn't mean it in a bad way! I was just being honest!

[Lioness]

Originally Posted by Pussy Shark

Why? I didn't mean it in a bad way! I was just being honest!

Hope she PUTS OUT!! How romantic!!

[minerva_x]

Just be your simple and humble self Bro Hope you have fun and good luck!

[SensualRobin]

Rexx the best way is always making a girl just comfortable with you, to feel safe, and I think the advice to make her laugh and be a gentlemen is the wisest choice. That's my personal turn ons, anyway, so why shouldn't it work? You're already these things on here, just have the confidence to be them offsite!

[Yaztromo]

If you want to get laid don't plan for it!

Just go out to have a good time with no intention of sex.

Seriously, put any ideas of sex out of the window, thinking like that will only make you uptight. Enjoy the night for the pleasure of her company only.

[SensualRobin]

Originally Posted by Yaztromo

If you want to get laid don't plan for it!

Just go out to have a good time with no intention of sex.

Seriously, put any ideas of sex out of the window, thinking like that will only make you uptight. Enjoy the night for the pleasure of her company only.

Seconded! Although I understand the frustration!

[Yaztromo]

Originally Posted by SensualRobin

Seconded! Although I understand the frustration!

Oh Robin, I hate to think of you frustrated.

[SensualRobin]

Originally Posted by Yaztromo

Oh Robin, I hate to think of you frustrated.

You'd love to find me frustrated though, with only you to take out all my sexual pent up energy on.

[Rexxracerr]

Originally Posted by Yaztromo

If you want to get laid don't plan for it!

Just go out to have a good time with no intention of sex.

Seriously, put any ideas of sex out of the window, thinking like that will only make you uptight. Enjoy the night for the pleasure of her company only.

thanks everyone i appreciate ya'll

your right yaz, i wouldn't think it was possible, but she does things, like hug me all the time, (she doesn't do that to any one else) comes up behind me, wrap her arms around my waist, pressing against me. and holding me tight.

yet i am going to not think about it, even though she told me she was lying there naked, while she was talking to me.
she also said she was shy, hmmmm! don't know about that.

one other thing, she knows about xnxx, and she knows i flirt with the girls, and write some stories, but she isn't computer savvy.
it seemed to spark her interest with me. ???????? i wonder

[Hornycountryboy]

Well I can't be much help, besides saying what has already been said. I have only been on a few first dates, and my wife and I dated for close to two years before we had sex, (I am a very patient guy) so I guess my advice would be have some patients if it happens it happens.

[Saffron Euphoria]

Good Luck Rexx. You're an amazing guy with a killer personality. It sounds very much like she's keen for you.

I completely agree with what Yaz said earlier, go with the idea that there will be no raunchiness to end the evening with, for me that's not a nice feature if I know someone is expecting something of me!

For me, spending the evening with tongue in cheek flirting, inuendoes (sorry for the bad spelling!) and suggestive gestures is a massive turn on for me. Especially if he is fairly laid back letting me do most of the initiation and following my lead. Obviously there would need to be some initiation on your part so she knows you want her!

Go get her Rexxy baby!!! Have a great time

[Scotsgent1]

Originally Posted by Saffron Euphoria

Good Luck Rexx. You're an amazing guy with a killer personality. It sounds very much like she's keen for you.

I completely agree with what Yaz said earlier, go with the idea that there will be no raunchiness to end the evening with, for me that's not a nice feature if I know someone is expecting something of me!

For me, spending the evening with tongue in cheek flirting, inuendoes (sorry for the bad spelling!) and suggestive gestures is a massive turn on for me. Especially if he is fairly laid back letting me do most of the initiation and following my lead. Obviously there would need to be some initiation on your part so she knows you want her!

Go get her Rexxy baby!!! Have a great time

My thoughts exactly ! I said similar things to you on another thread mate , but Saffron is alot better with words than i am and certainly alot more pleasant to look at

[Rexxracerr]

Originally Posted by Saffron Euphoria

Good Luck Rexx. You're an amazing guy with a killer personality. It sounds very much like she's keen for you.

I completely agree with what Yaz said earlier, go with the idea that there will be no raunchiness to end the evening with, for me that's not a nice feature if I know someone is expecting something of me!

For me, spending the evening with tongue in cheek flirting, inuendoes (sorry for the bad spelling!) and suggestive gestures is a massive turn on for me. Especially if he is fairly laid back letting me do most of the initiation and following my lead. Obviously there would need to be some initiation on your part so she knows you want her!

Go get her Rexxy baby!!! Have a great time

Thank you angel, I was talking with her on the phone last night, she did a lot of flirting
i just laid back, and dhot out lil things to make her laugh, she made sure I knew she was free all weekend. Sorry I sound so insecure, it's just been so long, I thank you girls for giving me enough confidence to go out.
mwah,

Originally Posted by Scotsgent1

My thoughts exactly ! I said similar things to you on another thread mate , but Saffron is alot better with words than i am and certainly alot more pleasant to look at

Thanks sg she is a special angel in my heart

[angelharley]

Good Luck Rexx!! Just be yourself, like everyone says on here!! Hope for the best, but don't expect anything lol. Be nice and gentle and funny Listen all the good stuff people already said Keep us posted on what happened!!

["Naughty"]

Originally Posted by Rexxracerr

hi ya'll i have a date tomorrow night, first one in 15 years, (i shit you not)
i need some advice, and we can make a little game of it.

first off I know not to plan on sex for the first date, but i am old, and haven't been laid since.......well at his point forever, i think my cherry has grown back.

so tell me how would you go about scoring on the first date. (for the dudes)
or how would i score with you, on the first date.(for the ladies)

Good for sweety,hope all goes well.

Just be yourself and you'll be right but under no circumstances try for sex, a little peck on the cheek at the end of the evening will get you a second date,Thats when you put your horniness to the test

[meforyou]

Good luck, Rexx. As has been said by everyone, you're a great guy, and if you're youreslf, it'll be a great evening. Yaz and Robin pretty much summed it up. Being natural, and humour are key elements, although remarks such as, "What are you cooking for breakfast?", generally fail to hit the mark - well they did for me, anyway. All the best.

[Rexxracerr]

well i remember why i didn't date for so long. i am a bit confused, on a scale of 1 to 10 i would give it a 6.
i got dressed nice, for the date. i didn't want to disappoint her, she didn't dress up hardly at all. baggy jeans, a non to impressive top, and flip flops, i overlooked that, but found it disappointing. i am really not that anal, i just expected a little effort. my immidiate thought was, she wanted to keep a little distance, so i just minded my manners, and not be to forward, and try to read her a bit.

we left her house, and on the way to town, we approached a sex shop, and she says, want to go in there? my vibrator is broken, and said something silly, as she is giggling like a school girl. i told her they are open late, we can get anything you want babe, we can stop by on the way home.
this changed my thinking a bit of course, and i was 90 percent sure, this was gonna end well.

we went to dinner at a Chinese food place, which was fine, and very good, but when we got to the booth she sat on the other side, which was okay, but i expected a little more effort, if that made her comfortable, i was fine with that.

we left there, and on the way to the comedy club. i stopped at the go cart track, to give a little thrill to the day, she seemed to enjot it. but i figure it was just to please me.


i got to downtown, and I have been there many times, and know my way around, but since i didn't go her way she got all uptight on me, saying we were lost, and blah blah blah..... after we got into the parking garage, and I to park, she tells me im not walking all that way. park up there. which was about 100 ft. 30 meters. that was okay, it was next to the elevators, but i felt it was a good spot, but not wanting to disappoint her i moved.

by this time we have smoked a couple of joints, and both of us were pretty stoned, and i figure well while we were walking would be a good time to see her reaction if i hold her hand. hmmm didn't count on her walking with her hands in her pocket. (funny huh?)
we went to barnes and noble, and walked around a little bit, while we were there, we was getting a little closer, she was leaning on me a bit, and i her, some, but mine was purposeful, hers didn't seem that way., at this point i have decided oh well, she doesn't really like me. and that was fine, at least we will have fun.

the comedy club was hilarious, very good show, but nothing really happened there, except for they sat us at a table with 5 gorgeous young girls, now i tell you it was hard not to look at them. and i tried to pay them no attention, so she would feel like i was focusing on her, the girl next to me. started talking to us both, and pretty soon the other girls joined in the convo, but she was part of it. anyway, when i looked at her i felt she was bothered by it. so i quit altogether, and shut my mouth.

we got back to the car, again she kept her hands in her pockets, except to push me up some stars telling me to hurry up, when i was waiting for some people to move.
sat in the car a few minutes, smoking a joint. looking out across the city. i said oh man that's cool. she said not as good as over there. pointing behind us. seemed i didn't know squat, and i am sure now she just isn't that into me. and that is okay. at least we can have some fun.

we chatted all the way in the car cutting up, and laughing, somewhere along the way. she reached over, and grabbed my hand, again making me think, hmmmm?
maybe i was wrong. i was going to forget about the sex shop, but her rubbing my hand, made me rethink that. so i asked her if she really wanted to, and she said yes.
hmmmmm..... things are looking up again.
we go inside, and just kind of looked at all the bullshit, laughing, and cutting up, got a demo, about a new kind of vibe. i offered to buy her something, she turned it down, and we left.

on the way to her house, i said i needed to get something to drink, and she said, i have sprite at home, if that's okay. feeling like that was the way she was inviting me in. so i accepted. we got in, and sat on the loveseat together, the closest we had been all night, and god bless it, but here come the little dog that has to sit in between us.
we burned another one leaving us both pretty baked, and she did a couple of whiskey shots. as the dog just sat there, i knew it was getting late, and my instinct's were telling me to at least kiss her, now i have been looking at her waiting for the right moment. i wasn't going to grab her head, and force it, i waited, and waited, she just sat there focused on the tv, i slipped my hand behind her head, and started running my fingers through her hair. now there was no doubt she was liking that, but she sat still eyes closed, head laying back, as i played with her hair, i sat there looking at her expecting her to open her eyes, and look at me, speak or anything except laying there grinning.so i say are you tired hun? she said yes usually i am in bed by now, i'm sleepy, so i said okay hun i will go let you go to bed. she never said a word, as i put my shoes on, and stood up, i turned back to her expecting her to get up, and at least give me a hug. she had done that several times.but she just sat there, raised one hand, and said later. call me tomorrow, i said okay, and left. feeling a bit dejected, and confused, whether dhe likes me or not.

i went to breakfast this morning, and texted her saying good morning. she called me back, about a hour later,and said she had to go see her son, and do some laundry. i just wished her a good day, figuring i would talk to her later. a few minutes after that she called back asking me to come over, so being a horny confused, gentleman, i went,
again i sat there on the love seat, little dog between us, just bullshitting, and that was fine, i wasn't expecting anything at all, but i wasn't going to reach out to touch her until she reached out to touch me. it never happened. so here i sit, more confused than ever, i am not sure if i want to go out with her again, especially if i don't know if she likes me. i did have fun, but i could have done all that with my brother, and he is a blast.

[cijababe]

She does seem to be giving you mixed messages sweetie, but maybe she's unsure too. I wouldn't give up though, maybe you just need to take it slow, get to know her more. I don't think it was a failure - just hang in there for a bit longer darling

[curiousscouser]

Originally Posted by cijababe

She does seem to be giving you mixed messages sweetie, but maybe she's unsure too. I wouldn't give up though, maybe you just need to take it slow, get to know her more. I don't think it was a failure - just hang in there for a bit longer darling

+1

Trust me, if she didn't like you she wouldn't have invited you over today. It sounds like she may have been a bit nervous.

I hope you guys give it another go

[Rexxracerr]

i will try girls, and i will be patient.
she says she is shy, so whats with the sex shop? with a new date?

[GamecockGolfer]

Ok, been reading and reading this thread. Honestly, you're reading signals. Now, unless you're Geronimo, or on a ship waving flags - signals don't work. And I'll be honest, it sounds like she's not really sure of what she wants. Mixed signals don't work, and if you're going to attempt to read them, be sure you are both on the same language (you think she's crossing her legs because she's into you. She's crossing her legs due to that not-so-fresh feeling, and a wicked yeast infection).

Personally, I like to keep things casual and simple. Don't go in thinking your getting laid. Don't come out of the date thinking your getting laid. It's like a meal (sometimes, literally) - you sit down, get an appetizer (small talk), entree (event; events), and by the end of the meal, aren't you usually too stuffed (tired, bored, etc) for dessert? That could be the case. Or she's confused, unsure, or village nut job (I've dated a few VNJ's before. Was told to quit fucking around in mental hospitals, by my dad. Words of wisdom.)

Keep it simple and casual. Appetizers, some beer/drinks, make plans up as you go. And don't go jumping up an down like that little fucking puppy. Relax. She's relaxed. Just let it go man, and do whatever. Drive it, like you stole it!! Goes for women and cars.

[SensualRobin]

As someone who has her shy moments, the sex shop could have been her attempt to open up, but maybe she was still nervous regardless. I know I've made that move, trying to force myself to open up, but then I just make myself all flustered and embarrassed.

Reading your story I couldn't help chanting in my head, "What's wrong with you? Kiss him you fool!" but that was definitely biased of me.

I wouldn't say all is lost quite yet, and I agree with what the ladies have said. If anything it's practice for any future dates, yes? Don't let another 15 years go by! A sweet horny man like you doesn't need that.

Edit: Wow! Golfer sure has a good perspective too!

[GamecockGolfer]

Thanks Robin!! Love ya too babe!

[black-raven]

Rexx - everyone has already given you good advice so essentially I'm just going to reiterate and tell you to stop stressing about it.

I know you've said it's been a long time since you've been on a date, but how long has it been for her?

Intimacy comes with time, especially if you're shy. I know it doesn't help that she's giving you mixed signals but perhaps mixed is better than none at all?

If you really like the girl you will give her the time that she needs to be comfortable enough to make that next step with you... if she is just the possibility of a fuck then you might be barking up the wrong tree.

[minerva_x]

Originally Posted by Rexxracerr

i will try girls, and i will be patient.
she says she is shy, so whats with the sex shop? with a new date?

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Maybe its just an 'ice-breaker' for her Rexx... I like the the point of views of everyone that has posted so far and I couldn't have said it any better...

[minerva_x]

Oh and one more thing Rexx, if you do go out in a second date with her in some club..try not to do so much moves ..perhaps that is why she was giving you mixed messages... Luv ya!

[Saffron Euphoria]

Hey Rexx hunny.

If it makes you feel any better she's totally confused me too! As I was reading the goings on of your evening I was thinking, ah ha, I understand it now... but then she'd do something totally contradicting!

I would say to adopt her as a good drinking/smoking buddy and let it roll that way as I don't think she's wanting immediate smooches. It sounds like she likes you but is fighting with herself so the more laid back you are and not appearing as any form of a preditor the more comfortable and trusting she'll be of you and then perhaps she'll want to take it to a more intimate level.

Hugs and kisses for you hunny. Please don't feel sad or let it knock your confidence Rexx, you're a smashing guy and there's so much love for the sexxy rexxy on here

[Rexxracerr]

Thank you all very much, things are getting better, and she really has made a effort yesterday, called me this morning. She thanked me profusely for the date, and said she appreciates my patience, guess I hid that well. But I was being good. She asked me to take her out next weekend. I played a little coy, but agreed. I don't want her to think, she has me wrapped up.

I am at the doctor right now, not feeling to good. (bronchial infection) I get them a lot. But she wants me to come over later, as she said, so she can take care me.

[sullygom]

The economic situation being what it is, don't offer plastic , cash is best!!!!!

Good luck Racer

[meforyou]

Hi, Rexx. It sounds like matters are progressing well. As the others previously suggested, she must have initially been nervous. I hope all goes well later. Good things come to those who wait.

I hope your chest clears up. I was sorry to hear you're not well. It may work in your favour, though. I hope so. All the best.

[NoTopNoCollar]

Ain't it typical of me, to be the fly in the ointment.
Ok Sweetlips, I read the run down of your date and the following hours. As you know, I shoot straight from the hip and I have no patience for flim flam or head games. It sounds to me, like that's exactly what she's doing.
This is what I imagine is going through her head:
Found a guy that likes my teasing (total confidence booster), wants to take me out, has good weed and good manners and all I have to do is keep him thinking, he MIGHT get somewhere.

Now, I could be wrong, and I hope to hell I am, but I don't think you're going to get much out of this one, except blue balls, a head ache, and an empty wallet.
Don't give up on the dating thing, but don't stop looking elsewhere, either.
So, muchos besos and buena suerta, Rexx

[Yaztromo]

Hi Rexx, IMO it's way too early to call this one.

First dates are always going to be tricky, especially if you haven't had one for a while. However nervous you felt, she may have felt even more so, and hence maybe wasn't at her best.

Spend some more time with her to get to know her a bit better. Again don't push for sex straight away. I say this for a couple of reasons. One, you might be unsure that you want to get intimate with her, and two, she may have had unhappy experiences of men jumping into bed with her and then vanishing off the radar.

Better to invest a little bit of time to get to know her better. Find out if you really like her. She should appreciate this too, as it will show her that you are interested in her and not just her body. I'm not saying be a monk or anything, you initiating a kiss and a hug is absolutely fine. In fact anything she initiates is also fine, even full sex, but just be sure it's what you want as well.

Anyway good luck with it buddy and I hope you feel better soon.

[Lioness]

I don't blame you for feeling confused...but for some people, it takes time. Sometimes I'm too hasty and sometimes I'm too patient...there's a happy medium in there...time will tell for you. Maybe it was that time of the month for her?

And if I had smoked as much pot as she did with you, I'd be comatose!!

I had a first date with a guy once....had a great evening...and when he took me home, he EXPECTED to stay over which kind of pissed me off. He never did ask me out again, but if he hadn't gotten impatient or assuming, he would've gotten lucky later....

[sullygom]

Rex old chap, you gotta figure this out for yourself...good luck

[lordreven333]

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