Why would you turn down pussy?

[engaged]

Dudes....what possible LEGITIMATE reason does a guy have for turning down pussy? I am not used to rejection

[ggff16]

How it smells or looks could be an issue, but sometimes believe it or not some guys might not want to do anything...I've turned down girls before because I had something on my mind or wasn't feeling too good.

[Flitter]

Crazy I guess

[engaged]

Originally Posted by ggff16

How it smells or looks could be an issue, but sometimes believe it or not some guys might not want to do anything...I've turned down girls before because I had something on my mind or wasn't feeling too good.

mine is beautiful, smells and tastes lovely(told by numerous dudes)... I think his priorities suck maybe

[LuckyChucky420]

it depends what kind of relationship you had with him

[Operatorman]

Smell maybe...


Other than that, IM not turning it down

[engaged]

married to him, haha

[Operatorman]

I've never turned it down

[ggff16]

Funny, it's usually the girl that rejects the guy

[engaged]

Originally Posted by ggff16

Funny, it's usually the girl that rejects the guy

I know right!! even offered up porn...he'd apparently rather watch fearnet and drink beer

[RockinRobby]

Alot of wimps out there I guess... sigh

[Chagrin]

My assumption on reading the topic was of a girl walking up to a random guy and saying "fuck me", in which case I can think of plenty of reasons to turn it down (chance of STD's being my top reason).

But what I seem to gather from the conversation is that your husband said no thanks. There could also be plenty of reasons for that. He might have a physically straining job, and might be too tired afterward to be in the mood. He might have some other issue with you, like maybe he's upset over an argument or something, and he doesn't feel attracted to you right now. He might have a mysterious itch down there, and doesn't want to spread it til he knows what it is.

Only way to find out what's really troubling him is to ask him, not us.

[engaged]

he gives me no real answer...just "lets do it tomorrow" and 2morrow never comes

[FuckYouFuckMe]

Possible pregnancy, nervousness, concern.

[stronghold]

Ive only turned down sex once in my life. I was very nauseated (drinking too much) and didn't want to vomit on the poor girl.

I did once fuck my wife when I had a fever

[Chagrin]

Originally Posted by engaged

he gives me no real answer...just "lets do it tomorrow" and 2morrow never comes

Oh, I thought this was like the first time it happened. If it's a constant thing, there's definitely a deeper psychological problem than any one-time excuse. He might be impotent, asexual, fallen out of love, finds you unattractive, finds himself unattractive (and feels embarrassed by sex), or has any kind of major stress in his life that is effecting his libido. Maybe there was a death in the family a while ago, and he is still mourning. Maybe he is unhappy at work. Maybe you have kids at home, but you're loud at sex, so he's always worried about waking the kids. I don't know what your homelife situation is so I don't know what might apply. Maybe he's worried about money, or worried about keeping his job.

Again, there are tons of reasons he might not ever be in the mood for sex. No one here can give definites, only possibilities. Talk to your doctor, if your husband won't discuss it. Your doctor may have better ideas.

[watcher 21]

Originally Posted by engaged

he gives me no real answer...just "lets do it tomorrow" and 2morrow never comes

probably fed up of yours after years of marriage and is getting fresher (possibly younger) pussy away from home.

a nice juicy steak meal is lovely to have every now and again but have it every day for breakfast dinner and tea for years and you'll get sick of the sight of steak.


or maybe he's discovered he's really gay.

[engaged]

Originally Posted by FuckYouFuckMe

Possible pregnancy, nervousness, concern.

been married 4 years, been on pill all 4. I think he just prefers booze

Originally Posted by stronghold

Ive only turned down sex once in my life. I was very nauseated (drinking too much) and didn't want to vomit on the poor girl.

I did once fuck my wife when I had a fever

lol nice, ur so sweet

[black-raven]

take some mdma and when you're both properly high talk to him about what's going on... conversations without barriers solve a lot of problems.

[engaged]

Originally Posted by watcher 21

probably fed up of yours after years of marriage and is getting fresher (possibly younger) pussy away from home.

a nice juicy steak meal is lovely to have every now and again but have it every day for breakfast dinner and tea for years and you'll get sick of the sight of steak.


or maybe he's discovered he's really gay.

guess those are all possibilities, but probly not. im 24. younger-ehhh why? We have no kids, and hes always been this way...

Just asking what good reasons men have for saying no to sex. He probably should see a doc

[engaged]

Originally Posted by black-raven

take some mdma and when you're both properly high talk to him about what's going on... conversations without barriers solve a lot of problems.

whats mdma?

[black-raven]

mdma: methylenedioxymethamphetamine

street names: mandy, molly... ecstasy

[watcher 21]

Originally Posted by engaged

guess those are all possibilities, but probly not. im 24. younger-ehhh why? We have no kids, and hes always been this way...

Just asking what good reasons men have for saying no to sex. He probably should see a doc

once you know you can get something on a plate for free any time you want it you not longer seem to want it very often, if at all.

also a lot of married couples get stuck into a boring routine, like watching your favourite film every night would become boring, change some things, go for a break somewhere, don't be demanding, in fact be the opposite make him WANT you and when he does then make him wait more.

Then pounce on him and rape him


edit in reply to the above post. the last thing you want to start doing is taking life wrecking drugs. that's the solution for losers.

[stronghold]

If he absolutely refuses to go see a doctor,...then he's really hiding something. Like his true inner feeling about your relationship.

[Wraith666]

Ok, MDMA may not be the right answer. Egaged, you said a coupl telling things throughout this thread. "He's always been this way." 'Think he prefers booze" and "tomorrow never comes". Not the best of signs girl. There's many reasons men wouldn't want pussy, but yours is a specific case sweetie. You say you've been married 4 yrs. Maybe the chase of engagement was more enticing than the union. Always been that way, then you possibly should have seen this one coming.
And the one I believe it to be from personal and friends experience...he was too young to get married. He's getting bored no matter how qamazing you are. It's the 'grass is greener' syndrome.
Just an opinion, sorry if that hurt...but you asked.

[engaged]

Originally Posted by watcher 21

once you know you can get something on a plate for free any time you want it you not longer seem to want it very often, if at all.

also a lot of married couples get stuck into a boring routine, like watching your favourite film every night would become boring, change some things, go for a break somewhere, don't be demanding, in fact be the opposite make him WANT you and when he does then make him wait more.

Then pounce on him and rape him


edit in reply to the above post. the last thing you want to start doing is taking life wrecking drugs. that's the solution for losers.

id never do drugs, i am a nurse, it would ruin my career...but good to know what it is.

so basically what you are saying is men want a whore...but once they have them, they want other whores cuz its "different" and not boring...interesting

Ive done everything to spice it up, im not the problem at this point

[engaged]

Originally Posted by Wraith666

Ok, MDMA may not be the right answer. Egaged, you said a coupl telling things throughout this thread. "He's always been this way." 'Think he prefers booze" and "tomorrow never comes". Not the best of signs girl. There's many reasons men wouldn't want pussy, but yours is a specific case sweetie. You say you've been married 4 yrs. Maybe the chase of engagement was more enticing than the union. Always been that way, then you possibly should have seen this one coming.
And the one I believe it to be from personal and friends experience...he was too young to get married. He's getting bored no matter how qamazing you are. It's the 'grass is greener' syndrome.
Just an opinion, sorry if that hurt...but you asked.

yea im a different case...nothing hurts, i want nothing but the truth. However, he is 32, shouldnt be "too young" in any case. yea once we were married the sex all but stopped...1x/month if im lucky

[black-raven]

Originally Posted by watcher 21

edit in reply to the above post. the last thing you want to start doing is taking life wrecking drugs. that's the solution for losers.

LMAO

The reaction that some people have when drugs are mentioned always fascinates me.

[watcher 21]

although, after just having read some of your other posts, especially where you say you are being fucked by another guy behind his back and your husband has found your emails to him, then it no longer comes as a surprise he no longer wants you.

i'd have dumped you fucking years ago.

please start taking mdma as soon as possible.

[hotlikesauce]

That sucks girl but i kno i got good pussy & after all the years, my man still wants pussy.... But of course his dick automatically gets hard for strange bitches.... Actually we're both always trying to get other girls...it turns me the hell o n to see him rock yard... If ur not b
Then cyberly seduce a young horned out big dick just to use for sex.. The young guy will love it & u get wat u want HARD COCK !"i

[engaged]

Originally Posted by watcher 21

although, after just having read some of your other posts, especially where you say you are being fucked by another guy behind his back and your husband has found your emails to him, then it no longer comes as a surprise he no longer wants you.

i'd have dumped you fucking years ago.

please start taking mdma as soon as possible.

yes, as soon as he started spending my money on airplane trips to "earn miles" i started looking for someone to take care of my needs. on the contrary he doesnt want a divorce, just no sex. i gave him 4 and 1/2 years of patience and faithfulness

[Wraith666]

Originally Posted by engaged

yea im a different case...nothing hurts, i want nothing but the truth. However, he is 32, shouldnt be "too young" in any case. yea once we were married the sex all but stopped...1x/month if im lucky

Ok. Ask him out right, WTF is going on? Or if he won't discuss it directly with you, tell him how much it's upsetting you and get to a counselor...NOW. Lack of physical intimacy isn't a good sign at either of your ages...and not after only years sweetie.

[juggernaut85017]

I wouldn't turn down pussy. Only penis that would is the gay ones. No sex in a relationship it's not a good sign. And yes a counselor would be the best idea. I think you said you're 24 and your husband is 30 something. Either his sex drive has depleted with I think there's a pill for that. Or he's just not interested anymore... In which case you either love him too much and you'll stay with him no matter what or you move on and find someone that can fulfill you the way everyone deserves to be fulfilled.

[engaged]

Originally Posted by Wraith666

Ok. Ask him out right, WTF is going on? Or if he won't discuss it directly with you, tell him how much it's upsetting you and get to a counselor...NOW. Lack of physical intimacy isn't a good sign at either of your ages...and not after only years sweetie.

Originally Posted by juggernaut85017

I wouldn't turn down pussy. Only penis that would is the gay ones. No sex in a relationship it's not a good sign. And yes a counselor would be the best idea. I think you said you're 24 and your husband is 30 something. Either his sex drive has depleted with I think there's a pill for that. Or he's just not interested anymore... In which case you either love him too much and you'll stay with him no matter what or you move on and find someone that can fulfill you the way everyone deserves to be fulfilled.

i think you both got the right idea. Will see if he wants to go to counseling but I think it's mostly over...but how does a guy survive w/ no pussy? If he ever cheated it was very quick cuz we text all day or are together most times- I wouldnt care either, I told him id love for some woman to show him how it's done(im not so good at being a boss in bed)

[stronghold]

Originally Posted by engaged

yes, as soon as he started spending my money on airplane trips to "earn miles" i started looking for someone to take care of my needs. on the contrary he doesnt want a divorce, just no sex. i gave him 4 and 1/2 years of patience and faithfulness

When you say he doesn't want a D, and still no sex,....is he lazy around the house?
Do you pamper him?

[Wraith666]

Juggernaut has one valid point engaged, your husbands sexual peak hit naturally around the age of 18. Yours is still around 6 years away baby. Think about that and then seriously consider your options.

[engaged]

Originally Posted by stronghold

When you say he doesn't want a D, and still no sex,....is he lazy around the house?
Do you pamper him?

we have a sort of opposite gender role marriage...I make the money, he has a part time job but mostly is home playing home-maker. But we have no kids. We really should have a good relationship, but I think his love of liquor gets in the way of most things

[engaged]

Originally Posted by Wraith666

Juggernaut has one valid point engaged, your husbands sexual peak hit naturally around the age of 18. Yours is still around 6 years away baby. Think about that and then seriously consider your options.

Always wanted an older guy, so i guess i just took for granted that some men arent always in search of pussy...

[stronghold]

Originally Posted by engaged

we have a sort of opposite gender role marriage...I make the money, he has a part time job but mostly is home playing home-maker. But we have no kids. We really should have a good relationship, but I think his love of liquor gets in the way of most things

Thats gotta be it!!!! He's way too fucking comfortable with his surroundings, and not man enough to start over and work like a responsible adult, and support HIMSELF.
Sugar coat that with the liquor, and he's fucking on cloud nine while YOU bring home the bacon.

Ugh,...no way girl....You gotta change this. I hope Im wrong, but Ive seen it before.

[stronghold]

Originally Posted by engaged

Always wanted an older guy, so i guess i just took for granted that some men arent always in search of pussy...

*****jumping up and down like a motherfucker w/hands in the air*****

[engaged]

Originally Posted by stronghold

Thats gotta be it!!!! He's way too fucking comfortable with his surroundings, and not man enough to start over and work like a responsible adult, and support HIMSELF.
Sugar coat that with the liquor, and he's fucking on cloud nine while YOU bring home the bacon.

Ugh,...no way girl....You gotta change this. I hope Im wrong, but Ive seen it before.

yea he really needs to cuz if i leave its byebye house since his job doesnt give him hours. I dont wana be a statistic but ive tried to motivate him to be more manly but I fail

[KatieColorado]

Occam's razor might apply here though, just playing devil's advocate.

Maybe he thought nothing was going to happen so he rubbed one out before you had asked him, essentially killing his drive and placating himself. He may (he's your hubby, you would know) have a longer refractory period and is just disinterested now that he got rid of the buildup.

It could be like the others have said but as I started out...occam's razor.

[juggernaut85017]

What the FUCK!!! He has a part time job? SHIT!! Drinks too? I could be wrong but being an alcoholic doesnt that kill your sex drive too? And shit with all that time in my hands I bet you he masturbated all your time away I know I would. I'm 28 single and masturbate 2 3 times a day.

Working gets the blood going. A shitty day at work my girl is waiting for me at home I'm going to tear that ass up. Working all day my baby wants some of this but I'm too tired I'll just ask for some head.

I love the idea of a girl that makes her own money I have no problem with a would be gf making more money than me. I just can't fathom a guy not having a job a part time job is nothing. Even if my girl were to make so much money tho pay for all the bills around the house I'd still like to have a full time job. Have my own money and at least pay for my own shit. I'd even pay for cable Internet because I'm a gamer and I need that shit.

I don't know what kind of relationship you 2 have I just don't like the idea of a guy not having a decent job. Even if I had only one leg I would still want a proper job just not to feels so useless.

Now that I think about it it could be a turn off that your the one taking care of the house an he's just there.

Please don't take this as an insult that's just my point of view.

[Wraith666]

Originally Posted by engaged

we have a sort of opposite gender role marriage...I make the money, he has a part time job but mostly is home playing home-maker. But we have no kids. We really should have a good relationship, but I think his love of liquor gets in the way of most things

Ok the extra info helps engaged. I now believe he might be emasculated baby. You make the money, he either doen't try to better himself or feels he can't. The booze is acting like a depressant and now he feels he's letting you down in bed too. Does he come from a traditional male dominated family?

[engaged]

Originally Posted by KatieColorado

Occam's razor might apply here though, just playing devil's advocate.

Maybe he thought nothing was going to happen so he rubbed one out before you had asked him, essentially killing his drive and placating himself. He may (he's your hubby, you would know) have a longer refractory period and is just disinterested now that he got rid of the buildup.

It could be like the others have said but as I started out...occam's razor.

Yea, i never know when he masterbates, so you could be right, but i swear I prep him daily to fuck when we have time in the evening...maybe he is embarassed over his weight gain(happened cuz of the alcoholism)

Originally Posted by juggernaut85017

What the FUCK!!! He has a part time job? SHIT!! Drinks too? I could be wrong but being an alcoholic doesnt that kill your sex drive too? And shit with all that time in my hands I bet you he masturbated all your time away I know I would. I'm 28 single and masturbate 2 3 times a day.

Working gets the blood going. A shitty day at work my girl is waiting for me at home I'm going to tear that ass up. Working all day my baby wants some of this but I'm too tired I'll just ask for some head.

I love the idea of a girl that makes her own money I have no problem with a would be gf making more money than me. I just can't fathom a guy not having a job a part time job is nothing. Even if my girl were to make so much money tho pay for all the bills around the house I'd still like to have a full time job. Have my own money and at least pay for my own shit. I'd even pay for cable Internet because I'm a gamer and I need that shit.

I don't know what kind of relationship you 2 have I just don't like the idea of a guy not having a decent job. Even if I had only one leg I would still want a proper job just not to feels so useless.

Now that I think about it it could be a turn off that your the one taking care of the house an he's just there.

Please don't take this as an insult that's just my point of view.

yea i think you are 100% right, although I believe he truly enjoys that I make the money(at least on the outside) cuz i had to beg him to keep his part time job! not saying that doesnt kill the ego internally-but im not a dude so I dunno. I usually have a shitty day, come home for some good fucking, and find him getting drunk. Way sad for me

[engaged]

Originally Posted by Wraith666

Ok the extra info helps engaged. I now believe he might be emasculated baby. You make the money, he either doen't try to better himself or feels he can't. The booze is acting like a depressant and now he feels he's letting you down in bed too. Does he come from a traditional male dominated family?

Yea his dad is like me, but instead of involving his son in man stuff he told him to go away, so he ended up being raised emotionally by his mom...hence the more female role emotionally. I was raised by a single mom who was more like a dude, hard core "women can do anything a man can" type, therefore I do We naturally should be great for one another, but I want a MAN in bed, and unfortunately I just cant have it both ways

[juggernaut85017]

Single here. Cant tell you how many times i wished there was someone to come home to even just make out with.

Being neglected sucks soon you'll find someone you can confide in someone that might tempt you and will make things more complicated. It happens often. Figure out what you wan always fight for the ones you live until you can't note and you're convinced you e tried. Don't waste yourself away.

[juggernaut85017]

Originally Posted by engaged

Yea his dad is like me, but instead of involving his son in man stuff he told him to go away, so he ended up being raised emotionally by his mom...hence the more female role emotionally. I was raised by a single mom who was more like a dude, hard core "women can do anything a man can" type, therefore I do We naturally should be great for one another, but I want a MAN in bed, and unfortunately I just cant have it both ways

A little bit of testosterone will set him straight. One day you should come out wearing something sexy something he likes and tell him come and get it if not you and him should defenetly talk right there an then And get your answers. Talk talk talk.

[sidmaxx]

Skank alert !!

married for 4 years, been on a porn forum, here, for four years, fucking others behind her husbands back.

then posts a load of bullshite putting everything on him to get all you fucking mugs siding with her and lusting after her.


SKANK !!!!

[Wraith666]

Engaged, all I can say is I'm sorry this is happening in your life. You too intelligent to assume it's getting solved here. And I guess I got us off your OP question. My bad.
Hope all works out for you, honestly. One last comment...what ever you decide, please think it all through and don't make any rash decisions. But you seem to smart for that.

And finally, -KATIE C- you pull a Occam's razor reference? Haha. might just want to say, the simplest answer is the best. But it was great to hear. LMAO