Why would you turn down pussy?

[Wraith666]

Originally Posted by sidmaxx

Skank alert !!

married for 4 years, been on a porn forum, here, for four years, fucking others behind her husbands back.

then posts a load of bullshite putting everything on him to get all you fucking mugs siding with her and lusting after her.


SKANK !!!!

Hey Sid, maybe you should change your location to...I'm just a little bitch unless you call the female farm you date bitches. So fuck-off.

[engaged]

Originally Posted by sidmaxx

Skank alert !!

married for 4 years, been on a porn forum, here, for four years, fucking others behind her husbands back.

then posts a load of bullshite putting everything on him to get all you fucking mugs siding with her and lusting after her.


SKANK !!!!

interesting...since this forum is filled with married people. but immediately im a skank? You have no idea why I have stayed married, nor will I indulge because frankly it isnt your business. im actually really awesome and caring, but 4 1/2 years is enough to go without the stimulation/excitement I need. I had the discussion plenty of times with him and worked to fix it but it doesnt seem like there will be a fix. we will see.

my question was initally general, but related to my situation. Just never had a man turn down sex til him

[stronghold]

Yeah , don't bother with some High School punk teeny bopper. Hes just trying to get a rise out of you.

[sidmaxx]

if you were the husband of the OP just ask yourself

would you expect your new wife to be on a porn forum behind your back from the day you got married ?
would you be happy about her fucking others behind your back ?
would you be okay finding emails that she has sent and received from another guy she is fucking?
would you say it is all your fault?
would you want to still have sex with her?
would you believe a fucking word she said ?

NO !!

SKANK !!

[shyguyy2]

Some reasons for me are Smell,Looks, But mostly lack of interest at the time. Hell up until this week I went over 2 years without having sex just because I didn't feel the need to do the whole game women like to play to get it.

[engaged]

Originally Posted by shyguyy2

Some reasons for me are Smell,Looks, But mostly lack of interest at the time. Hell up until this week I went over 2 years without having sex just because I didn't feel the need to do the whole game women like to play to get it.

yea i dont get the "game" thing...if i want it, give it to me! haha

[engaged]

Originally Posted by stronghold

Yeah , don't bother with some High School punk teeny bopper. Hes just trying to get a rise out of you.

yea, boys who call women "bitch" in any other circumstance than when she is being one wont make it far..."may be with a bitch" lmao

[stronghold]

Originally Posted by engaged

yea, boys who call women "bitch" in any other circumstance than when she is being one wont make it far..."may be with a bitch" lmao

[xnightlessx]

If was offered pussy, I would have to turn it down, it's cause i'm taken (I can fuck a transsexual or CD if I wish, but pussy..that's my girl's job) . If I was single...well than I have to ask these questions:

1. Is she clean?
2. Is she taken?
3. Is she attractive?
4. Is she looking for a fuck or more?
5. Is she sane?

It may seem like a lot..but stop and think about these questions before you rush off to the first pussy your offered, saves you tons of trouble.

[Rothko]

I seems to me that your problems are directly linked to your husbands alcoholism and if you love and care for him you will try and and get him to address this ( no easy task I appreciate ). You dont need to be medically qualified to understand the devastating results which can occur as a result of alcoholism and its not going to get better on its own.

You say he has a part time job and 'plays home maker' could it be that his boozing and and being at home rather than in full time employment linked? Low self esteem might play a part and could well have somehthing to do with his lack of interest in sex ( aside from the alcohol) and this in turn could be contributing to his dependance on booze.

We have to take stuff at face value here and with respect you have only fed us stuff piecemeal. when you talk about playing home maker are you sure you are not putting him down in his efforts either at home or in therms of employment. There are still a lot of men out there who feel it is the guys role to be the 'boss'

He sees you with a good and responsible job and then looks at himself and may well feel inadequate and possibly unworthy.

There should be no reason normally for a young married couple like yourself not to be ejoying sex and no normal reason why a guy would turn down the chance of sex with his wife, at least not on a regular basis.

You need to sort the issues out so he gets help with the alcohol and you tackle the issues in your relationship which are causing this rift. The alcholism will kill him but your marriage will be dead long before then if you don't both get help now

[shyguyy2]

Originally Posted by engaged

yea i dont get the "game" thing...if i want it, give it to me! haha

I've actualy found something interesting with the "game" as I was traveling around the world and thats the fact that it only exists among women that have been raised or exposed to western culture. My favorite country to visit is Ukraine and it only exist there in the large cities yes women still need to feel a attraction to a man before they'll let him bed her but she doesn't leave him feeling like he had to trick her into sex.

[stronghold]

War is hell but what it leaves in a man's mind is far worse. Trust me it is.

A CNN reporter asked a Marine Scout Sniper "What do you feel when you kill"
The Marine shrugged and said "Recoil"

Here's to ya bro!
I respect those statements!!

[shyguyy2]

Originally Posted by stronghold

War is hell but what it leaves in a man's mind is far worse. Trust me it is.

A CNN reporter asked a Marine Scout Sniper "What do you feel when you kill"
The Marine shrugged and said "Recoil"

Here's to ya bro!
I respect those statements!!

Thanks

[bongzilla]

Stress

Fucking tired from not enough sleep

Same old missionary fucking position, spice it up

Gay

Got another girlfriend

Got another boyfriend

[DirthBadBoy4u]

1, if its smelly
2, if its big n hairy
3, if the girls big and hairy ha
4, if u can't be arsed

Don't get me wrong, I've done all of these, and done combos aswel, lots of times, when I was younger n pissed out ma skull, FUCK IT, you only live once eh ha

[timfree]

My concern would be STD's. Other than that she would have to be attractive!

[prince6112002in]

dont u think these are the signs he's a gay or smthing .. talk to him i might be wrong but all signatures lead to him being a gay ..

[engaged]

Originally Posted by prince6112002in

dont u think these are the signs he's a gay or smthing .. talk to him i might be wrong but all signatures lead to him being a gay ..

I think it is more the alcoholism, and being raised without a father who gave a shit too much. But I have considered that a few times in our relationship, more because I've never had an unsatisfied partner. He refuses to admit he has a drinking problem, so i think im out of options

[naztypanty]

I am being chased by a client. If i fuck her it will complicate a ten year business relatonship. I told her that "our friendship, both personal and professional, is too important to complicate with a physical relationship." Kinda worked but I feel the pressure.

[Wraith666]

Originally Posted by engaged

I think it is more the alcoholism, and being raised without a father who gave a shit too much. But I have considered that a few times in our relationship, more because I've never had an unsatisfied partner. He refuses to admit he has a drinking problem, so i think im out of options

The alcoholism is a big player in the issue. And it only worsens over time. I have first-hand knowledge from a personal issue I'm dealing with my spouse. you do still have options but none are easy. Leave him and move on OR fight like hell and get him sober, then start dealing wih any of the psychological issues he may have about sexuality.

[engaged]

What does a man wana hear from his woman that makes him feel manly? I tell him how good he smells all the time and when he is in his work clothes I tell him how sexy he is. I compliment him on how good the house looks when he cleans sometimes.

Just yesterday mornin he said "tonight be ready cuz it's goin in your pussy or ass" but when we are both home he grabs a beer and it's like he never said that. I hope he will get help for drinking cuz after some thought I think he could learn to please me in bed

[Wraith666]

It's not just the words engaged, it's more the actions with the words. Maybe say nothing, drop to your knees and say hello to his 'manliness'. See what the reaction is. Just a thought. And if you'd like to say 'practice', you know just so you feel comfortable...lol

[shyguyy2]

Originally Posted by engaged

What does a man wana hear from his woman that makes him feel manly? I tell him how good he smells all the time and when he is in his work clothes I tell him how sexy he is. I compliment him on how good the house looks when he cleans sometimes.

Just yesterday mornin he said "tonight be ready cuz it's goin in your pussy or ass" but when we are both home he grabs a beer and it's like he never said that. I hope he will get help for drinking cuz after some thought I think he could learn to please me in bed

You said pretty much what men want to hear. I think his need for booze is just too strong and drunks don't remember much of what they say. Untel he gets help for his drinking it will just keep getting worse.

[Jerry626]

Originally Posted by engaged

What does a man wana hear from his woman that makes him feel manly? I tell him how good he smells all the time and when he is in his work clothes I tell him how sexy he is. I compliment him on how good the house looks when he cleans sometimes.

Just yesterday mornin he said "tonight be ready cuz it's goin in your pussy or ass" but when we are both home he grabs a beer and it's like he never said that. I hope he will get help for drinking cuz after some thought I think he could learn to please me in bed

3 simple words that have a profound effect on a man. "I love you!". Those words make a man feel manly and wanted.

Ho.early from reading everything, his lack of desire is a combo of his drinking and your cheating. Yes, he lazy, but that would never kill a man's sex drive. Have you came clean with him? Perhaps he's waiting for the two of you to talk things out?

[thespadez]

I think it's a combination of many things. First off, He is not the man of the house, You are. You are the bread winner. That pisses a lot of guys off right there because it's the man's role to take care of the woman, Not the other way around. Secondly, You allow him to get away with all this shit. You are out busting your ass working full time while he works part time and gets to do as he pleases (drinking all the time, playing games, so on so forth).

Also, and no offense to you, but Sid has a point (if his posts are truthful). You have been on this site for almost as long as you have been married. You have cheated on him with other guys. You are doing all these things while the only bad thing he has done is being a lazy drunk. I think it's highly possible that he found out you have cheated on him and he wants nothing to do with you. IMO - You two are bad for each other and you should just end it before it gets any worst because it will take a hell of a commitment from the both of you before it gets any better and I highly doubt you will get it from him. You should sit down and talk with him and don't take no for an answer. Give him the choice - Either you stay and work things out or you're leaving.

[Old Tool]

From everything you've posted in this thread so far, I'd say your man has a serious case of depression.

The alcohol is a diversion, or masking device, for some deep-seated and unresolved emotional issues. He likely needs professional help - the sooner the better.

good luck

[r34skilyne]

Originally Posted by engaged

Dudes....what possible LEGITIMATE reason does a guy have for turning down pussy? I am not used to rejection

I've turned down pussy because she was way too willing to give it up. It's like something was wrong with it and was trying to get rid of it. No challenge, no game, it took no effort to get it. I eventually fucked her after her numerous advances and was like 'wow, that's it?' I could have masterbated.

So don't throw the pussy at him, your only luck with this would be if it was 2:00 am and the bar is closing.

Or the guy may be involved with some one and doesn't want to mess that up, or you two are friends and he doesn't want the situation to get weird.

[babblefunk]

Originally Posted by engaged

yes, as soon as he started spending my money on airplane trips to "earn miles" i started looking for someone to take care of my needs. on the contrary he doesnt want a divorce, just no sex. i gave him 4 and 1/2 years of patience and faithfulness

Not my normal advice, but just get a divorce. Your shit is broken.

[r34skilyne]

Your husband's problem is that he has been emasculated. He doesn't feel like he contributes to the household and the biggy is he doesn't trust you. He doesn't want to become mentally vested and then have you run around on him again. He is denying you sex because you were getting it else where and is using alcohol to further distance himself from you.

Don't ask him for sex, when he's on the couch, bring him a beer and give him a blowjob. Then hop on, he has to be reminded of "why" you 2 got together in the first place. He'll come around.

[hotjohn4321]

You said "been married 4 years, been on pill all 4. I think he just prefers booze"
Just how much booze are we talking? Difficult to get it up when you drunk.

Your a nurse? You should know about drugs and alcohol and the effects on sex life.
Is he still attractive to you? Have you tried to seduce him?

Has he found someone else?

[engaged]

All of you are right. Yes I do know what booze does to sex drives, and yes he is depressed. I can clean with him about cheating, I'm not good at lying. He also I'd depressed and has gained 80lbs throughout our marriage which I reminded him of plenty as payback for telling me I needed to lose weight when we met. Our relationship is toxic I know. But I don't constantly cheat, it's just when he takes his stupid flights. I'm trying for him. I am semi un-attracted to him but I'm trying to get him to go work out with me by saying things like "it's a good way to spend time together"

I think I need to leave but am giving it a last go for his sake, he loves me and hates the D word

[Wraith666]

Originally Posted by engaged

All of you are right. Yes I do know what booze does to sex drives, and yes he is depressed. I can clean with him about cheating, I'm not good at lying. He also I'd depressed and has gained 80lbs throughout our marriage which I reminded him of plenty as payback for telling me I needed to lose weight when we met. Our relationship is toxic I know. But I don't constantly cheat, it's just when he takes his stupid flights. I'm trying for him. I am semi un-attracted to him but I'm trying to get him to go work out with me by saying things like "it's a good way to spend time together"

I think I need to leave but am giving it a last go for his sake, he loves me and hates the D word

I hate repeating myself..just think it through engaged. It's a life changing action. And only you know when it's time to cut your losses and move on. None of us do. On your side girl...

[swishern]

My BF only turns downs his wife.. if I offer he is eating me..

[rowdy3128]

why turn it down.....
1. marryed
2. not that I like
3. don't do strangers because of STDs


why I would....
1. look at that ......

[r34skilyne]

" But I don't constantly cheat"


But you don't "constantly cheat", ....................how does that sound? You aren't ready for an adult relationship. D Word now, it'll be the best thing you've ever brought to your "relationship".

[engaged]

Originally Posted by r34skilyne

" But I don't constantly cheat"


But you don't "constantly cheat", ....................how does that sound? You aren't ready for an adult relationship. D Word now, it'll be the best thing you've ever brought to your "relationship".

I wonder if you would all say half of this type of thing if I was a guy.
I cheated on him for leaving for Mexico while claiming he was "going to Chicago for a job" not to mention this was when we were more than broke. I'm not gonna make more excuses, cheating is wrong, but I was angry I didn't know what else to do that would make me feel like we were even.

[boner4u]

If I'm sober and she's not, I'm probably going to say no. She has the right to be in the same mental state that I am when she makes that descision.

If she's in a relationship, I don't care if she grabs me and pulls me into the bedroom, I'm not biting... literally or figuratively

If she's related to someone I care about, or is someone I care about, I'm not going to let her get in my pants.

[hornball420]

if he doesnt want the pussy, see if he wants the ass...might get him interested again

[babblefunk]

Originally Posted by engaged

I wonder if you would all say half of this type of thing if I was a guy.

Honey, if you were a guy this whole thread would have been people blaming you, saying you need to work harder, eat more pussy, buy more shit, beg and plead and fight and earn some sex. Then, when you admitted to cheating, the majority of the community on here would have rained holy righteousness down on you. Seriously, there's got to be 10 threads like that. Look around.

To your situation, I repeat:

Your shit is broken. Get a divorce.

[DraganR88]

I never ever ever ever ever turned down pussy

[DocFreakNastee]

Originally Posted by black-raven

LMAO

The reaction that some people have when drugs are mentioned always fascinates me.

I dunno but 420 (nothing too hard core ... ) has always turned me into a freakin fuck machine ... last time I hit some herb then went to play with a lady friend of mine, her and I went literally through the night, I had cum so much that I had nothing left, and she was left laying on the living room floor sith serious gape, a red swollen pussy and a body covered in cum. She loved it but than also asked me to do so again in moderation.

She was walkin around weird for days .. as was I .. good thing I opted to do this on our 1st day of vacation.

[engaged]

Originally Posted by DocFreakNastee

I dunno but 420 (nothing too hard core ... ) has always turned me into a freakin fuck machine ... last time I hit some herb then went to play with a lady friend of mine, her and I went literally through the night, I had cum so much that I had nothing left, and she was left laying on the living room floor sith serious gape, a red swollen pussy and a body covered in cum. She loved it but than also asked me to do so again in moderation.

She was walkin around weird for days .. as was I .. good thing I opted to do this on our 1st day of vacation.

no drugs for me...but I will try that book you mentioned

[black-raven]

Chick, in all seriousness... and drugs aside... if what has been said about you in here is true then your man probably resents you. Being so full of negative emotion about the person who wants to fuck you isn't likely to get an erection at all, and even if he does he's in the wrong headspace to enjoy it anyway.

You've mentioned that he was like this when you first met so I guess I'm curious as to why you think things would be different now?

Try counselling. If it doesn't work then at least you've tried... and if he refuses to go, you basically have your answer.

[engaged]

Originally Posted by black-raven

Chick, in all seriousness... and drugs aside... if what has been said about you in here is true then your man probably resents you. Being so full of negative emotion about the person who wants to fuck you isn't likely to get an erection at all, and even if he does he's in the wrong headspace to enjoy it anyway.

You've mentioned that he was like this when you first met so I guess I'm curious as to why you think things would be different now?

Try counselling. If it doesn't work then at least you've tried... and if he refuses to go, you basically have your answer.

The sex was great until about 2 years ago when money issues got in the way of our relationship. That certainly sent us into a spiral. He drank when we met, why I thought that would decrease I will never know-- I guess when you really care about someone you want to hope for the best. Once insurance kicks in I plan to offer him a treatment progam for alcoholism. And yea, if he turns that down- I gotta go

[Sgtgunner]

What it sounds like to me is that he is using you. First off, he went to Mexico for fun instead of chicago to get a job. What is there to think other then he went there to cheat on you. You confronted him about you cheating on him, now he has something against you. And what ever you do, do not tell him you want him to get treatment for alcoholism, that would be like him calling you or any man calling a woman a cunt all hell will break loose.

You need to turn the row on him, tell him you will not buy his alcohol for him. If he wants to drank, he needs to get a job and support his wants. No more plane rides. Find time to go out with a family member and when he ask where you are going, tell him out with friends from work. Another words take the control out of his hand and put it back in yours. If none of this works start talking about divorce, he doesn't want a divorce cause he has it easy with you. and the next time you ask him to fuck you and he refuses, tell him fine you will go rub one out.

[susi_squeeze]

Been there

[aether]

Originally Posted by engaged

Dudes....what possible LEGITIMATE reason does a guy have for turning down pussy? I am not used to rejection

I suppose if there is puss oozing out along with blood then yeah I would ignore and avoid like the plague but if its completely healthy and no medical issues to worry about then yeah I would accept no problems

[brent1029]

Originally Posted by swishern

My BF only turns downs his wife.. if I offer he is eating me..

She is right about turning down eating the wife.. but not the GF

[johnswisher]

Originally Posted by swishern

My BF only turns downs his wife.. if I offer he is eating me..

And it is the sweetest tasting pussy around.. and Her BF knows I eat her Pussy..

[Yikes_Run!!]

WOW... OK Ive never turned it down. Waite there was ONE time.

I was working Bar security. (door guy/Bouncer) and the waitress (server if you prefer).. just turned 22... to my 35... Married... had a fight with her husband that afternoon was drinking heavily that nigh. She was off at work and could get free drinks.... I gave her two...

She Is married, and I know her husband, SO it wouldnt be right...
AND...
AS often as WE flirt, Our first time together shouldnt be because she was mad at her hubby,So I didnt want to be the scape goat for a bigger fight.

I called him and we poured her into his car together.

I fucked her three weeks later.
We were both sober at the time. She was happy... I was disapointed that for as sexy as she was; she was a dead lay. (Plenty of forplay but after I actially climbed in her.. There was no animation... She just lay there as she let me go at her)
She CAME twice. But i couldn't get off till I stuck it in her in the virgin ass