Has any one loved someone they can't have?

TornSoul · 08-05-2012, 06:18 AM

How do I stop it?

SilverLycan · 08-05-2012, 06:20 AM

Unrequited love can be quite painful. Yes, I have loved from afar, never able to pursue her.

imova · 08-05-2012, 06:29 AM

You really don't. You just learn to live with it. At least thats how I deal with it.

Some times it just gets better with time. You just find your self thinking of her less and less until you don't think of her at all.

TornSoul · 08-05-2012, 06:31 AM

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Originally Posted by imova

You really don't. You just learn to live with it. At least thats how I deal with it.

Some times it just gets better with time. You just find your self thinking of her less and less until you don't think of her at all.

I'm waiting for this to happen.... It's been a year already.

Glad it's not just me

wantsomefun · 08-05-2012, 06:33 AM

They're right. You move on. You stop living in the past, stop living a fantasy, and start looking ahead.

It's not easy, but it works. Trust me -- I've done it often enough.

Diaxis · 08-05-2012, 06:37 AM

I've had the same problem. I fell in love about two years ago. Unfortunately it wasn't with my wife. :/ She fell in love with me too ( neither of us chose this - she's married too ). She chose to step back and conform to her marriage, but its left us both a little fucked up. There is NO satisfaction in it, you just gotta hope you fall in love with someone else and that they'll have the same passion for you.

TornSoul · 08-05-2012, 06:43 AM

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Originally Posted by Diaxis

I've had the same problem. I fell in love about two years ago. Unfortunately it wasn't with my wife. :/ She fell in love with me too ( neither of us chose this - she's married too ). She chose to step back and conform to her marriage, but its left us both a little fucked up. There is NO satisfaction in it, you just gotta hope you fall in love with someone else and that they'll have the same passion for you.

My situation is very similar. We both loved each other. But I'm married and shes dating my friend. It's amazing how complicated things get. We decided to go cold turkey and stop talking. It's been a year, and I'm still in my rut. I wonder if she is? Lol

horny611 · 08-05-2012, 06:45 AM

Yep, i've been in this situation before. Count it as a loss and move on. Doesn't matter how many times you think: "i should of done this" or "i should of done that". The more you think about them, the worse off you are. As i said, count it as a loss and move on.

wantsomefun · 08-05-2012, 06:46 AM

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Originally Posted by TornSoul

I'm waiting for this to happen.... It's been a year already.

Glad it's not just me

Hell, no! It's not just you!

If it's been a year, your woman is not coming back. That's hard, but it's true. Sitting and brooding about her isn't helping. Get out there and mix it up with some new people.

Diaxis · 08-05-2012, 06:51 AM

Yeah I know, you'll go through this period where you're angsting because you don't believe she loved you as much as you loved her, otherwise she'd show it or capitulate. You'll want to find a substitute, but that don't always work. I think sometimes the brain bonds you to someone chemically.

NewtonInk · 08-05-2012, 07:29 AM

Only at least a dozen times.

Matty 1983 · 08-05-2012, 07:39 AM

My step mom!

Diaxis · 08-05-2012, 08:02 AM

I think if I had things to do over I'd never have gotten married. People can be pretty naive, you know, the sex and everything else will be good, they'll get married, and then 10 years later they *actually* fall in love for the first time in their life ( and not necessarily with their spouse ). Its a real eye opener. Makes you realize that people have no fucking clue what they're talking about, and then you realize why 1/3rd of all men and women cheat. The whole idea that you're destined to be with one partner throughout your life is laughably absurd. I personally believe women invented this idea of romance just to lock men down ( while they keep their eyes open for whatever presents itself ). Anyway. Not going to hate on women at all, I just think young people need to be counseled on how unwise marriage is. You can have a family without lawyers and judges involved.

Milo Cronos · 08-05-2012, 08:42 AM

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Originally Posted by TornSoul

How do I stop it?

Your lucky if you can fall in love once and sometimes the second one is when you least expect it and unavailable? You take it on the chin and move on, in my case realizing I made the first choice right!

bongzilla · 08-05-2012, 10:37 AM

Oh fuck I put myself into this situation all the fucking time.
And I know that it will never turn out how I really want it too.

But the old saying,

Better to have loved and lost then never to have loved at all/

really comes into play.

I meet boys all the time that I know just want that 1 fucking, and I will never see them again and it just kills me till I meet the next, and next. ETC.

SecretSexyBlogger · 08-05-2012, 02:05 PM

It takes time, of course.

Usually I resolve to ignore the persons existence, and start making decisions trying to ignore the other person. I didn't go or not go to parties if they were going to be there, I just went if I wanted, not if I didn't. I had to drive past their house on the way to work, or take a big detour. I just promised myself that I'd drive past and not look at their house...

The more that you invalidate them, and practice ignoring the emotional influence that they have in your life the easier it'll get.

Hope things get better. xx

izinami · 08-05-2012, 02:10 PM

No. Haven't even felt love before.

naztypanty · 08-05-2012, 02:46 PM

It is one of life's hardest things, loving somone who will never love us back.

SweetHemiStud · 08-05-2012, 03:08 PM

I thought I did at one point. An ex came back into my life as a freind because I was freinds with her whole family prior to her. After quite some time of getting along as freinds, I went to help her work on her house. It was far enough away when gas was over $4 per gallon to justify staying a couple nights with her, her kids, and her husband. We had a few beers while working and her husband ended up passing out. We continued working a while as we talked...thought I knew minor details about how her husband was a peice of shit and was on his absolute very last last chance...she proceeded to tell me more and more details about it. The next day she had to go to work and her husband was piss drunk passed out ALLLL day long, so I watched the kids cuz he was totally incapable. I helped her 11 yr old daughter with her math homework that she had been struggling with for a LONG time, I was able to show her that there are a few different ways to solve the problem and that she just needed to find the way that works for her. She picked it up really fast once I helped her find her way...found out later she started getting REALLY good math grades since I showed her a few tricks...it felt sooo great. Thier 7 yr old daughter was having trouble with boys picking on her at school. I explained to her that when young boys like a girl they are mean to her because they don't know how else to express themselves and are too shy to initiate conversation...obviously I explained it in terms that a 7 yr old could undertand, but don't need to do that here. Then their 5 yr old son came to me, obviously aware of his dad's drinking problem and that he had been away to rehab numerous times and keeps going back to drinking...and also comprehends that his dad'd body can't handle the drinking...anyway, he comes up to me sits on my lap and says, "I don't want dad to get dead" my heart fucking dropped to the basement. I don't remember what I said to him, but I talked with him for a good hour straight about it. My freind finally got home from work and after a little while we started working on the house cuz her husband was finally waking up to be coherent enough to keep his eye on the kids. We went out for a few drinks to relax and hang out after we finished the stage of the project. We closed the bar down and went back to the house and hung out in the basement playing pool and talking. I told her a little of what went on all day, and she was venting about her husband a lot. We got to the point that I wrapped my arms around her and said "do you have ANY idea how much easier your life would be if you let me back in?" Because my relationship (which I am just now getting out of) was falling apart bit by bit, so I thought I had interest in her again. So at first I thought I was back in love with her but couldn't have her because I was in a relationship that I was too chicken shit or whatever to get out of, and she was married and basically too chickenshit to break it off as well.

Anyway, a couple months down the road, I was talking to my dad about it and it just hit me and I realized it wasn't her that I fell back in love with, it was her kids that I fell in love with because I was able to help them so much and almost turn their lives around in a few days, but obviously still needed guidence and direction to continue to retain what I helped them with.

anal slut · 08-05-2012, 03:18 PM

Haven't we all...?

TornSoul · 08-05-2012, 04:23 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by SecretSexyBlogger

It takes time, of course.

Usually I resolve to ignore the persons existence, and start making decisions trying to ignore the other person. I didn't go or not go to parties if they were going to be there, I just went if I wanted, not if I didn't. I had to drive past their house on the way to work, or take a big detour. I just promised myself that I'd drive past and not look at their house...

The more that you invalidate them, and practice ignoring the emotional influence that they have in your life the easier it'll get.

Hope things get better. xx

That's been pretty much what I've done. It's been my dirty little secret.
I've had to go on with life, pretending everything is fine while I have a broken heart which refuses to heal. Just feel frustrated on how long it's taking. Sick of pretending. I have no one to confide in. Anyone that's my whinge

umpire2 · 08-05-2012, 04:33 PM

Yes

MrBigFoot · 08-05-2012, 04:34 PM

Yes and still do... but hope dies last right?

The Greek · 08-05-2012, 05:11 PM

It's happened to me more than once. Time is the usual cure for this, along with most things. I have to warn you, though, that, for me at least, sometimes even waiting a long time doesn't heal everything.

xnxxbob · 08-05-2012, 05:32 PM

There is a fine line between love and lust. I've lusted many, but only loved 2. Hmmmm.....isn't that a song? lol

Rixer · 08-05-2012, 05:36 PM

I thought I did. She still didn't want me but I determined I didn't love her.

Marly · 08-05-2012, 05:44 PM

It's been 40 years for me and I still think of her everyday!

The Greek · 08-05-2012, 05:48 PM

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Originally Posted by xnxxbob

There is a fine line between love and lust. I've lusted many, but only loved 2. Hmmmm.....isn't that a song? lol

If it's not, it probably should be.

mrwhite480 · 08-05-2012, 08:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Diaxis

I think if I had things to do over I'd never have gotten married. People can be pretty naive, you know, the sex and everything else will be good, they'll get married, and then 10 years later they *actually* fall in love for the first time in their life ( and not necessarily with their spouse ). Its a real eye opener. Makes you realize that people have no fucking clue what they're talking about, and then you realize why 1/3rd of all men and women cheat. The whole idea that you're destined to be with one partner throughout your life is laughably absurd. I personally believe women invented this idea of romance just to lock men down ( while they keep their eyes open for whatever presents itself ). Anyway. Not going to hate on women at all, I just think young people need to be counseled on how unwise marriage is. You can have a family without lawyers and judges involved.

Probably more than that.

Yaztromo · 08-05-2012, 08:14 PM

As a teenager I fell madly, deeply in love with this feisty girl in my year. This resulted in some minor stalking (followed her home a couple of times after school) and much pining away to "Waiting For A Start to Fall" by Boy Meets Girl (the ultimate unrequited love song surely).

I now know it wasn't love but infatuation, but you don't realise this at the time.

whatwhat2 · 08-05-2012, 11:34 PM

Yep! Don't even know what happen to her over the years, it's been 15 years and I think of her from time to time. The best thing to do to get through something like that is buy "Swingers" on DVd and watch it over and over, That is probably the most important movie to me

Gooblaster · 08-06-2012, 02:52 AM

It sucks balls. Look at the situation regularly. Know you made the right choice. And go blast a load down some hot chicks throat--that always makes shit better

ftnbld · 08-06-2012, 03:02 AM

Been there... still kinda there. Met her when she was going through a really rough patch- came to like her- didn't say anything because I felt it was a bad place to say something when she was still getting over the pain of her prior relationship. She gets over the rough patch- I try to say something but she seems to shrug it off. She starts dating so I once again say nothing as it wouldn't be right to keep harping on the issue. She compares me to her bf and says how similar we are. I chat with her bf one time and he says he is glad I didn't live closer or she may have picked me over him. She gets engaged to him 4 yrs later- has a kid. A few months later she asks me if I liked her when we first met- I of course say yes... she asks why I never say anything- I tell her I tried but she always seemed to ignore it. She says she liked me too but wasn't sure how to go about it as she typically had dated older guys and I am 5 yrs younger than her. I repeatedly think FML FML.

And here I am 4 and a half years after meeting her and she is still my best friend although we don't talk so often now that she has a child and a fiance that isn't a big fan of mine.

Diaxis · 08-06-2012, 03:43 AM

The other thing that sucks is that you've talked yourself into the idea that no one else is going to make you happy, or really be your soul-mate, and you start hating on them a little for not recognizing their great cosmic fuck-up. The rest of your life is doom and gloom until you die. Meanwhile you try to gratify yourself and seek the company of others, but it all seems very cheap. You feel like you missed out on your one chance for something perfect and pure. Sound familiar?

wakesurf21 · 08-06-2012, 04:56 AM

I'm there right now. It really sucks. Do yourself a favor. If you know for sure you can't have them, try to forget about them. The girl i'm hooked on is the only girl I have ever fallen in love with. I went a year and a half without talking to her and then decided to hang out with her one night. I had a great time and it was a great night, but the next day I felt 10 times worse than i did before.

xnightlessx · 08-06-2012, 04:59 AM

I haven't..but I've been the object of such situations a few times. Messy results to be honest.

Diaxis · 08-06-2012, 06:06 AM

Yeah flirting with them can undo your progress big-time. Sometimes they'll throw you a bone, only to watch you hit a brick wall. That will set you back a few months and make you feel played and pathetic.

Ovid58 · 08-06-2012, 06:14 AM

Since I was really young, it has happened to me, several times...
I have suffered.
Maybe this is why I have decided to try to never refuse a girl/woman...
I just did my best!...

christina2706 · 08-06-2012, 07:38 AM

I have. There is no fixing it. All I could do was give it time and put distance between us and slowly move on. Sorry, that was my experience. There just is no quick fix.

Symbiotic · 08-06-2012, 07:58 AM

Find another! There will always be another!

Xyz05 · 08-06-2012, 09:47 AM

It's painful

TornSoul · 08-06-2012, 10:44 AM

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Originally Posted by wakesurf21

I'm there right now. It really sucks. Do yourself a favor. If you know for sure you can't have them, try to forget about them. The girl i'm hooked on is the only girl I have ever fallen in love with. I went a year and a half without talking to her and then decided to hang out with her one night. I had a great time and it was a great night, but the next day I felt 10 times worse than i did before.

That's what I afraid off. Lol

I locked myself away for the last year. Scared to go out. Just I case I run into her. FML.

doddle4004 · 08-06-2012, 12:44 PM

If you were really in love and not infatuated it will last forever, just move on
mines lasted for forty years, i've found someone else you will also.

cumhubby · 08-06-2012, 05:43 PM

Been there...bit my story has a happy ending. Fell in love with this girl in highschool and after i gaduated i didnt see her again. Thought about her constantly for the next 7 years. Wouldn't even give another woman the time of day. One day i was on my lunch break, ran into her at a chinese buffet. We are now married with 3 kids and coming up on our 6th anniversary this month.

origen01 · 08-06-2012, 05:58 PM

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Originally Posted by cumhubby

Been there...bit my story has a happy ending. Fell in love with this girl in highschool and after i gaduated i didnt see her again. Thought about her constantly for the next 7 years. Wouldn't even give another woman the time of day. One day i was on my lunch break, ran into her at a chinese buffet. We are now married with 3 kids and coming up on our 6th anniversary this month.

whoa! that is a happy ending...

Yikes_Run!! · 08-06-2012, 07:26 PM

you dont! you try to live with it the best you can and the memmory will eventually fade.

reuban919 · 08-07-2012, 03:35 AM

there was a girl in high school jerked off to thoughts of her every night. never got the balls to talk to her though. she was way out of my league. shit sucked.

GrizzlyPear21 · 08-07-2012, 04:16 AM

I've been at that position and have learned the best thing to do is to focus on what you're passionate about. And if you don't have one? Find it. It is a perfect time to contemplate and discover who you really are. These are heavy truths, but they're what kept me going, I know it can be hard.

Diaxis · 08-07-2012, 04:49 AM

Love is fantastic when you're IN it and its being reciprocated, but it sucks balls like no other when you're cut off. I can say that my work performance suffered for about 2 years haha. It's a shame spurned lovers can't all get together and commiserate separately from the "casually" horny crowd. I'd imagine two people chasing that total romantic high would get on a lot better than two people just chasing an orgasm.

But isn't it interesting how some people can just trigger all the brains neurons and drive you crazy? I think people can key themselves biologically to one another somehow ( and then you're really fucked if it can't play out ).

the fox · 08-07-2012, 05:16 AM

I was in love with a girl once...she had me wrapped around her finger or would have if she knew how she made me feel

but alas she was not even remotly gay and I realised I could never have her.

it drove me insane for a long time. I will tell you this time heals all no point in obssesing over what you can't have

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Diaxis Sex Machine Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: everywhere Posts: 920	I've had the same problem. I fell in love about two years ago. Unfortunately it wasn't with my wife. :/ She fell in love with me too ( neither of us chose this - she's married too ). She chose to step back and conform to her marriage, but its left us both a little fucked up. There is NO satisfaction in it, you just gotta hope you fall in love with someone else and that they'll have the same passion for you. __________________

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horny611 Porno Junky Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Australia Posts: 262	Yep, i've been in this situation before. Count it as a loss and move on. Doesn't matter how many times you think: "i should of done this" or "i should of done that". The more you think about them, the worse off you are. As i said, count it as a loss and move on.

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Diaxis Sex Machine Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: everywhere Posts: 920	Yeah I know, you'll go through this period where you're angsting because you don't believe she loved you as much as you loved her, otherwise she'd show it or capitulate. You'll want to find a substitute, but that don't always work. I think sometimes the brain bonds you to someone chemically. __________________

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Diaxis Sex Machine Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: everywhere Posts: 920	I think if I had things to do over I'd never have gotten married. People can be pretty naive, you know, the sex and everything else will be good, they'll get married, and then 10 years later they actually fall in love for the first time in their life ( and not necessarily with their spouse ). Its a real eye opener. Makes you realize that people have no fucking clue what they're talking about, and then you realize why 1/3rd of all men and women cheat. The whole idea that you're destined to be with one partner throughout your life is laughably absurd. I personally believe women invented this idea of romance just to lock men down ( while they keep their eyes open for whatever presents itself ). Anyway. Not going to hate on women at all, I just think young people need to be counseled on how unwise marriage is. You can have a family without lawyers and judges involved. __________________

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bongzilla Porn Star Join Date: May 2010 Location: Dallas, Tx Age: 48 Posts: 3,000	I now I fucking have many times. Oh fuck I put myself into this situation all the fucking time. And I know that it will never turn out how I really want it too. But the old saying, Better to have loved and lost then never to have loved at all/ really comes into play. I meet boys all the time that I know just want that 1 fucking, and I will never see them again and it just kills me till I meet the next, and next. ETC.

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SweetHemiStud Porn Star Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Michigan, USA Age: 31 Posts: 1,185	I thought I did at one point. An ex came back into my life as a freind because I was freinds with her whole family prior to her. After quite some time of getting along as freinds, I went to help her work on her house. It was far enough away when gas was over $4 per gallon to justify staying a couple nights with her, her kids, and her husband. We had a few beers while working and her husband ended up passing out. We continued working a while as we talked...thought I knew minor details about how her husband was a peice of shit and was on his absolute very last last chance...she proceeded to tell me more and more details about it. The next day she had to go to work and her husband was piss drunk passed out ALLLL day long, so I watched the kids cuz he was totally incapable. I helped her 11 yr old daughter with her math homework that she had been struggling with for a LONG time, I was able to show her that there are a few different ways to solve the problem and that she just needed to find the way that works for her. She picked it up really fast once I helped her find her way...found out later she started getting REALLY good math grades since I showed her a few tricks...it felt sooo great. Thier 7 yr old daughter was having trouble with boys picking on her at school. I explained to her that when young boys like a girl they are mean to her because they don't know how else to express themselves and are too shy to initiate conversation...obviously I explained it in terms that a 7 yr old could undertand, but don't need to do that here. Then their 5 yr old son came to me, obviously aware of his dad's drinking problem and that he had been away to rehab numerous times and keeps going back to drinking...and also comprehends that his dad'd body can't handle the drinking...anyway, he comes up to me sits on my lap and says, "I don't want dad to get dead" my heart fucking dropped to the basement. I don't remember what I said to him, but I talked with him for a good hour straight about it. My freind finally got home from work and after a little while we started working on the house cuz her husband was finally waking up to be coherent enough to keep his eye on the kids. We went out for a few drinks to relax and hang out after we finished the stage of the project. We closed the bar down and went back to the house and hung out in the basement playing pool and talking. I told her a little of what went on all day, and she was venting about her husband a lot. We got to the point that I wrapped my arms around her and said "do you have ANY idea how much easier your life would be if you let me back in?" Because my relationship (which I am just now getting out of) was falling apart bit by bit, so I thought I had interest in her again. So at first I thought I was back in love with her but couldn't have her because I was in a relationship that I was too chicken shit or whatever to get out of, and she was married and basically too chickenshit to break it off as well. Anyway, a couple months down the road, I was talking to my dad about it and it just hit me and I realized it wasn't her that I fell back in love with, it was her kids that I fell in love with because I was able to help them so much and almost turn their lives around in a few days, but obviously still needed guidence and direction to continue to retain what I helped them with.

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Marly Newcumer Join Date: Dec 2009 Posts: 6	It's been 40 years for me and I still think of her everyday!

08-05-2012, 11:34 PM	#31
whatwhat2 Porno Junky Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: alone with everybody Posts: 380	Yep! Don't even know what happen to her over the years, it's been 15 years and I think of her from time to time. The best thing to do to get through something like that is buy "Swingers" on DVd and watch it over and over, That is probably the most important movie to me

08-06-2012, 02:52 AM	#32
Gooblaster Sex Lover Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: Den of Iniquity Posts: 207	! It sucks balls. Look at the situation regularly. Know you made the right choice. And go blast a load down some hot chicks throat--that always makes shit better

08-06-2012, 03:02 AM	#33
ftnbld Porn Star Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 1,320	Been there... still kinda there. Met her when she was going through a really rough patch- came to like her- didn't say anything because I felt it was a bad place to say something when she was still getting over the pain of her prior relationship. She gets over the rough patch- I try to say something but she seems to shrug it off. She starts dating so I once again say nothing as it wouldn't be right to keep harping on the issue. She compares me to her bf and says how similar we are. I chat with her bf one time and he says he is glad I didn't live closer or she may have picked me over him. She gets engaged to him 4 yrs later- has a kid. A few months later she asks me if I liked her when we first met- I of course say yes... she asks why I never say anything- I tell her I tried but she always seemed to ignore it. She says she liked me too but wasn't sure how to go about it as she typically had dated older guys and I am 5 yrs younger than her. I repeatedly think FML FML. And here I am 4 and a half years after meeting her and she is still my best friend although we don't talk so often now that she has a child and a fiance that isn't a big fan of mine.

08-06-2012, 03:43 AM	#34
Diaxis Sex Machine Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: everywhere Posts: 920	The other thing that sucks is that you've talked yourself into the idea that no one else is going to make you happy, or really be your soul-mate, and you start hating on them a little for not recognizing their great cosmic fuck-up. The rest of your life is doom and gloom until you die. Meanwhile you try to gratify yourself and seek the company of others, but it all seems very cheap. You feel like you missed out on your one chance for something perfect and pure. Sound familiar? __________________

08-06-2012, 04:56 AM	#35
wakesurf21 Newcumer Join Date: Aug 2011 Age: 23 Posts: 5	I'm there right now. It really sucks. Do yourself a favor. If you know for sure you can't have them, try to forget about them. The girl i'm hooked on is the only girl I have ever fallen in love with. I went a year and a half without talking to her and then decided to hang out with her one night. I had a great time and it was a great night, but the next day I felt 10 times worse than i did before.

08-06-2012, 04:59 AM	#36
xnightlessx Sex Machine Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: In the Eastern U.S. Posts: 536	I haven't..but I've been the object of such situations a few times. Messy results to be honest.

08-06-2012, 06:06 AM	#37
Diaxis Sex Machine Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: everywhere Posts: 920	Yeah flirting with them can undo your progress big-time. Sometimes they'll throw you a bone, only to watch you hit a brick wall. That will set you back a few months and make you feel played and pathetic. __________________

08-06-2012, 06:14 AM	#38
Ovid58 Porn Star Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Romania Posts: 4,117	I did my best! Since I was really young, it has happened to me, several times... I have suffered. Maybe this is why I have decided to try to never refuse a girl/woman... I just did my best!... __________________ LOVE is more than SEX! But SEX is LOVELY!!! http://stories.xnxx.com/profile69036/

08-06-2012, 07:38 AM	#39
christina2706 Dark Haired Beauty Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: SLP, Mexico Posts: 6,821	I have. There is no fixing it. All I could do was give it time and put distance between us and slowly move on. Sorry, that was my experience. There just is no quick fix. __________________ ♥christina2706 richief's muse Check out Christina's favorite EROTIC pics

08-06-2012, 07:58 AM	#40
Symbiotic Porn Surfer Join Date: Aug 2012 Posts: 12	Find another! There will always be another!

08-06-2012, 09:47 AM	#41
Xyz05 Newcumer Join Date: Jun 2012 Posts: 3	It's painful

08-06-2012, 12:44 PM	#43
doddle4004 Porn Surfer Join Date: Jun 2012 Posts: 31	If you were really in love and not infatuated it will last forever, just move on mines lasted for forty years, i've found someone else you will also.

08-06-2012, 05:43 PM	#44
cumhubby Amateur Join Date: Aug 2011 Posts: 56	Been there...bit my story has a happy ending. Fell in love with this girl in highschool and after i gaduated i didnt see her again. Thought about her constantly for the next 7 years. Wouldn't even give another woman the time of day. One day i was on my lunch break, ran into her at a chinese buffet. We are now married with 3 kids and coming up on our 6th anniversary this month.