Why does it take me so long to cum?!?!?!?

asmshufty · 08-05-2012, 10:59 PM

I'm 23, normal guy. But it seriously takes me forever to get off. And lately even after fucking my fiancee for an hour, i'm just not anywhere close to cumming. It makes her feel like something is wrong with her. And even when I do cum its only by my own hand... so fucking frustrating. Anyone else in a similar situation?

sexomaniac · 08-05-2012, 11:02 PM

During that time you are fucking her, what is going through your mind? Any thoughts?

Just curious.

voicesct · 08-06-2012, 12:50 AM

I once had a similar problem with a girl I loved but deep down knew I wasn't attracted to anymore not suggesting that's the problem though could also be stress induced from work or out of work stuff maybe like the other person said could be about thoughts overthinking etc.

bongzilla · 08-06-2012, 01:23 AM

Dude a lot of dudes are like that I would say I am like like that 70% of the time, I guess because I know what I like and how.

mrwhite480 · 08-06-2012, 02:13 AM

are you attracted to her?

rowdy3128 · 08-06-2012, 02:19 AM

simple it's like every thing....some cum sooner and some cum later..... there is aways someone better and someone worse at anything..........keep it up and have fun............

Druidoak · 08-06-2012, 04:02 AM

Are you on any meds? Some meds can cause your problem, I know my anti-depresant did.

Chris665 · 08-06-2012, 04:25 AM

Just curious as to how much you jerk off? I'm in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend and find that if I get too used to jerking off for a week or so, it can take me a long time to cum when we do get to have sex. If I cut down on masturbation a day or two before I know we're going to see each other (which can be tough lol), I find that generally I cum a lot quicker, usually within about 15 minutes or so.

And as another poster asked, what is going through your mind during sex? Thoughts can definitely sometimes hinder the ability to cum.

asmshufty · 08-07-2012, 12:31 AM

Thanks for the replies everyone. I don't know that I have anything going on in my head at all actually... other than wow this feels good. And my anti-depressants definitely did that when I took them before, although I'm not taking them now. Could there be some kind of residual damage or some shit? And I'm definitely attracted to her. And like another poster said, it being a long distance relationship I get too used to my hand. I'm flying up to see her next week, so no more jerkin off, and we'll see how that goes.
Thanks for the help.

josefpret · 08-07-2012, 11:13 AM

Wish it would happen to me!!!

Caticus · 08-09-2012, 12:22 AM

maybe try mixing things up with different positions. Some work better than others. Best of luck anyhow

cockandload · 08-09-2012, 01:01 AM

If I was a salesman of supposedly performance enhancing and making-you-last-longer substances, I would find this discussion extremely irritating.

08-05-2012, 10:59 PM	#1
asmshufty Newcumer Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: South Carolina Posts: 6	Why does it take me so long to cum?!?!?!? I'm 23, normal guy. But it seriously takes me forever to get off. And lately even after fucking my fiancee for an hour, i'm just not anywhere close to cumming. It makes her feel like something is wrong with her. And even when I do cum its only by my own hand... so fucking frustrating. Anyone else in a similar situation?

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08-06-2012, 12:50 AM	#3
voicesct Porn Surfer Join Date: Jul 2012 Posts: 13	I once had a similar problem with a girl I loved but deep down knew I wasn't attracted to anymore not suggesting that's the problem though could also be stress induced from work or out of work stuff maybe like the other person said could be about thoughts overthinking etc.

08-06-2012, 01:23 AM	#4
bongzilla Porn Star Join Date: May 2010 Location: Dallas, Tx Age: 48 Posts: 3,000	Dude a lot of dudes are like that I would say I am like like that 70% of the time, I guess because I know what I like and how.

08-06-2012, 02:13 AM	#5
mrwhite480 Sex Lover Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: Somewhere along the east coast Posts: 230	are you attracted to her?

08-06-2012, 02:19 AM	#6
rowdy3128 Porn Star Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: mich, Posts: 1,670	simple it's like every thing....some cum sooner and some cum later..... there is aways someone better and someone worse at anything..........keep it up and have fun............

08-06-2012, 04:25 AM	#8
Chris665 Newcumer Join Date: Sep 2010 Posts: 5	Just curious as to how much you jerk off? I'm in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend and find that if I get too used to jerking off for a week or so, it can take me a long time to cum when we do get to have sex. If I cut down on masturbation a day or two before I know we're going to see each other (which can be tough lol), I find that generally I cum a lot quicker, usually within about 15 minutes or so. And as another poster asked, what is going through your mind during sex? Thoughts can definitely sometimes hinder the ability to cum.

08-07-2012, 12:31 AM	#9
asmshufty Newcumer Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: South Carolina Posts: 6	Thanks for the replies everyone. I don't know that I have anything going on in my head at all actually... other than wow this feels good. And my anti-depressants definitely did that when I took them before, although I'm not taking them now. Could there be some kind of residual damage or some shit? And I'm definitely attracted to her. And like another poster said, it being a long distance relationship I get too used to my hand. I'm flying up to see her next week, so no more jerkin off, and we'll see how that goes. Thanks for the help.

08-07-2012, 11:13 AM	#10
josefpret Newcumer Join Date: Feb 2011 Posts: 4	Wish it would happen to me!!!

08-09-2012, 12:22 AM	#11
Caticus Porn Surfer Join Date: May 2012 Location: Sleepy little town of Adelaide Posts: 14	maybe try mixing things up with different positions. Some work better than others. Best of luck anyhow

08-09-2012, 01:01 AM	#12
cockandload Newcumer Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 6	If I was a salesman of supposedly performance enhancing and making-you-last-longer substances, I would find this discussion extremely irritating.