Cheating

[Micky-blue-eyes]

How can I stop myself from cheating on my wife, do you think I was born to fuck around?

[treen]

Why do you want to stop??

[SilverLycan]

Originally Posted by Micky-blue-eyes

How can I stop myself from cheating on my wife, do you think I was born to fuck around?

I think a good start is to ask yourself, why do you feel the need to cheat on your wife? Is there some emotional need not being met, or perhaps trouble in the bedroom? Are you no longer attracted to her? What drives you to cheating?

[StiffDickSteve420]

Originally Posted by SilverLycan

I think a good start is to ask yourself, why do you feel the need to cheat on your wife? Is there some emotional need not being met, or perhaps trouble in the bedroom? Are you no longer attracted to her? What drives you to cheating?

Ya exactly what this guy said.

[bongzilla]

Originally Posted by treen

Why do you want to stop??

men were suppose to spread their sperm in as many holes as possible.

[Kitty2022]

Originally Posted by Micky-blue-eyes

How can I stop myself from cheating on my wife, do you think I was born to fuck around?

If you truly want to stop cheating on your wife then you will. It's not that hard.

[Micky-blue-eyes]

Its easy said than done. I've done it from day one and when the occasion arises its hard to turn it down

[SecretSexyBlogger]

Originally Posted by SilverLycan

I think a good start is to ask yourself, why do you feel the need to cheat on your wife? Is there some emotional need not being met, or perhaps trouble in the bedroom? Are you no longer attracted to her? What drives you to cheating?

This is the most solid advice. Once you know what drives the desire, you can discuss the need you have with your wife, or seek to curb the need.

Be honest with yourself, then with her.

[deere332]

mickey,
I have the same proublom I love to have sex with different women. I love my wife and we have great sex but I look at all women and want to fuck them. Maybe a fettish? Maybe haveing sex with tht same person time after time loses it's excitement? After all when I am looking outside of the marrige it is for sex only just that no love no relationship just sex, most of the time it is only one or two times with any one women then it's off on a search again. I have gone back to see some of them again when times get tough. I am very open and honest with all of the women I meet about my intenchions. Most of the women I find are in the same boat as me or are single and have not got fucked in a while. That is why I like the time to treat them right and make them feel good.P.S. as we speak I have a 24 year old women waiting to fuck me as soon as we get the chance I do not want some lunch hour fuck I want 3 to 4 hours with her at least

[craftspeed]

can't stop.

Love my wife, but she is a zero in bed. Believe me, I've done everything possible to enhance the experience with/for her, but she just has no natural drive. I still love her, care for her... give her everything, etc.

Unfortunately, many of her pretty friends find me hard to resist and love to take care of me... and they have huge urges that I LOVE to fulfill.

[Diaxis]

Originally Posted by craftspeed

Love my wife, but she is a zero in bed. Believe me, I've done everything possible to enhance the experience with/for her, but she just has no natural drive. I still love her, care for her... give her everything, etc.

This. My wife is beautiful and I love her, but beauty and sexuality are TOTALLY different things. A plain-Jane woman with just the right snarl and natural drive will beat any super-model that lays there passively hands-down.

And sometimes people just don't have sexual chemistry. What do you do when you're 10-20 years married, love each other, maybe have kids? Have a financially destructive divorce that lowers everyone's standards of living, and devastate your spouse and everyone around you just so you can go chase the ass you want? Or do you accept your doom? Or thirdly, do you roll the dice, get your personal gratification and tell yourself that their ignorance is bliss?

[mrwhite480]

Originally Posted by Diaxis

This. My wife is beautiful and I love her, but beauty and sexuality are TOTALLY different things. A plain-Jane woman with just the right snarl and natural drive will beat any super-model that lays there passively hands-down.

And sometimes people just don't have sexual chemistry. What do you do when you're 10-20 years married, love each other, maybe have kids? Have a financially destructive divorce that lowers everyone's standards of living, and devastate your spouse and everyone around you just so you can go chase the ass you want? Or do you accept your doom? Or thirdly, do you roll the dice, get your personal gratification and tell yourself that their ignorance is bliss?

go for option #3. Although eventually you WILL get caught.

[Diatravire]

Originally Posted by mrwhite480

go for option #3. Although eventually you WILL get caught.

It's just unlikely that you won't. I'd take them odds

[Micky-blue-eyes]

Thanks for the comments guys and gals. I know what the underlying problem is, but do you think if I found the perfect woman , I could still help myself from cheating on her?

[sschicago]

I am curious for women's opinion.

Although if a woman is horny, she gets her husband to fuck her anytime.

If a guy is horny, he can't always get the wife to fuck him.

So that's why guys need to cheat?

disclaimer: after talking, discussing, etc with the wife about needs... and still you don't get any... then you cheat?

[mrwhite480]

Look if a guy is bored he is going to cheat. Love has nothing to do with it. If the sex is getting old and boring and always the same, guys are going to start becoming interested in finding good sex elsewhere. I wish more women understood this.

[okieblueyes]

As for me fidelity is highly over rated

[SilverLycan]

Originally Posted by Micky-blue-eyes

Thanks for the comments guys and gals. I know what the underlying problem is, but do you think if I found the perfect woman , I could still help myself from cheating on her?

Well the problem is, Mick, that there is no such thing as a "Perfect" woman. You're only setting yourself up to be hurt if you keep chasing fantasies.

[x__orion]

So. I've done the cheating thing. Quite a lot, as it happens, and I've got quite a particular way of looking at it. People might recall the last time I talked about how to cheat, and was promptly accused of being a sociopath... but no matter.

The way I see it, you're cheating for one of three reasons.

Reason one: you aren't happy with your current partner, so you're searching for satisfaction elsewhere, either emotionally, physically, or psychologically. Perhaps you like the thrill.

Reason two: you're not in a time in your life where you want to settle down with someone. Thus, you've got itchy feet. You chafe against the bit of long-term monogamy, and so you stray.

Reason three: you have no conception or regard for human societal codes, or societal morals. They simply do not exist for you; you are possibly a sociopath.

~~~

Reason three is unlikely, because if you were sociopath you simply wouldn't be asking the question you did. You'd just get on with cheating, and you'd be very careful - pathologically careful - not to get caught.

This leaves reasons one and two. It doesn't matter which is correct; all that matters is that you're in a relationship you don't want to be in. This is, surprisingly, easily solved by leaving. And though you may think it's hard to finish relationships, it's not. It's horrifyingly easy. Ask anyone who's ever been dumped by a partner.

But I think you're a little bit scared. She represents something that the great unknown doesn't - regular, quantifiable, reliable affection. In the presence of that, it's easy to thrill-seek. Take that away, and suddenly you're not thrill-seeking, you're fighting tooth and nail. Or are you? If the answer to that is 'no' then I cannot urge you more strongly to leave your relationship, for your own sake and, if I am to partake of societies moral qualms, then I must advise you to think of your partner as well.

[Micky-blue-eyes]

Its not the perfect woman, it's the woman who connects with you in the bedroom

[Shedevil]

Originally Posted by Micky-blue-eyes

Its easy said than done. I've done it from day one and when the occasion arises its hard to turn it down

I'm the same way as you I guess cause I really do love my husband but when guys flirt with me and get me going I just can not seem to say no

[Old Man]

Originally Posted by Shedevil

I'm the same way as you I guess cause I really do love my husband but when guys flirt with me and get me going I just can not seem to say no

What does hubby say to this? Or does he know?

[stronghold]

Im so very guilty too.
But they are experiences I wouldn't take back

[Shedevil]

I think he maybe does know but he hasn't done or said anything yet

[origen01]

Originally Posted by Shedevil

I think he maybe does know but he hasn't done or said anything yet

flirting is not cheating....I wouldn't think your husband would mind at all. I wouldn't and I can get a lil bit jealous...

OP, if you want to stop cheating on your wife you will. If you refuse to, GTFO. It's really that simple.

Or you can tell her and ask for an open marriage. But it doesn't seem like is into that...

[Micky-blue-eyes]

Do you think I could mould my wife into a dirty little slut

[double_d_at_23]

Originally Posted by sschicago

I am curious for women's opinion.

Although if a woman is horny, she gets her husband to fuck her anytime.

If a guy is horny, he can't always get the wife to fuck him.

So that's why guys need to cheat?

disclaimer: after talking, discussing, etc with the wife about needs... and still you don't get any... then you cheat?

For some women this is true however sometimes guys need to really show they want us . Rub our pussy instead of our tits as a hint. It drove me nuts when my ex from a few years ago would rub my tits once and expect me to get horny! It's lame! Take control . Women have to do it when we want sex . I think that he is attracted to women who have a sex drive . Maybe his wife doesn't . If he finds one that's gonna give him every want and need in bed then he will stop cheating he just has to find a woman that loves fucking as much as him

[baller16]

No, you weren't born to cheat. You're not an athlete or a celebrity who gets women throwing themselves at him.

Real men don't cheat. Ever. If you do then you don't deserve to EVER call yourself a real man. Hopefully your wives/girlfriends find a real man someday.

[Alabamajim]

Originally Posted by Micky-blue-eyes

Its easy said than done. I've done it from day one and when the occasion arises its hard to turn it down

does your wife know?

[Ovid58]

Originally Posted by Micky-blue-eyes

How can I stop myself from cheating on my wife, do you think I was born to fuck around?

If you are wise and careful, she will never find out!
Still, it's risky!
Take care!

Originally Posted by baller16

No, you weren't born to cheat. You're not an athlete or a celebrity who gets women throwing themselves at him.

Real men don't cheat. Ever. If you do then you don't deserve to EVER call yourself a real man. Hopefully your wives/girlfriends find a real man someday.

What is this?!? Some joke?!? Or just some anger transferred via your keyboard?...
I am (have been) no shining star or something!...
Real men, if/when opportunity arises, if the "bait" is worth it, won't stop themselves...
It's a life experience, risks involved, and variety!

If you love your wife, and you don't cheat on daily basis, you can still be a very real man, especially if this "extra" activity does not jeopardize your family relationship, or something connected to it...

[DarkerDaddy]

Some theory I picked up in polyamory circles...

If there's problems with your relationship (such as you cheating), then there's probably a need that's not getting met. Figuring out what that need is, then discussing this need with your wife, will help towards a closer, more open & honest relationship. Getting your needs met through your wife would be the goal in your case, as you're in a (supposedly) monogamous relationship.

Converting her to accept polyamory would likely be much more difficult to do... And would require doing a lot of things different than one would do when they cheat... I recommend the first approach I mentioned more strongly.

Cheating is bad to do. It's good that you've recognized well enough to want to change.

[tigercat]

I don't know. Myself, I just like different types of women. It's boredom. Porn has ruined me for monogamy!

[Micky-blue-eyes]

Originally Posted by baller16

No, you weren't born to cheat. You're not an athlete or a celebrity who gets women throwing themselves at him.

Real men don't cheat. Ever. If you do then you don't deserve to EVER call yourself a real man. Hopefully your wives/girlfriends find a real man someday.

Get off your high horse. If it was there infront of you, you're gonna fuck, no matter what!

[Micky-blue-eyes]

Originally Posted by Alabamajim

does your wife know?

ObviousLy not. Or I wouldn't be cheating

[DarkerDaddy]

Originally Posted by Micky-blue-eyes

If it was there infront of you, you're gonna fuck, no matter what!

I wouldn't... The only times I've had sex with other women than my girl, it was her idea, and she was on the bed with us. Good open communication about any potential partners is important to me. I love my girl and would never hurt her by cheating.

I've turned naked women down before, right after a bdsm scene, when they decided they wanted more than we negotiated. It's really very possible. I have never & will never cheat.

[Ryan692002]

You cheat because you lack the self-control to honor your word and you lack the courage to tell your spouse it's over. So you lie and you fuck around like a base animal instead of taking ACTUAL responsibility for your life like a thinking human being.

But hey, in today's world honor and courage don't mean shit to most people so it doesn't really matter.

[DarkerDaddy]

Originally Posted by Micky-blue-eyes

Get off your high horse. If it was there infront of you, you're gonna fuck, no matter what!

I kinda get the impression that you might be looking for an excuse from us to keep doing it, rather than actual help with your problem... I hope that's not the case.

[Micky-blue-eyes]

Originally Posted by DarkerDaddy

I kinda get the impression that you might be looking for an excuse from us to keep doing it, rather than actual help with your problem... I hope that's not the case.

When I say born to cheat, I mean is it in your genes that you cheat. I know my underlying problem. I just wanted views and opinions on the matter. Thank you for your comment though.

[DarkerDaddy]

Originally Posted by Micky-blue-eyes

When I say born to cheat, I mean is it in your genes that you cheat. I know my underlying problem. I just wanted views and opinions on the matter. Thank you for your comment though.

No. It's not genetic. That's just silly. Whether or not a person has sex with another person is a choice (or rape, but that's not really relevant to the question).

You can certainly be more tempted... But that seems more likely to be related to your situation than your genetics. For example... A guy who wants anal sex, but his wife won't let him, will be a bit more tempted by another girl if he knows she likes anal.

[Milo Cronos]

Originally Posted by Micky-blue-eyes

Do you think I could mould my wife into a dirty little slut

Only you can answer this, I was personally able to deal with all the training for me it was being denied sex too long, too many times without reasonable causes! She was warned and we discussed it at length (pardon me if I'm wrong) it sounds like you just want more and if you truly want to work on her you won't be able to do it till you seriously stop cheating! Your raising the bar behind her back?