my affair!!!

[rockstar37666]

So I am 32 and married. However sex with my wife started to get boring. I met a girl that works at the gas station by my house. We started talking and eventually started to meet up after work. Soon enough we started kissing and it progressed into her giving me a blowjob. We had amazing sex last night while my wife was out of town. I'm kinda falling fir this girl a little. The age gap is too much to handle. I'm 32 and she is 20. I just don't know how to talk to her about this....

[SweetHemiStud]

First, you broke 2 rules to discreetly cheating. Now, I'm not an expert cuz I've never really thought of cheating before, but I am involved in a situation that my wife believes to be cheating while I do not. And sort of the same thing, I started to really like this girl with the same age gap...cept each of us is a year younger. Now, all we've done is chat, not even dirty. So I feel it is FAR from cheating...I mean hell, I talk dirtier to my buddies, obviously in a joking manner, but still. Anyway, I know quite a bit about being discreet because of how many of my buddies get caught, I pieced it all together. First rule, and MOST major rule...you chose someone local to you, so there is a possibility of your wife meeting up with her someway, somehow. And if she turns into a jealous psycho bitch, she can easily find your wife and blow the whistle...or your wife could easily walk into the gas station and see you all flirty with her and such, the possibilites are endless. Just not a good idea. Second rule is you posted it online...If you have your own computer that your wife never touches you will be almost safe...but if she suspects something she will go through it trying to find anything she can. You have to keep your shit password protected, a password that she will never guess. This is kinda how I got caught by my wife. Now, my computer I clear the cookies on and any files of pics and conversations and such I bury soooo deep in system folders that she'll never find them, I never passworded anything cuz it appears as you have something to hide. So I did things smart, kept my computer clean and all, and as far as talking and texting, I activated an old cell phone so no messages or calls can be traced. Where I fucked up was I was texting my cousin on my regular phone and told her about this girl, and didn't think to delete the messages. My wife decided th snoop through my phone and saw those messages. So you can bet your ass I have my phone and computer locked down like a swiss bank now, and told her than I have nothing to hide, but just to piss you off, you won't be able to snoop at anything ever again. And I now keep my phone and computer locked up in my truck if I am not using them.

As to the age difference, age is just a number, that frankly means nothing in my opinion because everyone matures differently. Hell, I was more mature at 17 than a lot of my buddies are now whom are all over 45 and a couple are even over 70. Are you falling for this girl because the sex was amazing, and a few decent conversations?? Or have you had a lot of in depth conversations and find that you have many similar interests, goals, hopes, and dreams?? You have to evaluate that first and foremost. Do you have a tendancy to fall easily, if so just the something new and different...and available...is what you are interested in, and this girl has the availbility as you know so you are attaching yourself to her cuz it's easier than going out and finding another girl. You have to be honest with youself and figure out why you are falling for her and go from there. If you genuinely like her in the soulmate type sense then what does age matter, character is character, and if your character clicks with her's that well, are you going to just run from possible happiness because you are afraid of what the (your) world will think about you dating or even possibly marrying someone 12 years younger? Fuck what others think. If they are that shallow towards you about something that makes you SOO happy, then you don't need them in your life anyway.