"I see no soapbox, I Hate Implants? You've made very valid points that I may have missed and if anything reinforced the importance of seeing fantasies as a whole. Thank You for your input,"The only fool is the one who thinks he knows it all and has nothing to learn!" Milo

 

Lesson #15 The Final Installment on this Subject

STICKS AND STONES!
B&D is the physical expression and the psychological constraint associated with S&M that can be as simple or complex as you'd like them to be, for some B&D is like swinging and it's practiced as a lifestyle rather than, a new kink during playtime I will be explaining the latter. So before getting started make sure you understand the basic rules of safety and safe words given in the lesson #14 on S&M and let's proceed! So you and your lover have wanted to try something a little less vanilla, B&D may be just the thing but, where to start? Find a nice quiet time to plan ahead as to how far this kink will take you and I suggest trying one thing at a time whether spanking or bondage (you can weave them together when your familiar with their response)
BONDAGE: Can be very exciting and in my case give the salesman at Home Depot a good story to tell as I purchased 50 feet of all cotton rope, a 3 foot dowel and 2 screw style eyelets (to make a spreader bar) Start simple S&M 101 by Jay Wiseman was my guide to beginning this venture, he makes the point that the commitment to playing should have it's own gear and I agree! Leather shackles are expensive (just starting out), handcuffs are heavy and can be cumbersome in an emergency situation, neckties can be ruined and the knots in them can tighten as the lover struggles or gets excited, causing discomfort (the last thing you want on your first journeys) If you do decide to play in more serious gear a good compromise is shackles made from glove leather (which is very soft) or cloth alternatives but, you can decide with the help of your lover prior to play?
TIE DOWNS: Start with the basics, hands or feet can be tied together or spread apart and lashed to bed posts or under the frame (as in a Hollywood bed frame) if your using rope all cotton is softer with more give and polyester blends can feel like they're cutting into the skin? Cut into lengths of 6 foot and 3 foot will offer you several possibilities and use knots that offer the easiest escape should things get too much, hot or heavy the idea is to have fun! Once you become familiar with it the possibilities are endless my personal favorite is spread eagle for maximum accessibility to all of her body parts and spread legged with her hands tied only together so she can touch me too.
DISCIPLINE: Such as spanking can be most sensually directed to inside the thighs, buttocks, breasts or chest although, you can play in different areas to see what arises? Avoid the face unless otherwise agreed upon it's highly humiliating and can do damage if done too hard! Also, steer clear of any hard strikes to the center of the chest or straight strikes over the heart the can kill by interrupting the heartbeat, use instead grazing strikes across the breast area on men or women. Paddles of leather can come in all shapes and sizes, wooden paddles are heavier and generally intended for the behind only but, start with the flat or cupped palm which your lover may find more pleasurable due to the physical intimacy of contact? Spanking the butt (my personal favorite) can be a real art, my method is elevating strikes from timing, speed and intensity and when we are finished I rub down her butt with a cold cloth and anoint it with baby oil (warm not, hot) Cat of Nine Tails are also an interesting tool used in grazing blows across the breasts or the butt and Riding Crops another, Whips are hard to master without harming and can tear skin (just a heads up!) Candle Waxing is fun but, with some preparation, drizzling wax on the sensitive areas of the inner thigh, feet and breasts (such as nipples) can be a real intense form of play with precautions! Use large candles that have welled from use never use tapered table candles or birthday candles, the wax melts from the point of contact with the flame with no chance to cool and will burn the skin! The wax that melts under a welled candle flame will be hot but, not searingly it's all about fun and no harm should come!
The ideas I've offered in conjunction with Lesson #14 on S&M should give food for thought and creative ideas to start but, let me say again these games should never be practiced by or with the abusive, mentally disturbed, immature or used in one night stand scenarios! Only by couples who have mastered and shown respect to one another in vanilla sex for a reasonable amount of time and are looking for a twist in the relationship? PLAY SAFE, PLAY SANE AND ALWAYS STRIVE TO SATIATE YOUR LOVER! Love, Milo
To All: Feel free to offer any ideas to cover in the next Lessons?

 

There's Always New Lessons To Learn At Any Age!

SEXUAL IMAGE AND LONGEVITY
We all have an image we uphold as our perfect lover is the basis for many attributes we may look for in our lovers past, present and future? What we find in most cases is a few of those attributes with additions of what our lover brings to the table intelligence, sense of humor or uplifting personality all that we may have not included in our visual imaging. We don't think with our eyes but, we can see with our mind those main features we find so alluring, let's face it no one ever says,”I saw his/her personality from across the crowded room!” Then you'll hear,” You can't judge a book by it's cover?” which is mostly true but, you can usually guess the first few paragraphs if your in tune with current trends and perceiving people in general. How about the image we show to our prospective lovers we may go to the gym, dress nicely, keep ourselves clean and prepped for the possibility of a future encounter with one who really turns us on right? What about after we have someone do we go to such efforts to keep them turned on? History would tell us that we get a little lapsed with hygiene, gain a beer belly, the make up stays in the case just for special occasions, etc; you see what I'm saying? It doesn't make sense when the average person invests so much time in getting this someone special, to eventually do everything we can to test their ability to adapt to our flagging outlook on how they should see us? “If you loved me it wouldn't make a difference!” True but, you can love someone with all your heart while being slowly disgusted with their declining image, lack of hygiene and/or vigor for sexual excitement whether from a lack of energy or other commitments that we feel more compelled to be ready for by looking and feeling our best! It's no lie to say men and women are at their best when they're looking for it but, once found lose perspective on how to keep what they have, it's a basic catalyst to cheating, separation and to the extreme divorce when we no longer see ourselves through the eyes of our lover. The answer to low libido, sexual dysfunction and boredom all starts with what we do and how we prepare ourselves everyday in being our best for our lover. 1)Starting today! Look at your diet not the amount of food but, it's quality in whole grains, vegetables, water intake daily, clean proteins and limit take out over a cooked meal with great foods while learning how to eat properly (forget what your parents taught you about three square meals) each meal containing a little piece of protein, a small portion of complex carbohydrates and a good portion of vegetables instead! Small subtle changes over time will leave you energetic and not overstuffed and lazy on the couch, choose a dinner out at a restaurant each or every other week (No Fast Food) as a date night you two deserve it! 2)Maybe you like them fat? (So do I!) Then get both of you involved in an exercise program requiring cardio and some form of light to heavy progressive resistance training no less than 3 days a week and 45 minutes each session. Being heavyset is no reason for not being able to be sexually active for a long time or at least in decent shape under that exterior, if you won't do it for you do it for her/him! Teighlor of porno fame was at 600 pounds at the height of her career and trained with a trainer 4 days a week to be a very active large woman (surprisingly!) in her movies most of you won't have an excuse at this point! If your in shape stay there and don't let it go, if your not then just train the minimum for less sexual problems in the future it keeps blood pressure regulated, gives you vigor (after the initial beginnings) and regulates necessary hormones for sex well into your golden ages, even old people can exercise and fuck! Regardless to who your lover is right now or could be you benefit in spite of the fact of being better for them, people who work out are happier and healthier (Just a Fact!)

1. Now check your head! Face, ears, nose and toenails keep them clean and neat, dress them up when you can? Go all out men and women to keep yourself just a hair above hygienic and together on the outside for your lover and don't fall into the trap of (less than occasionally) comfy crappy shirts and shorts especially, when it comes to the bedroom! We should all have a drawer with sexy clothing meaning it fits right and your lover likes to see you in it so, don't be afraid to ask them? If you start to follow rules #1and #2 in no time sexy outfits may come in your size or a style that turns them on, men find a nice cologne, perfume for the girls and ladies treat him to a little make up every so often, just to enhance what we already see everyday?
2. Love doesn't conquer all! It takes commitment to ourselves and our lovers to be the best we can be no matter the cost if being seduced or seductive is truly how we want someone else to see us? I raised two kids, a home and a family on a limited budget with all the same problems that every relationship runs into (just about) and it wasn't till I turned that mirror on myself that I realized how much improvement can be made in a short period of time and by involving my wife in it. Our sex life still has minor setbacks that are usually beyond the scope of our control but, we press on, over and around them till we find the solution! “When you feel you have them, (your lover) is when you may have already lost them!” MILO
   

 

26 Years Married!

Celebrating 26 years of all the trials and tribulations of a well rounded marriage, far removed from the days of wicked (stupid) arguments and fights. My wife likes that I've started writing again on XNXX she says it makes me a lot happier when I'm trying to help (I would agree) I hope to bring more lessons shortly on my Anniversary vacation next week! I just wanted to share my joy and thank everyone that's been amused or educated to experiment a little further in their sexual relationships, it's helped me grow knowing that some of you may be or have been as happily married as I am in every way?
To all my XNXX friends and family Thank You, Milo :excited:

 

I'm not sure if this is a rule or not, but I noticed something you said above.
Most men have sex with someone the first time without being taught, and the person they have sex with isn't very good.
I'm of the belief that men are like ducklings, the first woman/man they have sex with sets their way of having sex, and it can take months to retrain them.
So please women, if you find yourself having sex with a virgin, take the time to do it right! Don't just use the sex as a way to control him, which I see all to often, let him explore, tell him what feels good, and by all the Gods, do NOT fake an orgasm! He'll figure that if he repeats what he did with you for the rest of his life, it's gonna make other women cum.

 

An extremely valid point, that first experience really does rub off along with a slew of bad information when we use phrases like,"All guys like blowjobs" or "All girls want their pussy eaten" which just isn't true! It's why most men believe that a big dick fixes everything or a woman getting a boob job to be more sexy, it misses the point that every new sexual partner is different with similarities not, the other way around? My first lover was being seduced by my older female cousin who taught me to be respectful, move slow and thoughtful to her feelings, deep penetrative kissing, dancing, etc; from that I've never been a wham bam thank you ma'am, not a fan of quickies (blowjobs and hand jobs in a back alley or bathroom) and if your going to give me some? I can wait till your ready to give me all! Teach your lovers well, ask questions and give advice when needed a good lover will appreciate it!

 

Thanks For All The Views!

What it lacked in responses it sure made up for in views over 4000! I hope that the advice helped some and gave food for thought on the next thing to try in the bedroom? Like Gallagher (comedian) said,"There comes a time when you mount the handle bars to the bed and pull out the can of Crisco!" I agree. What I covered may seem simple to some but, I always believe that the best sexual ideas start with the basics! I hope you enjoyed my rants and I will be constructing a thread that teaches the basics of diet, exercise and sexual longevity (in process) called,"Fucking Your Way to Fitness"
Thanks To All, Milo :excited:

 

Lesson 101

Never be afraid to really get into it when you eating pussy. Get your into that thang. And you come up her juices should be dripping from your chin....and she should be smiling (that's the point...right?)

 

wholy smholy
i have been missing out

 

At 22 you have plenty of time to catch up Cantido and Mr, Daniels I like the way you think, it's a whole lot to read but still one of my best endeavors ever for trying to help others understand the many ways of putting excitement into their sexual relationships! It's a privilege to be here for others then let a lifetime of education go to waste, thanks for bringing it back up I'm honored and available for new questions?

 

Another good thread of yours, Milo. Thumbs up!
:rose::rose::rose::rose::rose::rose::rose:

 

"Thank You all!" An educations is only fun if you can share it for free (as well as get paid for it) I want everybody the experience that I've built a loving, sensual, sexually charged relationship over 26 years? Same woman who cried because she felt so inferior to my wanton relationships by not knowing literally, the first thing about being her first? Endearing me to circumvent many emotional moments with rationale! If she's afraid and doesn't say,"NO?" the possibilities were endless with the responsibility of being her best firsts!
I read everything I could get my hands on to make the transition to unlocking the "Virgin to Whore" logically, by learning to "Speak French!" and other inhibited moments from her past to be explored before we're finished?

 

It's very generous to share. And you surely share lots of good information.

 

"MY NEW YEARS WISH FOR EVERYONE!"

"Live Every Sexual Day to it's Fullest!"

[FONT=Times New Roman, serif] But don't overplay the hand you've been dealt? Last year I hope some of the sexual advice I gave prompted some of you to get in shape for love making and helped you achieve that orgasm? It's a new year for furthering our sexual education to all the lovers who have been there, tried that and succeeded in having terrific sex I applaud you for another year of the same! If you've opened up your communication with your lover the past year then great things will “cum” and here's how to keep them going? In the throes of sex we get caught up in patterns that have worked for so long that we forget that the whole sexual spectrum is still available to us and even in the best sexual situation we get bored? We may not acknowledge it for fear that we'll ruin a “good thing” by making it too complicated or beyond our lovers comfort zone? But, when we don't push new limits or make minor changes we deny our lustful nature for new challenges (hence cheating?) Remember if your in a monogamous relationship it's not the time to get comfortable instead, get creative or that monogamy won't last long before someone wants more and hope they tell you first and not another lover? [/FONT]
[FONT=Times New Roman, serif] This year for all of those who say they are too busy, life's to hectic or the work loads between careers, children, school and housework are too enormous to find alone time for exploring our mutual sexual interests your courting a disaster waiting to happen. My wife was always too tired, out of shape (being a heavy woman) and too busy to put on her pair of sexy panties or even find time for me that's when I had to sit her down and explained my feelings of being pushed aside for everything and everyone else! I didn't just cheat I told her I was going to and she took the easy way out and allowed me no less then three indiscretions, I took it as a free pass and cheated for years in the beginning of our married life? Our love for each other was strong but, that living two lives made her think I'd fall in love with my mistresses and my mistresses knew I'd rather be home with my wife and some tried to change that! So, someone (me) had to stop this vicious cycle before it killed a marriage! [/FONT]
[FONT=Times New Roman, serif]:rose: Monogamy gives you the impression that they'll always be there waiting for you to find time for them, they'll get comfortable that your not satisfying their every need willingly with desire and full of passion when it's not simply true! Monogamy should mean the works just begun on a long adventure to sexual satisfaction that will (almost aways) be lead by one lover to improve it's outcome over time. So, if your the one who's always in the mood or wants more creativity communicate directly and daily to reinforce the positive changes and the support needed! I hope to share with you what it takes to improve a fledgling sexual relationship and continually explore new possibilities with someone who's less than enthusiastic view of sex can be changed with perseverance, love and time? HAVE A HAPPY AND HORNY NEW YEAR, MILO[/FONT]