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  1. poseilah

    poseilah Porno Junky

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    Hey people! How are you in this amazing sunday night?

    Listen, anyone here have problems to cum while being blown? My wife sucks real good but when I'm about to burst in her mouth, I stop! I dont know why, but my cock simply stops pulsating and I dont cum... however, while fucking her, I cum in 2 or 3 minutes...

    Whats wrong with all of this?

    Thx! And have a wonderful weekend!
     
  2. seafoam1

    seafoam1 Porn Star

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    I don't always cum from a BJ, I think experiences vary.
     
  3. Little_Lexa

    Little_Lexa Sex Machine

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    Personally, if I have a guy taking longer than I am feeling it should, a quick finger up the ass for prostate massage does the trick. If he objects to it, I just stand up and tell him "My job is done here I guess." There is nothing "gay" about getting milked. Every guy I have done it to loves it. As one guy tells it, I saved his life doing it.
     
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      The only thing I could say would be to look up a video on Prostate Massage. She should feel the gland in there as a bulge or a knot Between the anus and the front of your body. Pressing on it should release precum and every guy I've done it too said it felt amazing. One guy said it felt like a cross between the good feeling you get when pee'ing and cumming. You could be one of the few with little or no feeling in it.
       
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    3. bigred500
      My boyfriend would never let me milk his prostate. Sounds interesting, though.
       
      bigred500, Mar 20, 2017
    4. springsteen79
      I haven't had it done to me in a long time.....but good God I love it!
       
      springsteen79, Mar 20, 2017
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    5. Little_Lexa
      @springsteen79 Glad someone appreciates it but I should stop doing it since someone here thinks it's "rape-y".
       
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    6. springsteen79
      Difference of opinions.........I wonder if I was asked before it was done to me......I doubt it. But it was about 1982, very few things were rape-y back then!
       
      springsteen79, Mar 21, 2017
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  4. VenusInFurze

    VenusInFurze Online Odalisque

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    I know a lot of guys who don't cum from blowjobs, or who do so rarely. I don't think it's necessarily a problem. Although if she's trying to blow you till you cum, I guess it could get tiring or frustrating for her sometimes.

    I always tell my partners when I can tell I'm not going to have an orgasm, so they know it's not them failing to do something right.
     
    1. poseilah
      Thx Venus!

      Hmmm, I never thought that she could get frustated... and it makes sense, because when I'm licking her and she wont cum, she tells me... even if I get frustated (because I really REALLY like when she cums in my mouth) at least I wont get tired...

      You said that "sometimes ppl rarely have orgasms"... believe it or not, but in 11 years we're together, I came twice while blown... TWICE! But both of times were AMAZING! I almost gave myself a facial! =P I came really hard and long... it was awesome!
       
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  5. mayling

    mayling Porn Star

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    Sometimes my papi says he wont be able to cum when I'm giving him a blow job but that has yet to materialize. He always ends up being able to and I credit myself for making such a great effort to not let that ever happen, but it has been trying a few times. I think. :)-
     
    1. slutwolf
      now that's the way all you others
      who don't
      quote:
      "making such a great effort to
      not let that ever happen"

      A perfect lil cock sucker :)
       
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  6. Hussie6776

    Hussie6776 Occasionally. So what..?

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    Wow you're incredibly happy and friendly! Let's see..

    Sounds like it's only a problem if you think it is. Most of us have a good idea how and when we can orgasm. Sometimes we may prefer it this way or that, whatever. Sometimes it only the journey that matters.

    Avoid frustration. If you can't flick the mental switch, take a break, change it up. As long as you're partners OK, don't make a big deal out of it.
     
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    1. poseilah
      Thx! We are switching these days.. I tell her that I wont cum and then we go on to sex... the most impressive thing is that she is ALWAYS wet, but so wet that she stains our bed sheets!

      Also, we always do 69 and ahe cums in my mouth... its awesome, because after cum, she wants to ride me and then she cums again!

      Thx!
       
      poseilah, Feb 27, 2017
  7. Hush

    Hush Happy Hhedonist

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    Though I do not have a lot of time to post on this tonight, I have long believed that though there are no doubt many possible reasons, one of the primary reasons that men have difficulty cumming from a blow-job is that through their previous sexual experiences, they have essentially been brainwashed or trained not to.

    Every time that a woman/man complained about the taste, the volume, that wanted him to cum elsewhere, not yet, or not to cum there... That pulled away at the last as he was about to cum refusing to let him cum there... That chastised him for either wanting to or cumming there to even flat out refused to suck his cock... and finally all of the times that he or others utilized it only as foreplay before finalizing making love in other ways (like saving it for vaginal sex) assuming that once he had an orgasm, sexual play would be over... It over time sets in a man's mind subconsciously that he is not supposed to orgasm via oral sex, and that to do so will bring about a negative result.

    So be it that the man himself or most likely others have made experiences in the past negative ones, men set up mental roadblocks to achieving an orgasm through oral sex just as strong as the lessons of not getting an erection at inopportune moments. Enough times of that happening, or where he stops himself for whatever the reason, "I believe" there comes a point where many men find it impossible to orgasm during a blow-job.

    When I worked I encountered it often, and just as many times since. There were even times when I was flat out paid to try and make a man cum in that way in that he believed that he was not able. Even with the permission given by himself in that he had paid, that I had given him permission to do so by agreeing to it, and finally in that certain fears such as cumming in my mouth were negated by the fact a condom was used (when I worked), they could not allow themselves to cum, and though you might think they would pull away to stop it, truth was they would instead become numb (mentally not physically) before it did.

    That said, my 2-minute blow-job an example of how to combat that, I learned that I could if I did so fast enough, power through or perhaps make his orgasm happen so quickly that he could not stop it. More so, I made it a point not to pull away and lingered after simply confirming that it was alright and desired.

    The result was, after even just a couple to a small few times that previous conditioning was broken. Not just by using my own techniques to overcome it, but when given the opportunity, he could once again orgasm from oral sex with a willing partner.

    So, though it might not be the reason in every case, from discussions with those individuals, how they responded before hand, and how they regained that ability after, I believe it is more often than not the source of the problem.

    So give yourself permission, don't worry about it, and if you want more or something else after, just have her keep sucking for a bit then go for it.

    Hush....an alias

    Oh p.s.: A finger up the backside or squeezing hard on his balls is not only a way to keep a guy from cumming, yet also cost him his erection if that is something that he doesn't specifically want or like.
     
    1. mayling
      Hush, may I ask if you made a lot of money when you worked ?
       
      mayling, Feb 27, 2017
    2. mayling
      And I have no other reason for asking that but out of my own curiosity.
       
      mayling, Feb 27, 2017
    3. Hush
      I made just enough...

      Hush....an alias
       
      Hush, Feb 27, 2017
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    4. poseilah
      Thx Hush! Your history always teaches me so much! Wish I had lived so intensilly as you had...

      So, the thing is that I try to cum... in fact she tells me that she doesn't like the taste and stuff, but either way I try to cum, but when I'm about to, my penis simply stops! I really don't understand why this happens, but I'll try to clear my mind and cum...

      Just a PS from my text: Believe it or not, but in 11 years that we're together, I came just twice while blown...

      Again, thank you so much Hush! =D
       
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      Thank you Hush.
      You have summed up my sex life in a few paragraphs.
       
      Shopdog, Feb 27, 2017
  8. tryanythngonce

    tryanythngonce Sex Lover

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    My boyfriend is like this. After about 30 I start giving him a handjob 38th intermittent oral. When he gets "there" I finish him with my mouth. Maybe get your wife to try this technique.
     
  9. Powerhouse75

    Powerhouse75 Porno Junky

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    If I was your guys tittie fuck would be a lock
     
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  10. poseilah

    poseilah Porno Junky

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    Thx Tryanythngonce! I thought I asked her to finish with a BJ after sex, but she doesn't like the taste of her pussy and my precum... but I'll ask her just to see what she'll say...

    Thx for your report!
     
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  11. notdescriptive

    notdescriptive Porn Star

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    It does really help when a guy hears "I am going to give you a blowjob and I want you to cum while buried in my mouth."
     
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  12. tryanythngonce

    tryanythngonce Sex Lover

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    I love the taste of my own pussy. Sometimes I jump off in the middle of sex just to suck all of my juices off his cock. Then we go back to fucking lol
     
  13. poseilah

    poseilah Porno Junky

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    Hey everyone!

    Just being here to say that yesterday I finally came after a blowjob/handjob given by my wife!

    I followed your advices to "let it go", "do not think 'I have to vum' and just relax"

    I actually relaxed and came a lot! Even my wife was so surprised that she was happy! If we were alone (my brother in law was in our guest room) I think she would lick my cum after finishing! She was really happy!

    So, thank you all for your valuable advices!
     
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      And we have lift off! Great to hear!
       
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  14. notdescriptive

    notdescriptive Porn Star

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    Having an orgasm while fully inside a mouth that's gently sucking = nirvana. Congrats! You've a goodwife.
     
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  15. JWM

    JWM Porn Surfer

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    Sounds like those got things figured out :)
    grats!
     
  16. lilmonkeygirl_42

    lilmonkeygirl_42 Sex Machine

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    Wow, so your partners consent doesn't come into the picture when you think a blow job it's taking too long? Sounds a bit rape-y to me.

    Why wouldn't you ask first if they mind a finger up the bum, either leave if they say no or continue if they say yes it's fine?
     
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      CFH3ll, Mar 20, 2017
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      @Little_Lexa Actually I do negotiate before things get hot and heavy, so there's no confusion. Maybe that's the difference here, I get and give consent to acts prior to them taking place, it's something I think is important especially when it comes to impact play. If I haven't asked a guy if he's into having his ass fingered I don't spring it on him in the moment.

      What is this figure of speech you speak of?! I do not understand, maybe you could explain it to me? Glad to hear you were not intending to sound rape-y.

      I really don't give a care whether or not you think getting consent for actions is a mood killer, and I definitely don't need or want your pity.

      What clients are you referring to? I'm not a professional sex worker.

      Do I have something against you? No, I don't. You're just another internet girl, no skin off my nose if you don't like what I have to say. :)
       
      lilmonkeygirl_42, Mar 20, 2017
    4. Little_Lexa
      @lilmonkeygirl_42 I want to end this. The figure of speech was "My job is done here, you tried to make it sound like I left them high and dry, that was not the case. If I can't make them cum with a blow job, why continue it? I'll move on to something else. Second, When I would tease or press their asshole, I would not enter without some form of confirmation. Either them shaking their head or them forcing themselves onto to my finger. And besides, I never said that I never asked permission, there were several times when I'd pop their cock out of my mouth long enough to "Oh god, You want me to stick my finger in your ass baby?" You were the one who assumed it was "Rape-y" and trying to call me out on it. Which I thank you for by the way. I was enjoying reading your post until today.
       
      Little_Lexa, Mar 20, 2017
    5. Little_Lexa
      And you don't have to tell me "I don't care if you like what I say or not." You've already made that point clear. I just think it would be nicer of you to thoroughly think things through before accusing someone of rape.

      I'm sorry, personally, I like spontaneity in my sexual encounters. I do not always think of everything and get signed contracts ahead of time(again, figure of speech). If I am making out worth a guy in the bar and take him someplace private, I do not ask play 20 questions with him before I continue with him.
       
      Little_Lexa, Mar 20, 2017
    6. Little_Lexa
      The clients comment was my bad. I even mentioned to @CFH3ll that I forgot to delete that. I was pissed at your accusations and it was either clients or victims that popped into my head, and then afterward I calmed down, I realized I should have used "Partners" instead. So again, I am sorry for that.
       
      Little_Lexa, Mar 20, 2017
  17. CFH3ll

    CFH3ll OMERTA'

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    I don't always cum from a bj but I'm with @Little_Lexa on this one. A finger or a bullet set on pulsate does it everytime..
     
  18. CFH3ll

    CFH3ll OMERTA'

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    It's like raaaaeeeeaaaaiiiin on your wedding day.... it's the free ride when your already late... it's like raaaaaeeeeape...
     
  19. CFH3ll

    CFH3ll OMERTA'

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    It's like, liking a certain set of tits but not really liking the person they are attached too...:showboobs3:
     
  20. shadowfap

    shadowfap Fap Happy Jester

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    Could be you just don't cum from blowjobs alone. Maybe you've desensitized yourself through masturbation. Explore yourself with your wife and discover new ways.