Hey have been asked by a couple ( 2 good friends ) to ask this due to the fact the male of the couple is embarrassed to ask anyone but was able to talk to me due to the fact im dont judge people, (hes not got an account either so can you please give me answers relating to the subject nothing else)

Well hes in his late 20's (met him at work) hes with a wonderful woman whom i know well, but the thing is shes always wanting sex and hes not interested in the sex much, he says he doesn't want it much at all but wants to want it with her, hes said hes attracted to her as shes the only woman hes truly had any sort of feelings for, that he loves her and could not imagine a life without her, he worships her and the fact that shes always wanting sex, makes him feel hes not enough for her and she thinks hes not wanting sex at all cos its her fault, that shes not sexy or attractive etc, but honestly they have a pretty perfect relationship without the sex they both said to me but she would love them to have more sex and he agreed with her , he thinks that the sex is something that's not important to him as its not just for something to do its a way to connect intimately as well as physically but his life with her is more important. Hes got a drs appointment booked just wanted to asked if anyone else has been through similar too, pm me please so i can show him messages and give him advice and help her to understand this better as he did admit that at first he thought she wanted sex all the time but hes didn't know that she didn't and now he cant she would like it all the time :/ these are 2 wonderful people who do not know how to handle it and need advice till the drs appointment thanks x

 

Not buying it

 

Agree Heywood

 

You, I mean your "friend" are far to young to settle for this situation which is not likely to improve much if at all.
If the relationship isn't working now it's not going to work later and it is time for a change.

 

Pull the other one...its got bells on..

 

What kind of language is this?

 

well i must say this seems like the second post you posted and so far had everyone thinking its utter bullshit which i dont know what to believe as im pretty new here!!! As for the sex isn't the be all end all relationships, for some people tho it could be but how can you say its not working when you hardly know whats going off and i admit that i know how the lass in the relationship feels as most women would. im in a loving relationship and the sex is great when we have it but there more to sex in the relationship we spend days cuddling and just been close and then there are days where we fuck more than once but hey no relationship is the same some people believe that sex makes it better, well i learned at the age of 18 that it doesn't and i had a 8 year relationship where it was no sex, if sex happened it was only when he wanted it and nothing in return for me, he hid porn in the house and wanked all day i was out, he never wanted sex cos his dick was in his hand all the time even at the loo and his feelings of sex where i would get it if i deserved it, of he gave me money to make him happy once in a while, do you no what he left me after saying i withheld sex and it was him so yeh he blamed me for that when he was the one who thought he could manipulate a woman and belittle her. I didn't leave for 8 years cos its all i knew and i was stupid yes i know that so no blame but me for putting up with it but after 7 months on my own i really found what it was that caused that marriage to break down and that was no communication, no sex and he certainly did NOT trust me with women or men as i'm bisexual. My point is it is maybe just maybe something medically wrong or psychologically wrong thats making him not want sex, ie thyroid problem or something like that. i myself had a period not so long ago where my sex drive was no existent and that was when i had 7 month on my own no men no nothing yes i spoke to men in that time but no relationships or anything and now its back but i'm not one to judge anyone at all. i Know everyone has there opinions on people but then again it could all just be a fake assed post again but we wont no unless we knew who was posting , men are easily as embarrassed about things to do with sex IE: E.D, premature ejaculation and don't seek advice or anything and suffer in silence about it maybe instead jumping down her/his throat maybe take a second to think oh wow this dude could actually have a problem thats medicial or ive been in same position no man will admit it due to the fact it makes them seem a wimp as my ex said but hey thats just how i see things, its not the fact she posted it seems bullshit but the fact men are also same as women and vulnerable at times and need advice and maybe its the truth but not wasting my time anymore lol hope who ever posted this shows her 'friends' the reply i given them and maybe its the fact shes always nagging for him to give her sex that he doesnt want it thats her fault not his really now stop with the fake posts!!!!

 

I am going to call BS on this one too

 

My friend is 40 divorced and in a relationshipwith a man who does not show as much interest in bed, I have tried to explain to her on a few occasions that she should discuss it with him, I know that the guy works he arse off and everyone needs some time off, the actual point being to let him know she will be taking matters in to her own hands, they have a stable happy relationship other than she wants ot get laid every evening and most mornings. Sex isn't everything, after all the guy who did it every evening and every morning divorced you!

 

Asexuality is a thing, and it has degrees- from a complete lack of any sexual desire for anyone to limited amounts of desire for specific relationship partners. Asexual people can enjoy sex but they don't crave it and they can easily live without it. They can still be romantic and crave physical closeness, but it doesn't tend to lead to sexual intimacy.

That said, I don't have much advice. Trying to make an asexual person more sexual is like trying to make a gay person straight- it goes against their identity. Either they both need to accept that the relationship won't be as sexual as they want, or they could have an open relationship and she could fulfill her sexual urges with other people.

One of my partners is asexual and I don't think I could be in a monogamous relationship with him, no matter how much I love him. But because I have other sexual partners I'm able to love him as he is and not put pressure on him to be someone he isn't. Yes, I would love to have sex with him, and it does get frustrating sometimes, but I don't have to be totally frustrated.

 

What guy wouldnt want sex.. I want it all the time but i never get any lol

 

Man talking as a woman: Come and fuck my tight dirty cunt hole with your massive cock you big stud.
Woman talking as woman: Did you bring chocolates?

See, there's just something off about the tone of the posts, almost like it's a guy trying to sound like a woman but who has very little idea of what women actually sound like. I could be wrong, but I reckon it's a bloke.

 

No woman would choose the name "hotchick" either.

I figured I'd answer it seriously though because it could be useful to someone reading this in the future.

 

We all deal with problems in life. We have to remember that life is not just a short trip around the corner it's a journey. There's going to be great times, good times and bad times but we learn and grow through the good and bad. As we grow older we get much wiser and learn what's important in our lives, the responsibilities we now have when we get married and start raising a family. The carefree days of our youth are behind us now, when we had no responsibilities, no bills every month, a prick that would turn purple when it got rock hard and you could fire off 5,6 7ft ropes and never go soft and when it did it wouldn't be for long, that's when you could say too your friends I'd fuck that all night when you seen a hot girl walking by and you actually could. We were able to bend, stretch and fuck in any position imaginable without having to see the chiropractor the next day. I'm sorry about going on and on but I didn't want to just say that I think this question is bullshit, I wanted to fling a little myself.