Why I am not surprised in the least.

 

I've perfected the friend count. Now, here's some bacon.

 

It's always good to have a few "snausages" or "beggin strips"in your pocket when talking to Rix lol.

 

Here's a fun thing to do. Next time he's got the mind to hump your leg, throw one in the middle of the street. I know that it sounds mean but man that fuckers FAST.

 

I find it's a good idea to wear heavy long pants or chaps around the li'l leg-humper...

 

Can't have too many friends? Yet you are into one upmanship. Those are contradictory statements. Though I'm sure you will come up with some deluded reasoning that justifies your logic.

 

On the contrary. The friendzone is a natural and inevitable social phenomenon. It occurs when one person has romantic feelings for another person but is seen only as a friend, that's it. It's that simple. Regardless of what the neckbeards and feminists say, it's not about being entitled to sex. If you take away the cultural connotations and bias on both sides, you realize that it's pretty much the social chickenpox. Just about every single person who's ever lived has either been friendzoned or friendzoned someone else, you just don't know it unless someone confesses to you.

 

Good post and I do get it.
But I don't know why people whine about it.
If I ask a girl out and she says no, I'm ok with that, I wouldn't say "lets just go out as friends then" or suchlike.
I have a work colleague who refers to herself as my "work wife" I'm ok with that too but I make sure that we have no contact outside the Office so she can't get the wrong idea.

 

Thank you. What you described is an "all or nothing" reaction, in which if the feelings aren't completely reciprocated, a person will sever ties and try to remove those feelings either out of loss of interest or to prevent emotional turmoil. It's easiest when you have a slight interest in someone and not full infatuation. However, the level of frustration is directly proportional to the depth of one's feelings for the other person. The more you love someone, the more desperate you are to keep them in your life, and the more it hurts to not be loved by them. For adolescents and people suffering from depression or romantic inexperience, it is especially hard for them to just make those feelings disappear. They may believe the subject of their affection to be their soulmate, or see love as a way to escape their emotional pain.

 

They may become so focused on the other person and the fantasy of a life together, that it's impossible to predict or even accept any other conclusion. To them, failure is not an option, and receiving reciprocated feelings is not a matter of "if", but "how" and "when". So, they accept what affection they can get, remaining as friends with the other person in the hope that sustained contact and communication will change the other person's feelings.
Then there are the people with self-confidence issues, who simply cannot handle rejection. This can be due to an over-inflated ego and the belief that they deserve whatever they want, that the world owes them everything, perhaps even a sexist superiority complex and a belief that women should serve men (these are guys who use "in the kitchen jokes" unironically). Or on the other end of the spectrum, they can't handle rejection due to a lack of confidence, and the inherent need for someone of the opposite (or same) sex to accept them.

 

The funny thing about the ego guys is that they use the friendzone as a way to protect their ego. They see themselves as a friend to the other person, that at least at some level, they've won the affection of the other person, but that belief is not mutual. They may claim to be in the friendzone, but the other person doesn't even see them as a friend.

 

Lots of guys hit on me, but I have to let them down gently.
Of course, there have been a few I could see myself dating, but I would never cheat on my boyfriend.

 

So, do they know this?

I think that it's possible that we see this differently.

 

Of course they don't.

 

So. you wouldn't fuck any of them while you are dating?

Really?

 

I don't understand the question. I said I had a boyfriend and won't cheat. If I didn't have a boyfriend, I could see myself dating some of them.