Honestly I figure men get bored of hand jobs, cause no one can give a better hand job than themselves - right? Could be wrong, there's more to it I guess, but I try to provide them something that they can't do with their right hand.

 

Frankly, the above makes no sense to me in that many women who I begin jilling-off, making it clear that "this is for 'me', my sole desire is to make you orgasm like it or not" are so floored by it that men who are 10x easier to provide a crushing experience for I have little doubt feels a vast difference between me doing it and their own hand.

Hush....an alias

 

Sorry I got a little confused by what you're saying there, but it's late at night so I could be misreading and missing it, but I suppose it's just something I've heard men say before, so it's sort of echoed in my mind since then.

 

It all depends on the person. I personally have always enjoyed giving handjobs, because it gives me the opportunity to see the pleasure on my lovers face.

 

I love getting them and my wife loves giving them. Win all round!

 

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I don't mind it all....though there are times where the speed and strength of his pulls are more than I can muster....usually then I just watch him finish himself off while providing encouragement......the best part is of course the cum shots.....

 

If by better, you mean quicker, you're right.

The fun in getting a hand job from someone else is that it's not so efficient. You don't have control over how fast you come and it takes longer and is more intense because of it.

 

I love handjobs. It can be combined with a blowjob. What makes it so great, is the softness of female hands. It's the difference of night & day when you jackoff yourself. Of course, you can lube your dick up but nothing compares to female hands.

 

I loved giving hand jobs back in high school. It meant I didn't get fucked, unless I wanted to.

 

I love to condition men to be able to take hand jobs of gentle squeezing and tugging until I fall asleep with hard cock in my hand. Then when I wake up the next day they are very tentative to me.

 

I enjoy giving hand jobs, especially when my b/f lets me do it to other guys----get to feel different size cocks and I get to swallow their cum---yum

 

Hand jobs are a useless and pathetic act, if your not open for it all then there's no use even starting what you don't intend to finish!

 

I give handjobs if the guy really wants it, but I feel self conscious and awkward about it. A guy's been masturbating with his own hand for years, he knows exactly what he likes and how it feels, there's no way I can do better than that.

I did, after writing that, go back and read the posts about how guys like it anyway, but that doesn't make me feel any better about doing it. Great, now I have even more to live up to. Just let me blow you already.

 

I love to feel a cock as it goes from flaccid to rock hard in my hand.

 

I'm still surprised that in this thread so many either believe that giving a hand-job is a waste of time, and or receiving them. Vaginal and anal sex is clumsy at best in comparison, and for many simply boils down to an "I made it to home base thing." Further, a blow-job is a ridiculous affair without exceptional hand work. That's one of the big issues I have with hands free face-fucking, deep throating and all that, in that they have moved away from the realm of physically pleasurable (for the man), and into one simply arousing him by sating his feelings for dominance, or power, or control, or her submission, whatever.

That's not to say I have issue with vaginal/anal/oral sex, yet I firmly believe that it is very often what we do with our hands that makes a vast difference. So much so that over the years I had many clients that would after week after week of V/A/O etc. sex, would "treat" themselves to the bottom-shelf offering being a hand-job, in that, that act alone is "all" about their pleasure only. Pure focus upon them, and making them orgasm violently. Frankly, much like treating themselves to a massage... There is a reason "rub and a tug" is common massage parlor parlance.

In any case, though I linked to it in the lead post, I'll simply repost one of my techniques for giving a hand-job. It is NOT simply jerking off.

My Quality 15 Minute Hand-Job
Asked some time ago to write up some suggestions for performing a hand-job as a follow up piece to other posts on techniques, I’ve decided to add it here. (This actually a repost having added this to a few threads on the forum).

First off, certain subjective aspects I'll avoid like for instance dress of either the one giving or receiving. I myself prefer to be nude thinking the visual helps. However the moment I say that here comes Joe Blow wanting me to wear a Nun's habit as that's his little kink. In kind Tommy Tosser might like to be dressed himself, your hands down his pants as it makes him feel like he's being naughty.

Other things like position however I'll try and balance somewhat though also subjective. I say that in the regard that some aspects of position help, yet others again are just a subjective matter of taste. A good example of that would be my favorite position to give a hand job. Sitting between the receivers thighs my cunnie pressed to his balls (wetter the better), and legs over his thighs stroking his cock near my belly up between my breasts.

Now some guys really like that position in the regard of cumming on my belly or breasts or up toward my mouth. Others in that to them it looks like I'm stroking my own cock like some Hentai "dick girl". Yet again that is subjective, a matter of taste. What is not however is the fact that their balls are being manipulated, and more so their legs (as I push out) stretching the tendons and muscles enhancing the orgasm.....So that aspect has value.

In the end however, whether I'm sitting beside you in a car and we're both fully dressed, or both nude me over top of you in a 69 my coochie in your face for the view.......A guy is going to cum due to certain things I do, and it is those things that contribute to build a perfect generic handjob.

Anywho.....

Lubricant:
I've known many, many men who like a "Baby Powder" hand job. Cornstarch works as well if not better. Yet be it talc or cornstarch if you have never tried this give it a shot. For men it is a totally new experience if never having tried it.....Yet I do not believe it is the best thing to use.

Now over my lifetime I could not even list the things I've been asked to use. From old standards like Vaseline and Crisco, butter, Wesson Oil, numerous sexual lubricants, motor oil, even eggs (yeah was weird) to things not even slick like honey or things that actually burned like Vicks Vapor-rub or Icy Hot (owee) and things much, much worse (won't go there).

Of them all, two stand out. The first being a hair gel I once had. It smelled nice, was slick though not ridiculously so, yet in a push one day having nothing else used it and the guy came in nothing flat not even getting hard. Sadly I can't recall the name and have not seen it for years. However there is one lubricant that next to the gel stood out.

Hawaiian Tropic Dark Tanning Oil... Now I don't mean any tanning oil, I mean that one, that cheap common one we all see in every store anywhere we go round the planet. Most sexual lubricants in my opinion are simply too slick. Too slick can be as bad as too sticky frankly, yet for some reason Hawaiian Tropic Dark Tanning Oil has that absolutely perfect consistency to it. Not too thin, not too thick, semi-slick at first, gets slicker as it warms yet still not too much so. It stays somewhat thick though thins a tad being rubbed to a perfect viscosity, and even has a nice smell about it to remind one of bikini clad beauties laying out in the sun for all to see. Lastly, it seems to generate a nice though delicate warmth, and with very little soap and water is gone, most other lubricants difficult at best to get off, and till it is washed off remains slick.

So my vote for lubricant is, Hawaiian Tropic Dark Tanning Oil...

Position:
No matter what the position I'm to be in, it is important that I have the guy in a relaxed position. Be it laying down, or sitting (best in my opinion him sitting yet reclining back and fully supported), I want him to be absolutely at rest, comfortable and not having to hold himself up. It is also VERY important that I not be in a position where he feels he should reciprocate. Now don't get me wrong, some guys want very badly to touch my cunnie, boobs, ass, feet whatever while they are being serviced and that is fine, yet I want to make it clear through my position that this is ALL ABOUT HIM. Not me being made to feel good, JUST HIM. My thrill in this is being able to make him cum, yet I want this a very one sided thing.

A second aspect of position is I want him to be able to "crunch". Meaning, I don't want him sitting up straight unable to as when he crunches it will tighten the muscles through his abdomen all the way down to his anus. In kind and just as important I want his knees spread apart. Not splits wide, yet wide enough that when he nears cumming and feels the need to pull them together I can offer resistance. That will tighten the tendons and muscles over his perineum and greatly improve his orgasm.

Now I've tried sitting behind and using my heels to keep his knees apart, trouble is it's hard to reach around most men, plus I can't see how he is responding and worse still he must usually lean forward so it hurts that crunch aspect. I don't want him laid out too flat as first off that hurts the visual for him having to strain to look (big for guys). Second I want all of his muscles in a relaxed state so not too taunt, and laying back gets the belly too taunt.

Ideally a reclining chair is perfect. He's at rest, leaned back yet up enough he can see and crunch easily, yet best of all I can pull his feet together between my knees, so to him feeling well anchored, yet that forces his knees wide for me to move up between them, and I want to get close, very close essentially his balls will be belly button height to me if not against my cunnie as I mentioned before.

Alrighty then.....What say I put my aspects of lube and position into how I like to give a handjob, then combine all aspects discounting that which is just personal preference and make a solid generic handjob for anyone (naturally you guys will have to keep me in check as I'm a little biased as to my own efforts), and it's been my experience a GREAT handjob should take no more then 15 minutes if the guy wants to cum.

Lube, Position, & Technique:
Having set the man down in a nice reclining position, perhaps leaning back to 45 degrees, I want him at the very least nude between his knees and ribcage if not totally nude. At this point I would move up between his knees in a kneeling position, and WITHOUT lube I want to touch him to wake up his body and get it focused toward his cock. Even those simply masturbating I believe should do this, as think about it, when you play a little touching chest, belly, abdomen, inner thighs and so on before you do, don't your orgasms feel better?

Now I'll do this in a very specific way. Soft touches, then contrasting with very soft scratching nails, back and forth yet ALWAYS, firm when moving in the direction of his cock, and very light moving away from if not totally not touching him. I want to remind him that his cock is the axis of this whole thing.....YET.....I do NOT want to touch his cock or balls yet.

Imagine touching soft though the firmer of the two swirls of my fingertips as I move down from his chest to his pubes, up from his knees along inner thighs to the hollows of them next to his balls. If moving my hand in soft circles even then I want to be sure to be firmer when moving toward his cock, yet much lighter when moving away, and even better still if I do so where I move say up from his knee 1/4 of the way then back, then 1/2, then 3/4. You get the picture. I'll do the same thing down his chest and belly yet in all cases I will not touch his cock or balls.

This focuses everything toward his cock, and once it starts to become hard or even twitching, I'll then continue the above yet allow there to be more and more "accidental" touches to the outside edge of his balls or cock, perhaps just an inch down the top of his cock, yet never fully touching either.

Once I feel he is ready to move on (and you must watch him to move at his pace), I'll more and more work only closer to his genitals. IOW, where I was touching his chest to his pubes before, it has gradually worked down to no higher then his belly, then no higher then his abdomen, then no higher then his pubic mound, and the same thing with his legs. At this point he should be very ready, everything, every part of his body focused on his cock and his mind screaming "do it!"

Now all of the above will really only take 2-4 minutes at the most, so it's not really as big a deal as it pays off to do it. At this point I will having worked to only touching his pubic mound and the hollows of inner thighs with accidental brushes to his cock and balls, move to work them directly.....YET.....Again in a specific way. Yet lets call this 3 minutes...

If you want a man getting hard to get soft, pick up his cock with just your thumb and forefinger. It makes them feel small, and the reason I say that is it has a point as I want them to feel big. So, I will make it a point to first off drag my fingertips, all of them and my thumb, down from his pubic mound over his balls and no matter how tight I have to squeeze them together I want them all touching.

I'll make it a point to comb through his pubes if he has any, then with my thumbs running down the center of his cock my other fingertips insuring to get the sides of it, underside and top of his balls, sides, and slightly behind with my pinkies, will drag down to a point my palms are past his scrotum, then gather it up in the palms of my hands and slide my palms up over it all back to his pubes. Repeat as often as seems right, then get serious. Lets call this part 1 minute, so we're at 4 minutes.

He should be getting hard by now (though may not depends on the man and don't sweat it)....It's time to get serious, and that means slipping your thumb of one hand under his cock, and be sure to wrap around it with ALL of your fingers. Do the same with his balls, and though you may be gently stroking with each, massage both the cock and balls while you do gently squeezing, and do NOT stroke up and down the shaft of his cock more then his skin moves. You should NOT be slipping your hand over his skin, it should be moving the skin so your fingers never leaving where they first touch. Make your intention VERY clear. Look them straight in the eyes and state in your most sultry of voices. "I want you to cum for me".

That makes it clear this is for them physically, yet for you as a thrill as well. When ready, reach over and take the oil with the hand touching his balls NOT his cock. We're now at 5 minutes, that an additional minute roughly.

As I said above I think the absolute best lube for a handjob is Hawaiian Tropic Deep Tanning Oil....Naturally you must use what they like if they have a preference, yet in any case have the bottle open before you start, you don't want to fumble with it, it also important to have whatever be warm. Cold oil makes for a hiding cock. Upon his confirmation he wants you to make him cum, begin to add the oil.

You're going to pour the oil directly onto his cock letting it flow over your fingers and thumb loosening them so it can get under them (figure out another lube if not a liquid yourself as there are too many variables to post). Once the oil is under and below your hand, you can even do this by tilting his cock back toward his belly and opening your palm some to cover the underside of his cock, very loosely and gently begin to smooth it over, and once his cock is covered with that same hand begin to cover his balls.

Take your time doing this, though in reality it only takes about another minute as you not only cover his cock and balls yet massage it in somewhat (as the skin will absorb some of it, you want it to do so yet then add more which it's that slight excess which is the part that lubricates). We’re at 6 minutes.

Once he is fully oiled set down the bottle never taking away the hand from his genitals and add the second one to them. You should have added enough oil to also soak into that hand and still have excess. Then begin massaging the oil into his skin of both his cock and balls in a somewhat clinical fashion. We're not stroking to make him cum at this point, we're just insuring he's covered and letting him get used to the warmth and feeling of you hands covering his cock and balls fully. Take roughly another minute to do this.....7 minutes.

Now we get down to it......At first use just one hand on his cock and the other on his balls. Move slowly. Slowly twist your hand from the base of his cock up to just covering the head with at the most your thumb and index finger just passing the tip yet tightening as they do. Do not go past this point and then softer back down twisting your hand back (think of the twisting like a barber pole).

While you do that let the heel of that hand brush his balls, have your other hand be fully massaging his balls gripping around the base encircling the scrotum and dragging down, then your hand not leaving them using your palm rub up. Feel free to pause and stroke with your fingertips toward your palm softly massaging them. At this time, you can vary how firm your touches are going from soft to firm it still hinting of working the oil in yet more and more becoming a stroking of his cock. Do this for a minute or two....So lets call it 9 minutes.

Once he is beginning to respond well, as you slip your hand over his balls slip just past the palm cradling them and let your thumb slip under them all the way to the base. Now though contrary to the "out" theme we want to do shortly, balls don't move too well from bottom to base so we'll keep up the base to bottom aspect. Feel free at this point to rest the backs of your ring finger and pinky to his perineum. Do not press too hard, just a massaging circular motion as you gather up his balls and let your hand slip up pressing them to the underside of his cock.

Reach around with your thumb and fore finger and begin to massage the sides of his cock at the base to reach his cowper glands, and all of the motion or massaging of the balls will now come from the palm and heel of your hand and the web of thumb and forefinger slipping over them. You'll not really let the testes go below the web, more pushing them up inside the scrotum slightly stretching it, then back down.

As that is happening the other hand still doing the same as it was, you now want to shift to an "out motion". In other words, as though gripping to milk his cum out. So, your grip will be tighter on the upstroke still swirling, looser on the down stroke yet be sure to let the heel of this hand brush over his balls gathered up by the other yet don't mash them hard (even if he like that as he won't cum as quick). Do all the above for about another minute....We're at 10 minutes.

When he is now fully into this and getting closer to cumming, we now want to delay it...Yes, that's right...Delay it yet do so in a way that it seems we just became more intense. As you bottom out on the down-stroke of your hand on his cock, at the next up stroke let the hand that has his balls gathered up slip up WITH the other. This should be easy your thumb and forefingers tips already at the sides and base. THINK before you do this, as do this wrong and make it clumsy it will delay things much more then we want. As the hand at his balls slip up we want it to twist in an opposite direction then the other. Same on the down-stroke almost like wringing his cock.

Do the above your grip ever gradually firming about 5 strokes, and we're still moving slowly, yet on the last upstroke let the top hand actually run over the tip of his cock with your palm then back down which will have that hand now upside down. As much as you may want to flip your hand back over DON'T!

5 strokes then back over it now right side up. 5 strokes and pause at the top your lower hands web just tugging at the flaring head of his cock as the other rubs the tip in the palm a brief moment then back down (right side up or upside down doesn't matter)...5 strokes do that again, and as you do the above, sit up so you're just on your knees (if on the floor) not sitting and move closer to his cock and balls slightly forcing his thighs apart....That aspect is important, do it.....We're at 12 minutes.

As soon as you have moved close you're now going to continue the opposite barber poling yet you will not move the top hand higher then till the web of that hand tugs at the flaring head of his cock. Do that for about 15-30 seconds, then slow as it reaches the flair and pull up as though it's stuck there. First your top hands thumb and fore finger will click over. Make a show of it as though it was too tight to pass, then popped past them. Then your index finger, then middle, then ring, then pinkie, and continue with the next hands fingers till you finally slip past with your pinky and will close your hands into fists as it passes over the tip.

Now slowly go back down the same way as though the cocks head is forcing apart your hands like a great big giant cock pushing into a tight virgin pussy. Slowly all the way back down wringing as you go. Then up again though this time DON'T let your last pinky pass and back down. Then your ring finger not passing, on and on through all 8 fingers till finally back to none passing. As you do this, starting very firm at first, each stroke very slightly loosen yet ever so slightly move faster. Once at the end of this process we're now going to make him cum, he should be ready.....14 minutes.

Your hands should be loose and moving much faster now still wringing up and down his cock. Slowly begin to tighten them again yet your pace should continue to rise. Back to being sure to grip firm on the upstroke, looser on the down, and as you see him getting close to cumming we set up for the final motions. Keep his thighs apart as this gives him something to resist against as he cums trying to pull his knees together. That will improve his orgasm dramatically as the muscles and tendons over his perineum and various internal glands even his anus will tense and squeeze *for you* on them.

On a down stroke, let the bottom hand slip over his balls again gathering them up, press your index finger and thumb to the sides of his cock at the base and press down firm onto his cowper glands as the heel of your hand presses to his perineum. Try to vibrate that hand if you can as you massage firm and squeeze.

Your hand on his cock should this moment stop the barber poling or twisting. We're now about signaling it's orgasm time, so stroke up firm on the upstroke, loose on the down, and just let your thumb and forefinger ride up over the ridge of his head then alternate to just over the tip back and forth. Move faster and firmer each stroke, be sure to let the heel brush his balls and watch for him to get ready to cum.

Now here is where knowing your partner helps. Some guys like their balls mashed, some don't. Some like a very firm grip when they cum, others like for you to loosen it dramatically. However they like it, I suggest a slight pressing of the balls, and by being tight on the upstroke and loose on the down that is also accomplishing the "get the cum OUT" mindset. Move faster and faster, firmer and firmer, and as he starts to cum either slow or speed up your upstrokes to match the pulses of his orgasm. That will also help him to shoot more and farther, which will leave him with the impression of "best orgasm ever".

We're at 15 minutes........That last though seeming like a lot is really not much and done him close to cumming.

Keep moving like that through his orgasm. Slow too soon and it will wreck it. However, once it has ebbed slow quickly. Most of all do NOT stroke past or even up to the head of his cock, don't touch it just the shaft.

To bring him down as you slow let your hands not touch him as specifically yet we want them touching him fully. So lots of palm. Gradually work to softly and fully massaging his balls and cock like when we started touching him, slower and slower gathering it up as an entire package, till you stop holding his cock and balls as a neat package between your hands fully just softly massaging while pressing fully yet not stroking or moving much. Then stop fully and ***WAIT!***

It should end with your hands on his cock and balls softly kneading them letting him get soft. When he stirs to get up or reposition, then you can take your hands away yet not before, and you wait as long as he needs to regroup.

Then ask for the Porsche

That's my 15 minute handjob... Naturally it will vary dependent upon partners and their tastes... and a nice touch is after telling him to relax bringing in a pan of warm water and soap, and wash the oil off (hence what I like to use it comes off easy), and dry him remaining kneeling till he gets up.

Hush....an alias

 

Being a huge fan of getting (quality) handjobs, I had a girl years ago who just gave awesome handjobs and really enjoyed it. I had "real" sex (in the meaning of penetrating) before and after her, which was much worser than her handjobs. Simply the thing was that she enjoyed what she did: Having a man "in her hand" and make him moaning and cum just by her hands. You can only enjoy what you do, if you love what you do. A woman giving a handjob just for doing him a favor will never enjoy it.

 

I love stroking, tormenting, and jacking a cute, hot boy... I enjoy being in control of his orgasm, and making him ooze hot pre-cum, then seeing him squirt, and feeling his hard cock pulsing in my hand.

 

Spooning her, cock nestled in the small of her back. My mouth and lips dominant on her nape, neck, ears, top of spine. Hands holding her breasts, fingers playing with her nipples and clit, a hand gently wrapped over her throat. The whole time her arm behind her back, fist and fingers jacking me, lubed up. I can fuck her hand, bite her neck, caress her throat and hold a tit, all at the same time. My mouth near her ear so she can hear my breathing when I orgasm, cumming into her hand and through her fingers.