While viewing some gay porn clips I have noticed that in some cases, the guy taking it up the ass is not hard. Maybe some of you gay or bi guys could explain this.

 

I usually stay hard while taking it up the ass. Other times I may be enjoying my sphincters and prostate being stimulated, fantasizing this is the sensation a women feels while being fucked and my dick is limp.

 

This has been a concern of mine... A female friend wanted to explore anal sex, but before that could happen she insisted that I try it first and this seemed to be a fair compromise. She had gotten me hard, lubed up my bum hole and inserted an average sized vibrator. The sensations were great and as time progressed, my hard on lost it's urgency. It didn't diminish totally but the sensations in my arse overwhelmed the need to sustain an erection and my concentration was diverted. I was obviously aware of this, which didn't help and this slight loss of erectile appendage compounded my dilemma.

I am hoping that with further 'practice', I can indulge in both anal and penile activities together without any of the sensations being prioritised. It should be an interesting experience..

 

My cock has always been so hard a cat couldn't scratch it when I was getting fucked in the ass.

 

J'aime baiser les gros cul en doggystyle

 

When my gal pal pegs me most of the time it is limp sometimes 1 out of 5 it is hard. I really don't care Because I can squirt cum out of my cock hard or soft while being pegged by her. And also cum more than once with a soft cock So unless your going to be fuckin and not the fuckeee a limp cock is fine, I'm not gay or bi yet

 

You out can be hard or soft depending on your mood, as long as you enjoy it don't worry about it.

 

I like to give a guy a hand job while pegging him. He'll stay hard.

 

If you just received a phone call stating that you have been fired from your job, does your dick stay hard? If while jerking your dick and driving you rear end a cop, does your dick stay hard?

I could go on and on with that line, the point being however that as much as we may enjoy something going up our backsides, it was not meant to be used like that. So it is a stressful event, as noted by another the refocus of efforts, nerves and so on temporarily sidelines thoughts and feelings that maintain a man's erection. As another noted as well, though not the thought on all men's minds or even most, the fact that they have a penis at all is counterproductive to the experience they are seeing. Finally, besides the stress, fantasies and distraction aspects, simply physiologically, the nerves in that region all connect up to the same bundle so the greatest sensation will take precedence, and on top of that the very vessels and nerves that affect the penis pass through that region. So, if the focus of the nerves and blood shifts to your backside, or is blocked to other areas... *poof* limp dick.

The guys above have all laid it out rather well. The final punchline proposed by ElPaso Kid also spot on. If you're not going to be doing the fucking at that moment, what does it matter?

Frankly (though it is easy for me to say not being something that affects me), I'd not sweat it. Even the number of times when I have had a guy fucking me as he was fucked by another guy (and I do so love restraining them, what a rush!), the solution was simple. Slow it down for a minute, let him get used to the sensation and then remind him "your fat cock is deep in my hot wet cunnie, don't you dare cum." Oh yeah, that dick gets hard quick enough (not because of me, just the refocus of it all). So, just because it goes soft does not mean it won't get hard again if you want it to.

Hush....an alias

 

Ive talked to more than a few friends, trustworthy friends on this subject. Alot of people do not know their own bodies. The mind can shut off feelinz & sensibilities even though they are happening. Ex: A friend of mine xid a line of Yaeyo and saix he couldnt feel it, but he was high. His mind wouldnt let him enjoy it.

 

I go back and forth on this, sometimes I will stay hard as a rock and still get milked, but others I am as soft as can be and still cum tons. Mostly it depends on the situation, any amounts of apprehension or stress can steal away what could be a perfect night and just leave you with almost mechanical sex.
As Hush said it is a stressful idea to begin to imagine something being pushed in there because we grow up being told that is exit only. If you aren't erect while being fucked like that is not something to worry about just learn to relax and let the muscles and nerves enjoy what is happening, the hard cock will come later.

 

Talking as a bi guy I have fucked and been fucked a fair few times by guys. If I am fucking him then about half stay hard and half go totally soft. If I am taking it I usually go soft- especially if he is large ( as it can sting a bit at first) However if it is a long session, once I am used to him then I often get hard again. As for the feeling ( Guys if you havent then dont comment, cos you dont know) it feels wonderful, totally fulfilling and probably not too unlike a woman feels, and if you get to cum too while being fucked it is AWESOME......... Twice in all the years the mere act of being fucked made me cum.

 

The mind concentrates on the penetration. It is a submissive space mentally. An erection is used to penetrate, to be the active or top sexual partner.

 

I have a hard enough time getting shit out.........I'd be dammed if i'm going to try and put shit back in!!!!!

 

The feeling of my ass being stretched open and fucked is indescribable, it feels amazing and can make me cum so hard, however when I'm that full I can't get hard. However when im not playing with my ass I still get very hard and work as normal.

I'm no expert and I don't pretend to be, but while your concentrating on your ass it gets more blood flow and this may effect flow to your cock. Also I read somewhere that if what is in your ass is rather large it can restrict the nerve or vein something that goes to your cock, hence why it stays limp (every body is different, every one responds differently)

Again, not an expert but that's what I have experienced and what I have read.