ive got a quick question . . .

a friend of mine (yes, this is true, not one of those things where im really talking about myself) has a boyfriend who has trouble lasting during sex, and she doesnt know what to do or say to him to help, so im asking here.

any help would be appreciated

 

Wait..you mean he comes to fast?
Or looses erection?

 

he comes too fast from what shes said.

 

sorry i should clarify, i just aimed her and she said he comes too fast, then immediately loses erection.

 

Ok well.. this is common.. I guess he's a young guy... what goes down will rise again.. and next time he should last longer.. NOW. .the good news is.. if he shoots off to fast the first time and goes soft.. ok.. don't make a big deal of it.. its kind of a compliment even.. fill this wait time with some nice kissing and being loving.. its time to practice affection.. and get to know what the opposite sex enjoys.. and when he seems better.. ok.. now work his cock with some nice massaging and kissing. Sucking etc until he's up to go.. and then go again..

If this was a persistent problem for a married couple I'd say see a therapist.. however.. for young lovers.. DON'T make a big deal out of it.. he'll find his stride and probably give her the best fucks ever, once he finds his voice so to speak.. many young men need some encouragement to become tigers in bed.. our girlfriends need to help us if that is needed... that's why love and lust go hand in hand.

 

thanks much!

 

You give good advice FF.

 

Thanks ZYZX..

I think you should post your stock on the advise for lovers bit out of your unholy bible here also.. I don't see how it could hurt any young couple in this strife to read it while they are waiting.. may be just the trick..

 

Reminds me of a time a couple years ago. I had hooked up with a girl that had just turned 18 ( I was 34). She had been flirting with me for almost a year before that but I exercized the willpower and stayed away till she was of age. Anyway, she had been active with boys her own age for awhile and I guess was used to them cumming too fast. We were in my bed and I had been mounting her missionary style for 2 minutes or so when she starts saying "Don't cum, think about something else"...."Think about ...chairs...or anything"
So for some reason my mind starts to wander and I just start laughing so hard I can't continue. Pictures of chairs just started going through my head as I roll off her laughing on the bed. Needless to say it killed the moment. She did come over once more though and we had a great night once she knew not to bring up furniture.

 

good story, that even made me laugh.

 

As i said in the other thread a while back.

Tell your friend to think about pleasuring her rather than pleasuring himself. I realise this would be a hard thing to do, but it would benefit the both of them and is well worth a try. If this doesn't work though, I would consider seeing a therapist if it is that much of a problem.

 

One common goal amongst virtually all guys is to last longer during sexual intercourse.
Unfortunately most men can't last long as they would like and feel inadequate because of it. The first thing that needs to be understood is that the state of mind a person is in has a huge effect on their sexual performance. Getting all uptight and worried is going to do you no good; neither is having a partner that gets really angry about it. Both parties need to work together to improve the situation, and the most important thing is to think positive.

The first principle behind the techniques and suggestions listed below is the man's ability to know his own body. By understanding how his body works and how his excitement rises, he should be able to learn how to pace himself better. It is key to know when to slow down to allow your excitement to drop enough so that you can "re-group" and then pick up the pace again.
The second principle has to do with decreasing the sensitivity of the penis. By decreasing the sensitivity, it will take more stimulation to achieve the excitement necessary for climax.

The following techniques and suggestions should help boost his sexual stamina, but they are not miracle cures, it will take patience and the right attitude to make things better.

 

START AND STOP TECHNIQUE.
The primary principle of this technique is to stimulate the penis until near ejaculation, and then stop stimulating to allow the level of excitement to drop. This exercise can be performed alone, or with a partner, and should be repeated 3 to 5 times per session. After 2-6 weeks of using this technique, you should notice an improvement in your sexual stamina and will eventually not even have to use it to outlast your partner.

 

SQUEEZE TECHNIQUE.
Right before you feel you are about to ejaculate, approximately 3 or 4 stroke away, stop stimulating and squeeze the base of your penis by wrapping your thumb and index finger around it. Apply firm presssure, focusing on the urethra, the tube running along the underside of the penis. This lessens the tension and holds back the ejaculatory response. Be sure to apply pressure a few strokes before ejaculating... if you wait too long, it may be too late! You should be able to apply this technique anywhere along the shaft of the penis, as long as it squeezes the urethra.

 

REGULAR MASTURBATION.
A great method for boosting sexual stamina and releasing sexual tension is regular masturbation. By masturbating more often, you can train yourself to become more used to the stimulation. As you get more and more used to it, it should start taking you progressively longer to climax.

 

WEARING CONDOMS.
Many couples have claimed that wearing condoms significantly reduces the stimulation of intercourse for both partners, but espescially the male. If you are not already using condoms to protect against STD's and pregnancy, try wearing them to increase your stamina. If necessary, consider wearing a thicker condom, it should make a large difference in the amount of stimulation that you feel.