How much has sex entered into your divorce?
First and only marriage here, I'm just curious.

 

well for me my ex cheated on me, I worked out of town alot back then, was home on the weekends, so we fucked alot, when i was home, but she needed more I guess,she gave me a std,that's how I found out about her cheating.

 

Sex was not a factor. As a guy and husband and wife being gal and mother, I was more interested in having sex but it was not the cause or contributing factor in the divorce.

 

Sex had nothing to do with us getting divorced, she always fucked me like crazy. But in the divorce I couldn't believe how much she really liked fucking me, she fucked me like crazy and fucked me really good. She fucked me out of the house, half my 401 and much more. But why dwell on the past, I've moved on and have become a much better person from it all. The fucking, whore, cocksucking, bitch cunt, I loved that house. Now she's in my pool blowing this hung, young stud while she's getting off humping the water jets, that used to be me getting blown like that, fucking cunt. But I'm happy with the girl I'm married to now, she misses the pool to.

 

It's usually lack of sex that leads to divorce.

 

If I ever get divorced the lack of sex will certainly be a piece of the puzzle........however, it might be the incessant fucking humming! If she isn't fucking complaining about something, she's fucking humming!!!!!'

 

When a relationship is on the skids, sex is where it shows first. It becomes a source of resentment, which just aggravates the real problems. It's easier to argue about lack of sex, or one partner's lack of interest, but it's seldom the real cause of the problem.

The most common cause of divorce is disagreements about how to spend the money.

 

Fortunately/unfortunately I cannot contribute past hearsay of others, having never really had a relationship until I met my Husband of now over 20-years. So except for Kathy who is part of our dynamic, I've only had one relationship and it is still ongoing.

Hush....an alias

 

I wouldn't say that sex led to the divorce, but our lackluster sex life seemed to exasperate all of the other problems that we had. I think we could have overlooked a lot of little annoyances and petty shit if the sex had been good. Sexual incompatibility takes a serious toll after a while.

Oddly enough, the sex we had after we divorced was the best we ever had. Had we been in an open marriage or a polyamorous relationship, we might have been married much longer.

 

Sex contributed to mine. I was getting enough, she was willing to do anything to keep me happy, except for excepting my Bi side. I'd ignored that urge for a decade, but it got to be too much. I started looking for one guy to mess around with, but over two years looking, I never found one. I was to afraid to cheat and very very picky. She found out I was looking and never believed( until years after divorce) that I had not done anything yet. We tried swinging with a couple, to help us out, but it only turned out to be for her. She ended up actually doing a bunch of fucked up shit before we split up. We split, but she stayed in the house cause I'd lost my job two days prior. Yes, she told me she was seeing someone for four months..2 days after I lost my job. During the 7 months it took to find a job, we still had sex, after the month I completely fucking ignored her. I got a job and she left.

Two years later, while still with the guy she left me for, we started fucking again for fun for a year. It was nice payback.I got videos just in case she ever tried taking my daughter from me. Lol.

My gf now, knows every bit of info about my past. She is bi herself and had her problems with her ex too. Continuation is great, sex gets even better every time..even after two years.

 

The wife and I never talked divorce just separation, but if any one thing could be held accountable for it sex would have been on the top of the list. Many men and women don't understand that when your single your whole sexual parts and being are all your own to do with what you will, but after engagement (which is nothing more than a promissory note.) Your sexual parts and being are just as much a part of you that's offered and they are then integrated into OUR desire, passion and pleasures which makes them negotiably as much mine as they are yours.

While this doesn't give anyone the right to take them with force, it also doesn't give us the right to withhold them without explanation or as well share them freely with others. Before marriage sex is nothing more then a fun and exciting activity subject only to your will, sex in a marriage is much more invested and can either be the most constructive or destructive force behind it's outcome!

 

Thanks to all who have replied so far. Good information from those that have been there..

 

Well said Milo.

Too many people think sex is something you do not talk about , especially women towards men. if a Man brings up sex during dating he's seen as a pervert or "typical man" just looking for sex. Sex should be talked about very early in a relationship. It's not something to be left to late discovery, but no..we find out other stupid things like pet peevs and bad habits, all things we can live with add compromise on. While sex ual desires can be compromised, the lack of cannot be lived with without consequence.

My gf and I talked a lot about sex and our desires and our past, before we dated. We've been together 2 1/2yrs and our sex life is better than any of 12 years I was married to my exwife. Communication and NO judgement has made is so much happier.

You may have the hottest and most desired partner, but if the sexual chemistry isn't there, someone will be looking for more.

 

It didn't really lead to divorce directly, but it well helped set my mind.

My marriage was sexless for quite some time when my ex proudly stated in public that "we" were a-sexual. I didn't have the guts then to say "speak for yourself". What did lead to divorce what when I helplessly fell in love with a co-worker. She didn't want me, but I found out that falling in love was a feeling I'd never experienced before.

I was not bullied at school - I was categorically ignored, denied playing with the others, treated as if I was air. I was 15 years old when a girl showed real interest in me, and I felt happier than I could be and I thought that was love. I spent fifteen years with a posessive, sexless and obsessive bitch until, at 30, I found out that love is something else.

Later that year I dated the woman whom I married and whom I'm still with, and after 25 years she still gives me flowers in my belly. And sex (though not as frequent as we used to have).

 

The big reason for my divorce was he had ED issues and would never get help. He wasn't that sexual anyway and I love sex... It was a painless separation.