I've made intentions and expectations clear from the start since I learned how badly threesomes can end up, I'm 30 now but my first 2 girl exp went wrong as could be

 

Sorry to hear that.

 

I hope the advice given here helps in someway I can't help but hope peace of mind finds you , maybe it's a harbinger of the things to come be smart

 

I just used to feel a lot more confident about these things when I was younger.

 

Im sorry thats the way it is for you. I told my wife i was bisexual and into black guys before we tied the knot because i was afraid it would become a problem later. She accepted it and lucky for me embraced it and gets off on it. So all i can say is all or nothing, but i understand some situations are much more complicated. I wish you the best and have a cyber hug (((splash)))

 

That is too bad. Starting a new relationship like this must be tough. I've always said if I'm ever single and start dating, second date comes the xnxx/porn conversation.

 

If you really love this guy @Splashgirlx and you truly worry about him? Use the fantasy as means to great sex, not a damn thing wrong with that.

 

We've been together for over 6 years now, which makes it harder to tell him some things.

 

LOL Splash........he has given you a slut test but you do not know whether to pass the test or fail it!

Well at least you could pass it!!

G'night babe and the rest of you.............play nice!!

Thinskin

 

I understand the trepidation. For every person who has a spouse like @alastarr has, someone else has one that freaks out.

 

Indeed. I got damned lucky.

 

And some of us don't dare come out. But @Splashgirlx, it's only up to you. Your gutt instinct. If you follow it, you can't go wrong. Remember that whatever happens, no one can control your fantasies.

 

And how wonderful for you!

 

@Splashgirlx Hey Babes! I would follow the others advice here like alastarr's and tell him you want to know his true intentions. If he gets upset at your questions, remind him he is the one who brought it up, he is the one who planted the seed and the one who gets off on you mentioning it and that you are perfectly happy with him as things are.

 

Sounds perfect to me! Out of the mouths of babes, lol.

 

And a fun one as well!

 

It's not strange. It simply points out the love that's growing between you and that will come from many directions and from many situations (like confirmation that you're his girl).

Whether he likes the idea that his friend is attracted to you or not, pales into insignificance by the fact that clearly, the very thought of the fantasy is an additional turn on.

There's only two questions to ponder. Do you want it..? Can he handle it..?

If the answer to the second question can not be instantly confirmed and there's even a little room for manoeuvre... Let me know. I have serious input on this and it has nothing to do with manipulation or trickery.

 

First off, do YOU want to let his friend fuck you? Seriously, not just fantasy wise. If so, then contrary to what I typically suggest about being up front due to your concerns, I would ask him what his fantasies are regarding you, and once you think he has told you honestly, if sex with other men is one of them (though still just a fantasy), have sex though as he is inside you, take his hand and begin sucking on two of his fingers at the same time... Then switch it up and finish by blowing him, yet ask that he fuck you with his fingers at the same time. If he asks why, tell him because he likes it, and you'd do anything (within reason) he asked of you. Okay, so say it progresses past that and he asks "would you really do that?" In your situation I would say, "if you would like that, I want to do whatever turns you on." Naturally it then goes back and forth with him trying to determine if you want to (which still makes it iffy). The end all answer being, "if it turns you on, 'that' turns me on."

The big trick is IF the day ever comes when the three of you will ever be out or home together. That is the point that I would ask him, "what would you like for me to wear?" The answer to that will give you a good indication as to where his mind is (as in "whatever" or in contrast "that hot dress and no panties" or the real kicker "nude would be great"). If he asks "why you ask," simply tell him you want to look nice for him how he'd like. Let the rest just happen, yet ONLY at his prompting. That said, he might push you to hang out naked, do this and that and even go through with it... and you might do everything right staying focused on him... Yet none of that means that the next day he will be okay with it.

He might love it, but, he also might regret what "he" asked you to do... and there has been more than one woman that has had to pay the price for their man's poorly thought out decisions.

Frankly, if he is the type that sticks to what he says, and can accept responsibility for his own decisions, than you shouldn't have a problem. However, if he is not...

Hush....an alias

 

Thank you all.
I can't be totally honest with him as I have cheated on him in the past. I can't tell him about here as I have written about it, and there are other things on here that I could NEVER tell him.
I don't mind having sex if he wants me to, but in the past I have got off on the excitement of cheating rather than open like this.
I'd be jealous if he wanted to be with someone else rather than just me, and I'd like to think he thought the same of me no matter how much I would enjoy it. I honestly think that he thinks of me as his princess rather than his slut, but I might do what Hush says anyway xx

 

Being straightforward with him and asking can only be the best way to know, any man (or woman) worth their weight in love should be able to answer without offense.