It's a double standard because you have gone to extremes. Why not give everyone who commits a crime the gas chamber?

You have someone who is a rapist, and some one who was caught doing 1MPH over the speed limit. Same thing right? They both committed crimes!! :-~

And it's not a question of respect at all. Ask yourself a question. If you were attracted to someone who was just as attracted back and they were offering it on a plate, would you stop and say 'Oh no, I couldn't possibly, you have a partner'?

You'd turn down a shot at finding someone you could possibly end up spending the rest of your life with out of respect to a complete stranger?

Of course you're more than entitled to your opinion as I am to mine and I have no interest what-so-ever in this turning into some kind of tit for tat argument so I'll just leave it here if its all the same

 

I agree to the opinion entitlement part, and that's what i was simply doing, stating my opinion, and continuing to do so. Please don't mistake this for arguing or my trying to change your mind. I'm just stating my observations and my thoughts on them.

The rapist and speed limit thing are completely unrelated crimes. And while I realize I proposed two extremes, I just find it surprising that, unlike our judicial system which the penalties for various crimes are set proportionally to the magnitude of the crime, people seem to not care AT ALL about this cheating thing, but once it reaches a certain level (like the extreme examples i gave, which actually are fairly common) it all of a sudden becomes a just cause for worry. I just gave my opinion and I'm surprised to see how little people care about that sort of thing; it's an interesting, albeit depressing, study of human behavior.

As for the hypothetical situation you posed:
Yes I would turn her down immediately, because in all honesty, one parameter of the situation isn't at all a likely possibility for me, and that's that I'm attracted to her. As soon as i found out she had a partner I'd be borderline repulsed and I can assure you I'd want nothing to do with that skanky, cheating bitch. I am just not naturally attracted to that type of person, in fact, I'm naturally likely to dislike them for that sort of thing, because cheating is NOT "okay" in my book, and people who are involved in it get less of my respect, and I can't really help that. Judgmental? Maybe. But if people go against my values, what am I supposed to think?

Also, he stated this was a just for sex thing, neither of them are looking for somebody to potentially spend the rest of his life with. If that were the case, then why couldn't the girl break up with her current boyfriend (since she isn't interested in him anymore), and then start dating this fella? To me, that is a perfectly okay way of going about something like that, because nobody is getting lied to. But since these two are just in it for a good fuck every now and then, My personal opinion is that she is a skanky bitch and that the OP, while held not AS accountable for the cheating, is still pulling a really dick move and should consider other people every once in a while, instead of just being a selfish jackass. Girls complain about how the number of "nice guys" is dwindling, but it's situations like this that's the reason why. Girls are just as accountable as guys, because for ever cheating, ungrateful, rude bastard of a guy, there is a cheating, ungrateful, rude bitch of a girl. And yet, nobody says anything to this dude about it. I know he asked about the limp dick problem, and I hate to plague his thread with this crap, but i feel It's WAY more important than a malfunctioning penis.

It's also a very creepy relationship in my opinion. I mean, to each their own, but a 20 year age difference puts me off a tad bit, and I think most would consider it unorthodox and unnatural behavior. But thats not going against any major values of mine, and it's just a note, not a complaint.

-SOOD

 

ok so this has happened to me twice now
most recently with the girl i'm seeing now
both times seem to have decent reasons to them
1st time i was realy drunk, but heres the thing, laying beside her playing with her, i was rock hard, when it came to putting it in, it dropped on me, this happened several times that night. fuck knows what thats all about

more recently with this girl. i'm presuming this was tiredness as we had already went at it the night before. but this is starting to effect my confidence

advice anyone?

oh yeah, i do love it when a sexuality thread has a great war rant in it
although to be fair, where else are people going to pay attention to the text when their not specifically looking for it lol

 

Maybe you are gay?

 

thought about that
nah dude
sounds close-minded but i'm all about the pussy
dont get me wrong, ive had other women
and had this girl plenty times before
i'm hoping to put it down as a bad stroke (take that pun as you will)
just have to wait and see next time i suppose lol

 

embrace the power of the mind, only then can u bang the teeny-bop

 

Pretty weak for cutting another guys grass man. If she is as hot as you describe there is only only one solution. Your gay, go and find a gay guy with a boyfriend. That might get you hard.

 

If you can't cut the mustard, lick the jar.

 

Stage fright?lol
or your insecure about something
Or just get the pill

 

lol fantastic point! :mrgreen: