For both good and bad my entire life has focussed and revolved around nothing except sex. Be it crushing abuse when young that didn't even allow me to attend school, the subsequent forced slavery that found me being literally sold off round the globe. A big part of that slavery prostitution (shockingly the better parts of), and once back to the U.S. unable to read, write, having zero education to anything except sex and survival guess what I did? Yep, more sex be it prostitution, dancing, performing and even my personal time in that it was the only thing I knew or understood.

Everything, my entire world changed at 30 upon meeting my now husband. I could educate myself, do anything I wanted, and was safe and secure. The only thing I couldn't change was me. 30 years is a hell of a lot of conditioning/brainwashing...Yet, it all works out in that living in a swinging, nudist, BDSM, etc. etc. environment, I'm free to cut the old me loose and now enjoy what for so many years I hated...So it has been damn near 50 years of constant, ever expanding and evolving sex and not much else it always a part of everything.

As you can imagine, the actual experience alone has taught me more tricks and techniques than even I can remember. Add to that my education about sexual things, the workings of both the body, mind and our motivations, so as you can imagine at this point it's a rather well rounded (as to sex) package.

Constantly on this forum among the never ending parade of incest/age/cock size/most perverted thing threads there is another type. That being wherein the OP asks for tips, tricks and ideas to improve their sexual activities with another (be it their hand or a real person).......So, with all of the experience I have accumulated let me pass along the absolute ultimate trick or technique to improve upon sex. Any kind of sex, and not just to make it better, or surprise someone else, yet make it a mind blowing experience time after time for both you and your lovers.


FORGET everything you have seen in porn or read about. Do not try to move this way or that because you saw it somewhere or were told to. Ignore every other person's new thing discovered or tried. Blot out where to touch, lick, stick, suck, every toy, prop, lube or costume. Forget and ignore all of it.

Simply look at the one you are with, their shape and size of no matter, in fact oddities and extremes just making them just that much more interesting....Be fascinated with them. Every gal has tits, ass and a cunt. Every guy a cock, balls and butt. They're all different but the same so not one any better than any other. Be so fascinated that you MUST look at and explore every single bit of them, in all ways. There are a bazillion things you can imagine to do with a tip of their finger, and there is a whole lot more to them than that.

If you do nothing more than genuinely explore their bodies and minds trying to experience every single bit of them in every single way you can dream up and discover you'll always keep sex fresh and new. More so, it will always be good, and even more than that it will be exciting in that experiencing them and the sex never has end....Your times together will go on for hours, an orgasm nothing more than a chance to explore them more and do it again, and again, it's NOT the end of sex that moment, just part of it.

Focus on them, all of them as though experiencing it for the first time. Forget about cumming. Cum quick, later, 1x, 100x all in a session just events that happened during in that sex, more sex, time exploring them is the goal so with that mindset you'll keep going.

50 years of nothing but sex has taught me that what I explain above is the best "trick or technique" to be an incredible lover. Not just for your partner however though you will be seen as such, yet for yourself.

Forget the rest....Trying to mimic someone elses little kink is like a hippo dancing swan lake, and sex aint Disney's Fantasia.

Hush.....an alias

 

I am sorry Hush but you always write so much and I never seem to get to the end.

In a nutshell is that you have learned the value of consent in a variety of situations?

Thinskin

 

That was so beautiful. It's the techniques that's not taught in porn or sex stories or anything you can see or read. It's a feeling...a feeling of really being connected to one another. On such a deep intimate level. Some people are never lucky enough to experience such feelings and emotion during sex. But for those that have...they are blessed in such a way others could not imagine. I've felt it I've let myself be this vulnerable and open emotionally and physically. The best porn star in the world can not give you that feeling through pure sexual satisfaction. It's deeper than just a certain touch or taste or movement....it's emotional and soul connecting. You have to be on a special sexual level to receive or experience this feeling. Close your eyes feel the movement....feel every detail and every flaw and asset of their beautiful body. Do not compare her or him to others. Love and listen to her or his body speak to yours. Let your eyes and fingers do the tlking. Explore each other on such a intimate level and everytime should feel like the first time you've ever touched, kissed or made love.

 

Agreed!

Too many rush to the finish line or expect too much, too soon and miss the overall experience! I like this side of you Hush too bad we don't see this more, I won't get use to it I promise.

 

The sex tips hsuh posts are always usefull, thank you, it the rest of the comments that I really love.

 

Bump...

Hush....an alias

 

All I can say in reply to your 'bump' is thank you in that it allowed me as a new comer to find your original post.
I have obviously not had your experiences but luckily having been 'taught' as a 18 year old by a 'woman of experience' I learned the lessons you so eloquently gave ...... and by doing so have enjoyed a happy and mutually enjoyable sex life.
The most important lessons I learned is that no two women are the same, no woman is the same from session to session, day to day; there are no 'magic buttons' to be pressed in a set order, they can all change and need to be found afresh each time, there are no 'magic' movements or positions. Mutually agreed experimentation, each and every time, can lead to ever greater discoveries, some good some bad, but 'failures' can in their own way lead to better.
Sex is not a 'competition', where only one 'wins', it is a 'mutual participation sport', where either both 'win' or both 'lose'.
I think that somewhere you said that you should 'concentrate' on your own pleasure, if I am right and it was meant 'selfishly' then on this we do not agree.

 

That's some good stuff @Hush thanks for sharing. Slowing down and enjoying is definitely a great way to enjoy sex. However when I try to slow down my wife gets impatient and says to get in her already! Lol, I did try though! And will probably try again and attempt to convince her to slow down too

 

That was worth every syllable.

 

I'll come back to this when I'm not so high

 

Good advice from Hush. Made me want to re-double my desire to please my partner by pleasing both of us.

 

Your a very interesting human.....

 

The rest of us who are not Hush that is!!

thinskin

 

If i could manage to pay attention long enough i think I'd agree with most of the shit you say...but my a.d.d just won't allow that...fuck

 

For most of the things I agreed thanks @Hush

 

From all the subsequent posts it just shows how beneficial and pleasurable a well timed 'bump' can be