Would like to hear from husbands and wives about their views on this. If you have a fantasy or experience doing this, please share your fantasy about wife sharing or your experience doing it.

 

my b/f shares me but we believe there's a certain way to doing this---we hear quite a few gone wrong stories on this subject--in a nutshell, everyone involved must be on the same page and best to use friends that respect you and play by the set rules--trust me, you need guidelines--if anyone is uncomfortable for any reason, pull back and talk about it----this should be something enjoyed by all--- are you thinking about trying this--share with me your thoughts

 

We have threesome alot my girl likes to get a buzz and we have several people we can call she is sexy and love sucking multiple dicks we gave a great time

 

What makes you think that she is "being shared" like she is some sex toy that you loan out to your buddies? What if it is that she has simply manipulated you so that she can play whenever, with whomever she wants, and led you to believe that it is all your idea? Try this: Step back, try and imagine her as a human being with her own thoughts, opinions, intentions and goals, and then how does it seem to you?

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Well said as usual Hush. For me the desire to "share" isn't a matter of dominance at all it's mearly the desire to share an erotic/ sexual adventure with my wife. The term "sharing" I believe has become a generalized term, although sadly I'm sure it is about dominance and control for too many men.

 

Well not so much "dominance" as I was seeing it, yet more an attitude of selfishness, disregard for her as a partner, as a person and so on. It's not really that surprising of an attitude. A lot of men and women go through this life never looking past self, what is in it for them, and never considering others as even having an opinion on it.

Sociopath is a good word for it

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Hi @rainbowangel, thanks for responding. Yes I agree with you guidelines are very important. This is not something we rushed into. My wife loves me very much and I love her. We have discussed this and allow more discussion if anyone is uncomfortable. We are both willing to drop the idea if one of us does not like something anymore. We have already tried this and have a friend who we enjoy playing with. We both got turned on by the fantasy of a threesome and this was something we agreed to try together. We seem to be enjoying it and lucked out on finding someone we both feel comfortable with. Thanks for asking

 

I take a exception to the word "Shared" , Like I'm a piece of property or toy share ! I've had 3somes and moresomes , and enjoyed it all ,but my husband doesn't give me away, I decide who and when I fuck! My husband does enjoy it, but I'm the one who decides !

 

Why your being called out on "sharing" is semantics @IceHouse31 your damn right though that sharing is appropriate when you consider the act itself is shared by you and your wife, otherwise it's cheating and you'd catch all wholly hell here for that! Meaning of course in what you've proposed is an expression of the trust and freedom you have for one another, I share your vision that unfortunately may never exist in my relationship due to deep seated moral factors on my wife's behalf although the fantasy end of it has played very nice in our roleplay. Best of luck on your endeavors!

 

Perhaps 'Shared' wasnt a good expression.

I have already talked about going to a Naturist Spa and having another join in and I have even partner swapped.

Sharing sounds too much like I am a possession ( make sure you give her back next week) kind of thing

I loved having a sexually open relationship but that was then. I dont know if I would do the same again but I am still up for a threesome if ever that becomes a possibility

 

Having been shared with mixed emotions and results before, I would have to be in just the perfect situation for it to ever happen again and seeing how impossible that would be, I doubt it will ever happen again.

 

Was the issue with the sex itself, or with the repercussions on marriage? Not meaning to pry, this subject just interests me.

 

It was when he got caught up in the activity and lost control of the situation and was no longer concerned with my well being. My enjoyment or lack there of was not considered. We were not officially married but it did impact our relationship.

 

I had mixed results. Some were really good but those guys (and a GF) were more than just self aware and picked people that they thought I would enjoy.

 

Sounds to me like he just wasn't a good +1, and was only trying to use you to fit his exact fantasies I suppose. If you could do it over again, but with the focus of the relationship being on your comfort and pleasure and not his fantasy, would you do it, or no?

 

'm not into relationships anymore so that aspect I don't have to focus on. I guess I am at a point in my life where I am just to picky and safe to do random dudes anymore. I'll stick with my group of usual suspects. Every now and then a new one gets tossed into the mix.

 

I'd be up for it. She's done it once with an old high school friend. Guilt on her side she won't do it again. I was kinda pissed at first but we had talked about it loosely before she left. Just didn't think she would do anything. After the fact huge turn on.

 

We had talked about being in a open relationship because one of her girl friends which is a great (not really) advice giver talked her into trying it. She was at her house 5 hours away for drunk and it happened.

 

No fantasy. We share and swap partners. Married for 30 plus years. Its invigorating to taste other fruit. I dont get a kick out of seeing my wife get fucked by another man. There are a lot of guys into that though.

 

I must start by saying that I've never before heard such nonsense regarding the expression 'sharing'. You handled that unnecessary flak calmly but unless you've cloned your partner in order for several of her to enjoy every other man, I don't see how else to explain this experience simply.

As for your request, there are so many factors involved that make up this 'experience', you'll have to sift through the advice here... Then look into yourselves and be honest with each other. If its a mistake, its not easily erased.

By the way, after many years of positive 3/4sums etc., I've only recently had a couple of 'not so good' experiences. That's when I was interacting with the other guy. Of course that's not to say it wouldn't work for you but my 'note to self' is that even with my experience, its still a serious adult pleasure and I can still get it wrong.