We are boring in 1on1 and wanna have some excitment.

 

Well, if she also thinks one-on-one is boring, she should have no problem with the idea. If there are any sex clubs where you live, ask her if she'd be interested in going into one and at least consider fucking you around other people. Then it might move on to threesomes or whathaveyou.

 

the problem is we are chinese, and the mind of chinese are usually close.
I think she wanna try it, but we dunt have any ways to find the right person and i dunt when is a good time to discuss with her

 

Sit her down sometime when she is not busy, and gently ask her if she thinks you are good in bed, if she enjoys sex with you. Ask her to tell you the truth, and not to flatter you. If she thinks sex with you is getting boring, ask her if she has ever wanted to have sex with anybody else, and tell her you will not be angry no matter what she says. If she tells you she has fantasized about other men, she might be ready to have a threesome, and let her pick out any guy or girl she wants who is willing to help you.

If she does not fantasize about sex with other people, don't pressure her into it. Instead, consider asking her if she would like to try new things in other regards, like anal sex, or dressing up in costumes and role-playing, or being rougher in bed, or any number of things. Ask her what her fantasy is, and be willing to fulfill it for her. Even if you don't end up in a threesome, maybe you will enjoy her suggestions on making sex better.

If she is perfectly satisfied with sex, you might not be able to have your way.

 

I think she feels boring too, we have been together for few years already.
and i afraid when i ask her about a threesome, she will think i dutn love her because i let other men fuck her in front of me. and its hard to find another chinese for it. white or black have a big dick dunt knwo if she can take it

 

White men and black men having bigger penises than Asian men is a stereotype. In reality, the average Asian man's penis is only one-quarter of an inch shorter than a white man's penis.

Like I said, though, instead of introducing threesomes immediately, try other things first and see if sex improves. Buy the Kama Sutra. Buy some sex toys. There are many things you can try that do not necessarily involve more than two people. Consider those alternatives first.

 

well tbh i did,
we try blondage, outdoor sex, anal(she;s not really into it)
and maybe now its the time to try threesome

 

Then ask her about threesomes if you think it will help. But when you do, make sure to tell her that you love her very much, and be as gentle about it as possible.

 

ok thx so much i will try that,
and how i need to figure out how can i found the right guy or woman now

 

Let her choose the right guy or woman, if she is willing to have a threesome. Since you suggest the idea to her, she should get to choose who she wants with you. Maybe go to a sex club and have her point someone out, and then you two can go up to that person and ask if they want a threesome. If that person says no, try again with someone else, and don't get discouraged.

 

will that man be a bit shock when we ask so straight forward? and i never been to a sex club. Maybe its better to start with another couple first?

 

No, if you go to a sex club and ask someone to be in a threesome with you, they might say no, but they will not be shocked. Sex clubs are very liberal places.

If you want to ask another couple instead, go for it, but make sure your wife is willing and agrees with your choice. Also make sure you know that the couple you choose is very open to sexual experimentation, but they might be shocked or offended. If you know the couple, and you think they would be open to the idea, ask them, but talk to your wife about it first, before you ask the couple.

 

thx for ur help. Can i ask where u from?

 

You're welcome.
I'm from the United States.

 

Hey....

Well See You might wanna just forget that idea..inless your woman is really cool...

 

michael if you really want to know if it turns her on and she likes the idea, try role playing it in bed when your both are already worked up. We started off real slow. Now we have done mfm fmf mfmf. Its a lot of fun but you need to both be ready and know what each are conferable with. But i would role play it a little and see what she dos.
As far as the love thing, we have both talked about it. We both think sex isn't love. Love can be shown though sex. Sex alone isnt what make you feel the other loves you.

 

hi there, sorry all for the late reply.
I am thinking of should i find a chinese ppl to join us first or straight forward to western ppl. TBH i perfer FFM more then MMF but i found that chinese is not so attractive to western woman. Btw do any of u guys know any sex club in london? Thanks for the reply

 

If sex is that boring one-on-one between for you two, I think you should definitely work on fixing that before thinking about bringing somebody else into the bedroom

cus if you're doing it because the sex between you isn't good, good luck with all of that, cus other people definitely won't help that

 

Maybe u should just try changing what u 2 do! U know, spice it up a tad! THEN, bring n reinforcements if necessary! LOL!

 

Yes i need to fix it, just because i heard everyone is having a good time after a threesome. TBH i didnt see anyone saying it is bad or dunt do it. Ppl are encourage others to do it and say its a good experience