I'm a 19 year old male who has been bi-curious fr some time, but I've been wondering recently why I'm not actually all that attracted to guys.

I think gay porn is really hot, and I like anal play while I masterbate, but when I see most guys, I'm not into them the way I am hot girls. It doesn't do it for me.

I figure I'm just more selective with men, because there are a few guys I think are good looking, or I'm more interested in the idea of manonman sex than actual men.

The reason I think the second one is because when I look at straight or lesbian porn I look all over the woman, breasts hair legs face everyting. With guys, I focus right on their cocks, and sometimes their ass, which I find sexy.

When out in public, I lust for every hot girl, but rarely a guy. There are rare exceptions, like tennis player Rafael Nadal, where guy is hot. Maybe I just have a certain type?

I also can't ever really see myself in a relationship with a man, only women. I' not really sure where this puts me, and the only way I can think to find out may lead to something I regret, like gay sex I later didn't really want.

Any thoughts?

 

Let me preface my comment by I HATE LABELS, people should never restirct themselves to who they are by labels.

OK ... so here it is *cough* *cough* (can't believe I'm posting this openly)
I am more attracted to women physically than I am men. Let's face it the first thing we notice of another person when in public is his\her physical appearance and a womans body is perfection in apperance, she is curvy, soft long (my prefrence) hair, sex organs you can see outwardly (a mans arousal is typically 'hidden'). There are some men that can turn my head immideately, but not many. That said, I love a mans body against mine the feel of his arousal. Come to think of it I love breasts pressed firmly against my body too. I am not a 'lesbian' but I would not turn a woman or man down if I were attracted to her\him as a person. As far as porn goes, I too enjoy man-on-man sex there is some sort of taboo appeal to it, and because you enjoy watching the man-on-man act it does not make you 'gay'.

But, you need to explore first who you are. Learn what you really like and don't limit yourself. If you do, you will always wonder, which may impede on any long term relationship that you are interested in making it 'forever'. Remember to enjoy your explorations and if you don't like something you don't have to do it again.

 

:shock::-o.....Wow I can't believe you posted that BR......I'm forever scarred..... .... J/K

 

I am too ... funniest thing about it, I've only had sex with one woman
When I go home and this gets back to me, I'll know who to come talkin to

 

BR, prepare for a few threesomes, lol.

 

it could just be that you have a fetish. i thought for the longest time i was bi, untill i experimented a few times and discovered otherwise. only way to find out really is to test the waters and see what works for you - but be safe about it, theres alot of nasty STDs out there, just keep yourself covered, and protected

 

Well you are still very young and all this sex stuff is fairly new to you so I would take it slow and indeed test the waters and see whats most comfortable for you. Most people have a homosexual tendency its just most people dont act on it. Follow your instincts on this one. Do what makes you happy. No pun intended.

 

I'm pretty much the exact same way as the OP. I don't think there are any hard and fast rules about "how gay/bi" whatever you are. It's all highly personal, in the end I just do what I feel good about. I'd classify myself as bi because a hot guy does really float my boat, but I'm regularly more into girls. It's not something you can really label, like, I'm 76% straight for example.

 

im not sure if this is all 100% accurate, but ill try anyway.
I think it was the kinsey report that was using a "scale" for sexuality. 1 you were totally hetero and 5 you were homosexual. most people were a 2ish. i suspect that you are a 2. not exactly straight, but not gay.

Im in the same boat. I think that the male body has much to offer, but i prefer women over men anyday.

 

This sounds like an intersting survey ... would you happen to have a link to it?

 

nope. but i saw it in the movie "kinsey"
its abot the guy that did the kinsey report back in the 50s and 60s

 

I think it's all but natural to be attracted to the same sex. I mean, we [same sex friends] understand each other and our motivations better than the opposite sex. From a physical point of view, we're alike and why not experiment, you know?

 

porter I have to disagree simply from my perspective because I do not understand a womans motivation, never have. I understand men much better than women. I'm always frustrated and irritated by 99% of womens actions ~ I find most of them to be superficial.

However, generally speaking when categorizing people you may be correct based on what society teaches us is right or wrong. I know more people attracted to the same sex if not attracted then at least curious. But who's to say this line of thinking is correct, sounds fallacious to me ... where's the proof that being attracted to the same sex is unnatural? It's more taboo based on our teachings.

 

I always say ... If it feels good just do it. Don't worry about what other people think ... after all do they pay your bills ?

 

I see your view and I'll agree with women being superficial. I've seen and experienced it. Men can have their moments too. If you can get along with them, then why not stick around them.

I suppose I was generalizing but there are way too many variables to consider and as a rule of them I did categorize. Thanks for keeping me on my feet.

 

I don't believe in labeling anyone, an if it feels good do it.

 

Just like to second some previous posters: give it a try with a man.
If it's not your thing, you'll only loose an evening and settle your question forever.

However, if you like it your life will change and you'll have a great time.

Kissing guys sounded awful to me until I tried. Never stopped since..

 

Don't worried about it, just take one day at a time...besides what good is porn without dick and pussy

 

it doesnt matter one jot "what" anyone is, as long as your happy and comfortable with whom attractive in bed. only advice i can offer is try before you label yourself and dont give a toss what anybody says about how you catogorise your preferences

 

i think your just a straight guy who is just making sure he's straight. you could say youre just re-asasing your sexuality. the only reson your having gay thoughts is becouse your thinking about gayness and if you are gay.