This is no joke... it started with a niece of mine when she was about 11 and lasted till she was 13. Everytime we were alone she would turn the conversation to sex, at first i thought it was just wanting advice or answers but towards the end she was wanting to do things.Now i am no way into little girls but after awhile your mind wonders. Now days my 11 year old daughters friends do the same thing and when they sleep over several of them expose themselves to me and they are always wanting to sit on my lap which leads to them starting to wiggle around like they are trying to get me hard. My problem here is i just tell there parents because i dont want no blame on me and besides like anyone would belive me and i dont want to do nothing to offend my daughter or them by acting like its a problem. So right now i just try to answer most of the questions with honest answers. I dont belive in lieing to these girls then they go out in the real world and see it aint so. Like i said, i am no pedo or molester, and would never do anything with these girls, but at night my head does fill with lots of thoughts. Do girls this young really think about sex and all the how tos?

 

You're the adult surely you were mature enough to steer any conversation with your 11yr old niece to another topic.

I can't imagine any 11 yr old talking about sex to an adult male.

P'raps you have a problem you have not yet addressed.

 

well as the adult i try to answer all questions children have no matter what the topic, thats part of being a parent

 

Eh, curiosity killed the cat. I blame the media for making the little kids of today more sex oriented.

 

True why lie or try to avoid it wouldnt that make a child want to go out and experience these things more? I mean roughly sex in scientific terms sounds unpleasant. Plus these days kids are getting more into sex very early off im no exception either i was very keen on what sex was at the age of 10 and started to masturbate at 11 and 12. Its not surprise that any youngster is wanting to know what it is. It seems to very huge topic especially in schools today. Which is why most schools have sex ed classes that are usually required or more commonly referred to as Health class.

As for the young girls wanting you? im not sure about that i dont think ive ever met a child like that in my life. I guess you should be stern and keep the ideas to yourself, im not sure what think about but my guess is that it should be kept as a thought. Idk how to solve this one just ignore it or find a healthy outlet for it.

lol i guess thats some crappy advice from an 18 year old but the best i have. Sorry hope i helped

 

As the adult you should NOT answer all questions children have no matter what the topic. That is part of not being THEIR parent. If an 11 yo girl is asking you sexual questions you refer her to HER PARENTS. End of story. Continuing the conversation will only lead to trouble for you regardless of you doing anything sexual with the child or not. You have no idea what her parents do or do not what discussed with her yet. Keep it up and you will have an angry father on your doorstep. And if you are having these discussion with these children not your own, nobody will believe this "they were throwing themselves at me but I would never touch them" line. No these parents will never believe their baby would do that. You will be painted the pedo talking about sex to children and trying to seduce 11yo girls. You will never change the parents minds. You can try with the police.

 

If an underage girl indicated a sexual interest in me I would avoid being alone with her. I would not want my behavior to be misinterpreted. Also, I would wonder if she was trying to entrap me. On the other hand, if she felt rejected by me, she might accuse me of child abuse to get back at me.

Underage girls have indicated they had a crush on me, but things never got beyong an innocent flirtation. We never touched each other.

 

Hmph.

I agree with this statement.

 

I'm sorry, but I had to laugh kind of at this... The thought of an 11 year old knowing what entrapment is just seems a little out there. Unless it was their parents doing, then you can easily push the blame on the parents for making their kids do such a thing and get them in trouble for child endangerment and whatnot...

Anyway, to the OP, I say part of it is in your mind. That is, you like the idea of a girl being sexually open around you. You take that thought and maybe think that what could be just innocent child's play could actually be a sexual come on, regardless of age. And I don't mean you're having pedophilic thoughts, I'm just saying that if a girl rubs against you, you assume it's sexual, even when it may not be.

Now, that's one thought of mine. The other is that you may just be their 'safe target'. When they're younger, some people will often test their 'sexiness' and ability to seduce on people who they think will cause them no harm. You just may be their safe person.

Now, there was only one time where I had a problem kind of like that. Though, I thought the girl was older.. I wrote about it in a thread some time ago, but basically, I was talking to a girl who I thought was like 16 (legal age of consent in my state), maybe 17. I was like 18 and of course, a very horny guy who looked for any chance to get laid (not that I've changed any) But anyway, she gave me a wink as she left, almost like a 'follow me' one before saying "Oh, by the way, I'm 13."

That's one of the many reasons why I hate the media these days, they all pressure girls and guys to being older than they are and it ends up fooling people...

 

I am going to tell you this. I went through this stage (i am still going through it). You must be good looking or something. You are a Adult. You need to make a choose.

 

yeh ive had it, either as me as the little kid or as a underage girl liking me. its awkward you just have to keep ur head and not do anything stupid

 

Part of being your childs parents. What's the point of having kids if you can't give them "The Talk" because there friends dad told them already?

 

That's all they talk about in school, and want to try it out and see what it is like.

 

Of course they do. Girls are exposed to sex as young as 9 years old on T.V. and of course they're curious. Don't be afraid to answer their questions and be honest with them about it. When they expose themselves to you you have two options, you can either sit there and watch or explain to them why you are uncomfortable with it. Either way, remember to use tact.

 

Well, ya gotta remember. Parents can be stupid sometimes. I mean, if he's having any sort of conversation relating to sex with someone's kid, and that kid complains to his/her parents, then the guy could get in a world of trouble if the child's parents are like that.

If anything, before you talk, give the child's parents the heads up and ask if it's alright if you can explain things. (though, in my mind, that always leads to a misunderstanding between them...) Regardless, they should at least know what's up with their child, even if they don't believe it.

 

Yes, at 11 they are very curious. As the adult, you should not let yourself get in that situation. No sex talk with other peoples children, only yours.

 

i have to admit i had a 12 year old girl comming towards me she even caught me once in my house and she stripped nude and she was comming on to me hard but thank god i thought with the head on my shoulders and now she has been told she is not welcome in my house it took too much outta me i now stay away from her but the part that bothers me is i know her parents well and they have basicly told me to deal with it she is now 14 but she will not come into my house as i told her if she did she would regret it.
one other thing her parents told me if she kept it up just do it and we would deal with it later

 

I'm having difficulties believing you in this one. (especially for not replying here in a whole week, and reading some of your earlier posts) I think the real issue here is inside your head. From what I'm reading here, and remembering my childhood, I believe you THINK these girls are coming on to you but trust me: they're not. They are just playing and when little boys and girls play (on your lap) they move around and whiggle and giggle. For them there is nu difference of playing around in normal clothes or in there pj's.
If you had the birds and bees talk with your own kids already, ofcourse those other kids will come to you to cure their curiosity, probably because they hadn't had talk at home.
But to be sure about it and keeping it safe: don't get yourself into situations you can't controll or can't credibly denie. Send them to their own parents!

 

I don't know if it's the kids exposure to sex on TV, in the movies, or probably the internet, but they seem to know everything at a very early age. And, where it used to be high school kids talking about sex and having sex, now it's grade school kids becoming obsessed with it.

 

I understand what you mean about young girls coming on to you. I am 24 but my brother is 13, whenever I go to one of his school functions, birthday parties, or sports games this happens constantly. I choose the blatantly ignore method. Be very short with any question they have, limit your time one on one with them to 3.5 seconds, refuse to answer or point out the inappropriateness of any question that makes you feel uncomfortable or could get you in a lot of trouble. Be angry about it, they think you're 'hot' or 'cute' but they don't realize the trouble you could get in if someone saw them trying to hit on you, no matter what you do. In short stay away from the situation completely. Not only is it immoral, but illegal. I'll take being rude over jail time and my very own megan's law web page anytime.