my wife and i had fantasized about swinging (mostly sharing her with other guys) for quite some time. the fantasy always really turned her on. she finally agreed to let me find a willing participant but once i did she backed out.do you women (or men who have had same exp.) think i should give up or keep trying?

 

Give it up for some time and wait. Maybe she will approach the topic. If not, you might ask her some time in the future why she backed out.

 

A fantasy is very different from reality. Perhaps she came to the realization that one or more very bad things might happen as a result of this adventure:

1. You might get jealous of the other guy, or guys.
2. She might find she likes one of them better.
3. You might decide you want to be with another woman (sauce for the goose).
4. She might contract an STD.
5. You might turn out to be gay.

I would suggest you back off and let her decide if she ever really wants to pursue this.

 

yeah, I'd say ask her why she backed out, as long as you let her know that you are ok with her opinion. Also, maybe it's just the thought that turns her on, not actually doing it.

 

she knows i would be jealous because she has been with an x-bf of hers since we were married and it was a huge turn on.our marriage is strong,,,we still have a great relationship.she has told me she wouldnt mind me playing with other women, although that isnt near as big a turn on for me.and im definately not gay.

 

Well, if you know so much, why did you ask?

 

sorry

didnt mean to sound like i knew why,,just replying to your quote.i just wondered what opinions yall had,,,since i cant figure her out

 

Obviously, she's not comfortable with it. Sometimes you talk about a fantasy during sex that you really have not intention of doing. My husband liked to talk about a threesome and I went right along with it...Would I have done it? No, I wouldn't have, but he liked hearing about it and it worked for us....Poor guy died, I probably should have....

 

sorry to hear that rock princess....i bet he would have enjoyed watching you,,,so why did you not want to do it for real

 

maybe

maybe she was hoping for a woman

I think she's backed out of a threesome because she realizes that if you both start to do this the very nature of your relationship will have changed,
she might feel that the symbol of your marraige will become fractured, while some couples can have threesomes without worrying about consequences like spoiling your relationship forever or altering the feel of your relationship, for others it can have disastoruos effects I think she's convinced that both of ye might not be able to have a threesome and carry on as normal emotionally afterwards,

 

I had a threesome once - many years ago with my then-current girl and one of her friends.

I didn't think that my girl was too keen, but she went along with it anyway.......
Once things got going she retreated to the other side of the bed and - to my regret - I was so fired up that I went ahead and fucked her friend.

There was so much bad feeling afterwards that it ruined our relationship.....I wish to this day that I hadn't.....but the dick is not a hypocrite...!

 

*scribbling in my notebook* "The....dick....is....not....a....hypocrite."

I think there are a lot of people out there who just don't see this coming. But when you bring a third party into a steady, solid relationship, there's a strong possibility that it will become unstable.

Me, I LOVE fantasizing about things like this, with men and women, but I think I'd be taking a huge risk by pursuing it in real life.

 

TAKE NOTE.......

.....boys and girls.....if Kimiko, the Queen of the Cyber Sirens cautions you against actions that might imperil your relationships, then you better listen..............I learnt the hard way...you've got to be pretty bloody sure of your partner before you get down to birthday-suits and foolin'.

Thank you Kimi...

 

First off, was she drunk when she blacked out. Cause if so that could be a problem. Second, are you sure she's not narcolaptic, cause that would definetly ruin things. Ohhh, you said backed out. Never mind. Disreguard previous statement:???:

 

Sometimes you have to keep dangerous fantasies; "fantasy" and not turn them into reality. That's an important distinction that every person should probably make at some point.

Once it happened to me and I learned my listen. and that was when me and my GF were fantasizing about being watched by her mom while I was fucking her up in the ass. (her mom is hot, though I try not to think about it) but some day later when I told her seriously that I want to see her mom cuming she was so mad and pissed at me. That day I learn that sometimes you must let it go and not try to get serous with the fantasies if you want everything to be ass good or great as before.

Cheers all...

 

I'm with Kimiko - I'd never do it. It's not worth risking or ruining the best thing in my life over. A fantasy is ok to remain a fantasy. There are plenty of ways to get off without potentially hurting the one I love, or getting hurt myself. It's not worth it.

 

I'll tell you what the problem is

Hi, I'm the wife of mudkicker. I came across this site and I am just disgusted. I mean, for some people to be so pathetic that they have to come online to discuss sex and share naked pictures is just beyond me. Furthermore, the threads where you want to have sex with a four year old is disgusting. I hope all of you are caught as sexual predators and put under the jail.
Reason I'm not into a threesome? Morals. God.
Reason enough for me. Maybe some of you should try a little of both.

 

Reason

Hey...it's me your wife...
maybe if you gave some of your energy to me instead of staying up at all hours on the net talking to total perverts you would know my answer. But, I know you have heard all of that before. Or maybe you just don't turn me on anymore...every thought about brushing your damn teeth?

 

holy shit...is this for real...yikes if it is...

 

Next time we see mudkicker, he'll be single.