Im sorry if that sounded hard - it wasnt meant that way but its the truth. You should maybe be talking to her about it all if you are so open with each other - she will know how she feels and what you should do. But why cant you see each other till next summer?

 

yeah, most don't. unless it's obviously a dating site. who cares where you met her? the only two people that know how they feel about the relationship are you and her. don't forget that.

 

and aren't you the one who was asking everybody for advice on how to meet girls and everything?

you've never met this girl right? you met her on the internet? ever wonder why she was so available to you or any of that? na, probably not

my advice, was that if you meet a chick on the internet, consider her "just a friend" or a potential date, until you actually meet her. otherwise, this is going to keep happening. you'll keep getting too serious too soon, and then common sense will finally kick in on one side of the relationship, and it'll end. you're 19 dude

don't take my advice all you want, I really don't care, but I actually know what the fuck I'm talking about. when the same thing keeps happening because of all of your own issues, deal with it yourself.

 

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Said to say but they're right, u need to find some u have a physical relationship with, not a virtual.... i know many ppl who have tried to do this and almost all of the relationships failed and a lot of money was wasted. Until u meet the person u don't know them because ppl act differently online. face to face there's no barriers, its much diffrent.

 

jack off ALOT and remember this . . .

 

The only way of really getting to know someone is to become them - ergo, it doesn't mean you know someone if you meet them online, in a bar, through work or a dating agency. Every one can hide their negative personality traits until you're actually living with them 24/7.

 

Ah, the summer romance. A classic and dangerous situation.

 

I'd love to be talking to her, but like I said, we haven't really talked since the end of July. I miss the sound of her voice... Anyway,

She's busy with college and stuff.

Like, a year ago. Totally not the issue anymore.

CONTRADICTION!!

Please. Even better. I've asked her, on multiple occasions. We've had entire conversations on the subject.

You are actually right about this. I agree. As I said, she was the one who wanted to be more than friends, and my response was not an enthusiastic "yeah okay!" at first. It took a while but I did fall in love with her eventually despite my best efforts not to.

What did I just say?

Common Sense doesn't have to "kick in" with some people, with some people, its there from the beginning.

Really? I had no idea.

Have you been paying attention at all? This is NOT the same situation that has plagued me in the past.

To you I point to:

I'd actually never noticed that before. I don't pay much attention to the seasons. I'd say I doubt that's the case though, if I understood what you mean by a classic and dangerous situation.

 

man, you've really got some balls, I'll give you that.

insulting the person who's trying to help you and trying to talk to him like you're some kinda playa, when you only meet girls on the internet right?

keep failing internet playa, I really don't care. I'm done bothering with people like you. you constantly ask for help, and then cop an attitude when somebody gives you advice you don't wanna hear. until you drop the attitude(which you really have absolutely no right to have), you'll continue to fail, because you have to get humble and admit you're doing something wrong and that you're not as much of a playa as you're talking like, to do better and meet a chick who you can actually spend time with, and not just talk to on the internet.

hope only meeting chicks on the internet works out for you, but I doubt it will.

 

Pot, meet Kettle.

Your bullheaded willful misinterpretation amazes me.

 

As someone who had a long distance relationship go right, I will try and explain her possible mind set.

As you said, you met online, it's possible she panicked though she wanted to take things further. I know I keep disappearing from existance as my moods fluxuated. I was VERY interested but a past of rejection interfered with my happiness. See the smart thing would have let the past be the past and just immerse myself in that current relationship. So basically, she could be scared of how fast things are going and her confusion is making her be absent.

Another situation could be real life issues that she hasn't told you about for what ever reasons. It could be something simple as work or family... or who knows. If she is saying she is still interested in you, then give her the benefit of the trust. Because of real life problems, I wasn't able to get online for 3 months, in an online relationship, that is almost a death sentance. Just keep trying to keep contact with her.

Worst case scenerio and I hope it's not the case, you were being toyed with. She could be one of those girls who love the thrill of the chase but get bored when they caught you. I am still guilty of this, I would be over attentive while pursuing my target then some time later, I would grow bored and feel guilty for leading someone on. Whether she consciencely knows she is doing it or not, she could be doing this.

AIC, I wish you all the best. I hope she is for real and realized what a great guy you are. As I always kept saying, you will find your right girl. You deserve her.

 

I don't think that's it, like I've said, she was always the one who wanted more. We went completely at her pace. But I can't be sure.

I am, I mean, we've had a few PMs back and forth, but she hasn't logged onto YIM in ages. And she does have some RL things, school, new job, (that was her excuse when I asked) but we frequent the same websites and I've seen her online/on her computer enough that I feel like she's avoiding me anyway.

She's definitely not doing it consciously, but I am worried she might be doing it unconsciously. She was offended when I suggested that though.

She may be my right girl. I still hope she is.

 

Then stick with it, when my husband and I started out, I rushed our relationship then suddenly got scared. He was patient with me and now I can't even fathom why I did all that stuff to him. I did all 3 things to him... rushed the relationship, had real life problems getting in the way, and then unconsciencely tried to push him away. I reasoned that I wasn't feeling good enough to talk to him but he just kept being there for me. I hope she is the right girl, my fingers are crossed for you.

 

I still have no idea how I'm not going to go insane over the next two years.

 

OK so I just read through again and my gut feeling is your really not asking our advice or what to do - cause every time you are just pushing for someone to tell you exactly what you want to hear and what you have in your mind - Im afraid it isnt gonna happen.

Firstly - I would move heaven and earth to get to someone I really wanted to be with, dont college have breaks other than summer then???????

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if she is keeping away there is more to it hun than just being busy - sorry but it is a sad fact you will have to face - She is obviously out there enjoying her life, you must do the same. I seriuosly think she's keeping you as a JUST IN CASE!

I know its hard to hear but believe me just do the same back - keep her as a JUST IN CASE and get on with your life in the meantime. Just stop stressing over it!

ACTUALLY there is more to life!

 

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I know it will feel like forever but take it from me, after all is said and done, when you look back on it... it won't feel like that much time passed. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other.

 

not really. I'm actually very good with girls, and always have been, and they flirt with me a lot, especially on campus. just about any normal guy can get ass or at least a date, it's not exactly hard.

keep getting internet ass, playa, you da man! I'll be busy getting real ass, from girls you could only dream of...

seriously man, your attitude is just fuckin funny as hell..talkin like yous a playa and like you da man and you can get every girl you want, when you meet girls on the internet, and only on the internet, never just in real life.