i just got cheated on by my now ex-girlfriend. i really want to kill the guy who she cheated on with because even though it was consensual, he was pushy.

any fucking ideas as to what to do?

 

come hang out with me and we can get ovre it to gethre..i so know how your feeling

 

Sorry, but I don't have any fucking ideas just regular ones.....

My question would be though, why would you care about who your S/O cheats with....That person did not do it to harm you, they did it to have sex with your gf. It was your g/f that cheated, not him, or are you saying you had a romantic relationship with him as well?

Fact of the matter is though.....WHat does it even matter at this point "now "EX"-girlfriend. Why would you even care as the problem is resolved and over. Or is this simply you wanting to be a drama queen over the matter?

There is a very wise saying;

Hate is not the opposite of love....Indiferrence is.

Love and hate both equally strong emotions to someone you HAVE a strong emotional bond with.......So really just different sides of the same coin. Now indifference, well, that means they have NO emotional bond with you.

So my regular advice is....Become indifferent to the whole thing and move on.

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agreed. solid advice

 

thats the thing - i still have feelings for this girl, and this one guy...well...he broke guy code pretty bad by knowing she was going out with me. i want to fucking kill this guy, even though i know i wont.

i meant ideas as in maybe stick with her or not..? everybody makes mistakes, and i can be very forgiving.

 

It's over, she is an ex....and clearly be it him or her you have little intentions of forgiving. You may intend on it...Yet that you would even post as you have say's you're not going to. Think so?

So what happens next time she wants to go out "without you"?

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Dump her. She obviously doesn't care about your feelings. Don't worry about beating this guy. He and she will both get theirs eventually.

Take it as a blessing that you know what happened -- now you know how she really feels about you and you can move on, secure in the knowledge that you're better off without her.

Time heals all wounds, man. Go have fun with your friends for a while. New girls will come along.

 

exactly

If it was your friend that she cheated on you with, then yea, kick his ass, or do something, but otherwise let it go. He didn't force her to do anything, and he doesn't owe you anything, and he's not worth wasting your time dealing with.

 

unless he raped her, it went both ways.

 

First off, "guy code". Sound like you take Maxim and FHM a little too seriously. There is no such thing as guy code. If Joe's girl comes onto Jim but Jim turns her down, it's because he does not want an ass beating, not because of some noble, unwritten code. Ever hear the saying "A stiff prick has no conscience"? It doesn't have a code, either.

That being said...sorry your girl fucked around on you. If you still want her, you're going to have to forget it. If you can't forget it, you're going to have to forget her. I'm not clear on what you meant by him being "pushy" in your first post. Oh yeah--beating and/or killing the guy isn't going to unfuck her, you know? And it could land your ass in jail. Ask yourself, Is he worth having a record? Is she?

Try this instead. It won't be easy, you'll have to be one hell of an actor, but try. Fuck with their heads. Act like you're over it and don't care. Act like he's a pal, but say stuff to him like, "Dude, the girl I'm with now doesn't lick me clean after sex like she did. She doesn't rim, either. You don't know how lucky you are!" Or text her that you failed a Herpes test and she should probably get tested herself. Get creative.

CosmonautKris

PS - A little free observation--IMO, monogamy is a myth. Nobody is naturally monogamous. If they were, marriage vows (a legally binding contract with severe penalties for breaking it) would not be necessary. And "cheating" would not be so common if monogamy were so natural. Think about that. Humans, just like our chimpazee relatives, are by nature total whores. And don't think "But that's not right!" because it's not about right and wrong. it's about our genes and hormones. It's how natural selection mixes and mashes the gene pool.

 

ski mask, baseball bat to knees- piss on him and take his wallet so it looks like you were after his wallet and he won't think it was just some asshole ex.... just saying

 

oh, and about the guy code thing. i had a buddy that was in love with this girl and she wasnt really interested in him- long story short was we were at a party and she wanted to take it into the bedroom and i walked away. not because i didnt want my ass beat, because that has rarely happened so far in my life, but because every guy knows what it is like to get screwed by some chick... just dont fuck over a friend, its not right...

 

Give a biological sample? The prosecution is gonna love that!

Note: Don't piss, spit, bleed, shed a hair or do anything that would conceivably hand them some DNA evidence.

But better yet, be a lover, not a fighter--fuck her sister. Or her best friend.

 

If you couldn't hang onto her. it wasn't a match to begin with. The world is full of guys getting shit on by broads and the inverse. is of course, true as well. Move on and forget it. If it wasn't this guy she fucked, up the pike it would have been another. Also you can't fight every asshole you meet in this world and if you try sooner or later if you'll get youir ass kicked over nothing important really.

 

or you could end up in jail if you fuck him up bad enough, and then poof, you just let an asshole and a slutty ex ruin your life.

 

That's what I'm talking about.

 

As long as he didn't hurt her and also man she wasn't the girl for u and u just have to go out and meet more women so when u find the one u will the experience to know how to attract her and keep her

 

I'd guilt trip her. Make her feel as guilty as possible, thus teaching her a lesson. Of course you'd have to leave and never return.

 

I say again.....

Revenge in any form does not show indiferrence........Want to show that then tell her when next she contacts you "how right "she" was, the split up was a great idea as life has improved so much! Thank you, I would of gone on forever not realizing otherwise, I'm so happy now!".........Then walk away and NEVER look back.

In either case, this all more drama then it's worth.......Each day spent dwelling on it is one less day of finding a new and better gal. Yet it makes no difference to anyone here if he wastes the rest of his life....Yet will make a huge one to him.

K2

 

Have you ever been cheated on? You know how it feels? Sure you can live and let live but nice guys finish last. I'm tell the OP what I would do, not what the best thing to do is. It's up to him right and there is no real right answer. I'm saying I would do that. Fuck the ideal way of living. I'm not trying to say to just "nah nah nah nah nah" but just say you're deeply hurt and let her know she's losing you. Gotta play these games to keep sane.