Ok, so most people on here know me and some of my story, but for those of you who don't...here's some pre-info.

*I have a fiance, not married though
*I have 2 kids w/my fiance
*We've been on and off for over 4 years
*He's not really on the same level as I am sexually
*He's addicted to his damn comp game

Ok, so my problem...Last night an ex of mine called, he's actually my mom's husband's brother....LONG STORY, but we were together first, then my mom met his bro and the rest is history. So...he called me last night and needed some parts from an old pc and he came over to pick it up and he stayed and we talked outside for a while. For some reason my flirting instincts kicked in and apparently his did also. It was ovbious and sex topics kept coming up and he mentioned he hadn't had sex in like 4 months. He recently broke up with his baby's momma...lol. He kept saying how I looked better since I had my kids and I got some meat on me now and such things and about my ass getting bigger. So yeah he decided to leave before anything happened. Then he called me and asked me if I would have actually had sex and I said yeah. I was really caught up in the mood and in the past. So now I'm wondering if I should or shouldn't. Any advice...please no rude dumb ass comments!

 

All other things aside. Think about your kids,and how this could affect them,if some HOW,someone finds out and eventually they hear of it.

Why dont you just leave your fiance?
He clearly sounds like he isnt in the relationship for YOUR needs.
Shit,leave his ass, and have sex with your ex.

Cheating is..always..cheating,its never a good thing.

But you know if you cheat and you get caught,somehow or whatever.Your fiances probably gonna use that shit against you,with your kids.

 

I'll agree with the leaving thing. Don't cheat. If you're not happy with him, leave him but think of what you would be doing to your "family".

 

I think that's what's been on my mind the most...I'm deathly afraid of "the trail" I'm actually a hermit and don't talk to anyone, so it wouldn't come from me...I love my fiance and he has alot of flaws, but so do I...I just wish he was as active as he use to be. *sigh*

 

If you talk to him,and he doesnt listen. You should warn his ass.
He either appericates you,or your leaving.

Life is about being happy,theres no point to staying in a relationship,if you arent happy. And there really is nooo point,to cheating,especially if your already unhappy in the current relationship. Just leave,and have all the guilt free sexy parties you want

 

If you're unsatisfied enough to want to cheat on your fiance, you need to leave him for good.

It will be better for the kids if you do. Divorce is hard on kids, but harder still is living with two people who hate each other.

 

My advice is, flat out, don't cheat. It's a huge disrespect and betrayal, even if you're not completely happy in your current relationship.

If you cheat, then one of two things will happen:

Your fiance will never find out, and you might end up getting married, with him not knowing you've betrayed his trust, which is NOT a good way to start 'the rest of your lives together'. Or maybe you feel guilty down the road and tell him, and he divorces you over it. Also not good. Or you tell him, and he doesn't leave, but now your trust has come into serious question. Also not good.

Or

Your fiance finds out, and your relationship goes down the tubes for one of several reasons.


Personally, if you are so out of love with your fiance that you're actually considering cheating on him, it's clear that you're unhappy enough that you should leave. Leave peacefully, though. Don't create a broken home.

Also, you have to consider, if you cheat on him now, and things fall apart (for whatever reason), if you ever become seriously involved with another man in the future, it would be wrong to hide something like that from them, but if you tell them, your loyalty might come into question, and pose an obstacle in terms of getting another man to commit to you.

Just my two cents.

 

What divorce? They aren't even married and yet continue in four year relationship that is so precarious that she wants to go out and fuck around with the ex boy friend. Wake up ...you are the mother of two innocent children that you have conceived with this nerd and you sure as hell will screw up their lives ultimately, probably as bad you have already done to yourselves.
I do hate being judgemental but you exposed your sorry plight here for the forum to see. It my perspective that the world is now full enough with children whose own present and future happiness and security is in danger from poor parenting. Just grow up and think what will be best for them and not your sorry selves.

 

I don't think cheating is the answer. I've done it and while it was fun and exciting at the time, the feeling didn't last long. I've also been cheated on and the feeling is not too good.

In the long run, I think you will cheapen yourself.

 

Why don't you have an open and honest discussion with your fiance?

Also, what are you doing to improve your sex life with your ex?

Remember relationships are two-way street. And as unfair as it is sometimes they aren't 50-50 arrangements. Sometimes one partner has to carry more of the load while the other is dealing with something.

I think people drop relationships way too easily these days and get into relationships without thinking about it.

By the way, what the hell are you thinking about cheating with an ex for? Isn't he an ex for a reason?

I think all parties involved need to grow the fuck up. And if you decide to work things out with your fiance you need to stop hanging out with the ex.

 

Absolutely you shouldn't cheat.









Because you should only cheat with me! :rose:


Seriously though, I agree with what everyone has been saying. Talk to your fiancee about the problems you're having and if he doesn't shape up, then he's gone. Then come and find me.

 

Heed the advice here and don't cheat. Talk it out with your fiance and make the best decision for your family. If it doesn't work out, you're free to move on, but don't become a liar and have to hide things. Make the choice to be a good person!

 

Suggest a threesome!

 

This!


Honestly I have had some awesome experiences cheating, but this does not sound like the right time for you for one reason... Kids!. If your kids are still living with you then you are their role model and no matter how this turns out it will be incredibly confusing for them.

Just think about the best and worst possible outcomes, is it worth the risk?

 

Fuck him and worry about the consequences later. You only live a couple million times, enjoy!

Seriously, fuck his brains out.

 

dnt do it karama is a bitch

 

Don't cheat. Talk to your fiance first if you're not satisfied and if things don't change, decide whether or not you can live with out what would be satisfied (like sexual urges) vs living with out him for the rest of your life for most likely casual sex.

So basically, it's whether the possibility of casual sex is more important then the love of your life and father of your children.

 

i wouldnt recommend cheating just because ive been cheated on and the feeling sucks...HOWEVER it does sound as if you need to have a very serious conversation with your fiance perhaps let him know how unhappy you are and possibly give him an ultimatum... out of curiosity is the game hes stuck on World of Warcraft?

 

shit if that game just end his account :excited:

 

you have kids! try and work things out with your fiance best you can. tell him you need more from him etc worst case scenario he dosent make you happy and you to arnt meant to be.
I fail to see what good can come from cheating apart from a little bit of sexual satisfaction that will keep you happy for about a day.