What do you think about women who have rape fantasies? do you have rape fantasies? and what do you think about women who just want o be treated like a complete slut in the bedroom?

 

Jesus Christ, there's so much idiocy in that post, I'm not sure I even want to address it.

 

well gee...dont hold back or anything. i must have missed that somewhere in my question i asked for rude bitchy and uncalled for replies, im sorry, my mistake!!

 

You already did.

 

I've been told that the majority of women have a "rape fantasy" even if they haven't voiced it. Psychologically speaking, some attribute it to the fairy tales we are all over-exposed to as children. We all want to be the damsel in distress. Grow up those fairytales and what women want is to be raped or nearly raped so we can be the victim that prince charming comes to save.

Others attribute it to our days as cavepeople. Back then, men would simply grab the woman they wanted, drag her to their cave, and "claim" her by having sex...usually against her will. So then, rape becomes a means of being "claimed" and in essence "married" to a man.

Finally, there's the theory that all women are looking for the "definition of a man" meaning a man who's strong, tough, and willing to "take what he wants".

Look at it however you want. But apparently it's a popular fantasy. Just one most women won't admit to.

To address the second part of your post, it was in some hip hop song that was popular a few years ago "I want a lady in the street and a freak in the bed." Put simply, men want a woman they can present to their friends as an acceptable woman. Someone respectable and presentable. But once they get you home, they want to treat you like a slutty, whorey, pornstar.

 

The number 1 fantasy of women, according to studies, is to be raped. That does not mean they enjoy rape in anyway, it means that they like the idea as a fantasy. Most of the women I come across for cybering want me to roleplay a rape with them. But to be actually raped in real life would be something entirely different, and would surely not be pleasant for the victim. A woman who "wants" to be raped (techinically impossible, I would suppose) just wants to act like it, to act helpless under a strong, forceful man. I would agree with Snoochies' post about how it's basically either a biological or cultural idea that has somehow developed, and I don't know why, but there it is.

As for sluts, I have also heard women like to to be called sluts in a degrading way, and, taking both the sluts idea and the rape idea together, I think it means that women tend to have the fantasy of being powerless, being degraded, being treated like meat. This does not mean, of course, that a woman in her right mind wants to be emotionally abused, but it simply means that in the context of sex, a little submissive roleplay can be exquisitely fun.

If you have a girlfriend who has a fantasy of rape and loves to be called a slut in bed, feel free to act out the fantasy with her, but that does NOT mean AT ALL that you have liberty to hide in dark alleys and rape women and call them sluts.

Just my take on the issue. Fantasy does not equal reality. Let them be separate, and enjoy the fantasy for what it is.

 

Every girl I've been with has been into rape fantasy roleplaying. The general consensus seems to be that it stems from the thrill of giving over complete control.

I always have a lot of fun with it, personally. Nothing strikes me as weird in the bedroom anymore.

 

wow. i seem to be in a minority where i don't have fantasies of being raped. i personally think that this is so sick...

 

I do have rape fantasies, and have written about them, but they generally follow a consistent pattern. I start out being frightened and resisting, but my body (and sometimes my mind) always betrays me, and I become aroused, wanting it to happen, NEEDING it to happen. Often I end up bonding with my assailant(s). In some fantasies, I even assist him/them in kidnapping/raping other girls, events which follow much the same pattern. Sick, I know.

But as others have pointed out, I really DON'T want any of this to happen in real life, in a situation outside my control. I find the whole idea simply abhorrent.

It works as fantasy, nothing more.

 

There is the other theory; that it is a loss of control and therefore a loss of blame that is the basis of the fantasy. When you are not to blame you can do anything you want, or have anything you want done to you, and no one can say you are at fault.

I personally think that the rape fantasy is one of power. If you like the fantasy of being raped, you like strong, powerful, take charge types of me, and if you like the fantasy of raping a woman, or man, then you love the idea of being in charge and in control of everything.

I personally do not like the rape fantasy where I am concerned, but do enjoy reading stories where other people are doing the rape and being raped. I am more into the intimate and equal participation of two or more people enjoying each others company. I guess I am a canoodler at heart.

 

I have to agree with Kimiko; I have the same fantasy, but for me it's more about being dominanted in a way that doesn't involve whips and chains and such (not that i'm not interested in that). Of course I don't want to be raped in real life, but in the bedroom, resisting and being dominated is such a turn on for me. And I think what snoochies said about the origins of these kinds of fantasies makes perfect sense.

 

Well, there's a weirdo in every crowd...

 

Eh.

 

One of my ex girlfriends(16) lost her virginity to me, she dident say it out right, but she wanted to be raped to lose it pretty much. She told me that she would never stop me from doing anything to her ever, and when we were fooling around she said I was "Scareing" her, when I apologized she said "No, I like to be scared, but only with you." Eventually we were both naked, and I had been petting and licking her(No fingers inside yet) and my cock was placed against her vagina, rubbing against her tiny clit(She was a little girl, and she had a little little pussy).

Either way, we had a safe word(Asparagus =P) and if she said it, I would stop. Eventually I worked my cock against her pussy till it started slideing inside, she dident get wet at all, and she told me to stop, but I kept going, she told me I was scareing her, she never got wet the whole time, and she cried while I fucked her. It really did hurt her.. she held on so tight to me, and I could hear her weeping everytime I thrust inside of her.. I felt really sad doing it, but I had always wanted to mock rape a girl, and this was my chance, so I did.

it was way more real then I ever thought it would be, she bled, she hurt, she cried.. But in the end she kissed me and told me she loved me, and that she would do anything for me, we cuddled while I was still inside of her for an hour, and fell asleep there, on the rotten couch in her basement.

She wanted to lose her virginity while being raped, I wanted to rape a girl(Kinda), we both got what we wanted, and even though we arent together anymore, we still have sex together all the time(Shes only cheats with me, score.)

Some people got more luck then others

 

I've done a lot of research for myself on topics such as sexual masochism because I felt for the longest time that there was something dreadfully sick and wrong with me for having masochistic fantasies. I'm a male, but my sexual fantasies dove deep into the realm of being completely dominated or "raped" by a woman - forced to do things such as eating my own semen and being penetrated by a strapon. While I realize these are common fantasies amongst men, I had some severe hangups with these issues that caused a lot of stress in my life.

Eventually, I became so distraught over these thoughts that I sought out therapy :-~ thinking that I was headed straight for the insane asylum. What I found by going through it was that my fantasies were just that - fantasies. In a world where we have to seemingly hold a grand sense of control over our lives due to the perceptions that our society gives us, it makes perfectly logical sense as to why someone may subconsciously feel and relate their secret desire to be dominated or raped (as in a loss of control) because it gives us an outlet in which to escape.

Since coming to terms with those things I once looked upon as the most vulnerable part of my existence, I look back on it with an almost amusing bit of laughter at how pent up, anxious, and frustrated I was over my sexual fantasies and just how much damage it did to me.

In the end, I was able to reach out to my wife and explain to her all of the fantasies I had held back for so long. Well, the sex has been profoundly amazing since then and she has shared with me her own fantasies - one of which is being raped. Now, the only real conundrum that we face is who is going to be doing the "raping" and when. :excited:

I hope this is not something you're stressed out about but if you're curious to learn a little more, I've attached a link to a book that explains more of the sexually masochistic side of things (not so much the rape) and why it's not necessarily something we should be pathologizing. There is a section about rape later on in the book but it tends to focus more on the real life rapist than the fantasy "rapee".

http://books.google.com/books?id=UT...X&oi=book_result&resnum=3&ct=result#PPA225,M1

Enjoy Your Fantasies!

 

So many ladies love it as a fantasy. But id keep it at a fantasy if i was you.

 

A rape fantasy is just a sexual fantasy where a woman can engage in a forbidden sexual activity. She doesn't have to take reponsablity and can engage in taboo acts. I expect every woman has experience masturbation to this type of fantasy.

Rape itself is very different. I was raped at 19. My head was rammed into a brick wall and I was beaten even after I was unconscous and left to freeze to death, naked in the snow of an alley. I spent a week in the hospital, so rape reality is very different from rape fantasy.

Love,
lynn-nyc

 

What do I think of women who just want to be treated like sluts? I think they can be a lot of fun. And as far as women who have rape fantasies goes, well I don't judge people based on their fantasies, so I don't really think anything.

Personally, I don't have a rape fantasy. I feel no need to do anything to feel like a "big man" or to be in control and dominant all the time, as I'm quite secure in my masculinity.

 

Awww, c'mon, Chris...you're telling me you don't kinda get more excited when you grab a girl's wrists over her head?

 

Could the so called "rape fantasy" be nothing more then a way in which a woman, who is in control of her coloquial feminity in all other aspects be allowed to abandon it, and have hard core animal sex, down and dirty fuck me like a whore sex, without having to lose the vinear of respectabilty?
Seriously...I'm just asking. I would love to hear Kimiko on this.