I have a dilema... I have been dating my boyfriend for over a year and we are very sexually open. I saw a post that he wrote somewhere about 7-8 months ago about a fantasy "cuckold"... He said it was just something that he got off on.He likes when I play with his ass/ or lick it but not really any type of penetration. We have a long distance relationship so are forced to have phone sex sometimes and he really gets off on telling me that he wants me to make him do things.. Like lick his own cum out of me or make him jerk off on his own face. I kinda went with it and said it would really be a turn on to watch him suck a guys dick to get it hard for me and he said that he would if I made him. I do know that I was at his house in the summer and found a hairbrush stashed away somewhere that had a lubed up handle... I asked him and he said that he was just trying to get used to the idea because he knew I liked it... Is he havin bi-sexual tendancys or am I making too much out of this?

 

I think that it could be a phase, or a harmless fantasy. Many people want to try new things, this doesn't mean it (cuckold, same sex experimentation) will become part of his/her lifestyle. As long as they are sober thoughts. Alcohol and drugs colour things.
He sitll wants to be with you, right?
If you have any insecurites, or questions..talk to him, don't let your mind fill in the gaps on your own, please!

 

If he hadn't had bi tendencies he would have brushed off your idea of him sucking dick right away. Surprising number of guys have bi tendencies, it's normal (maybe it's even more than normal...), most of them will never admit it though.

Many totally straight men enjoy anal play, there's no reason for him not to, it just makes your sex life better in more than one way. Have fun!

 

The main questions you have to answer are -
"Does he still want to be with you?" (Based on everything you said, he does.)
"Are you comfortable with the kind of sex play he wants?" (That's not so obvious from what you've written, although the fact that you're both open sexually gives some indication.)

I wouldn't worry too much about the bi-leaning things he's interested in, lots of guys want to at least try something like that at some point. I'm as straight as they come and love to have a woman play with my ass.

 

If he has bisexual tendencies and you're as sexually open as you say, he should tell you. And then the question is, are you okay with that?

But why guess about it? Have a chat.

 

I think he wants it

The kicker is his statement, "If you want me to". He wants to explore this side of himself, but he's insecure about your reaction, and wants you to take the lead. You need to ask yourself:

1. Is this guy important enough to you to allow him to explore this side of himself?

2. Most importantly (I cannot emphasize this enough) will you be able to handle what happens once the lid to Pandora's box is open?

Once he is comfortable that you will be understanding about this, he may go all out - crossdressing, having you use a strap-on, sucking cock, seeking out other bi men to fuck him, etc. Don't open this door unless you're really prepared to see it all. If you back off later, the relationship will be over - he'll always be ashamed to look you in the eye knowing that you know his secret.

I'm bi, I've been married twice, and neither of my wives ever knew my longings in this direction. I remember once when we were drunk my second wife and I got into each other's underwear drawers. It was sexy fun, and I really wanted her to understand how much I enjoyed wearing her lingerie (we were about the same size). She never got it, and I came to understand she would be disgusted by the homosexual side of me. I always had this secret side, and it was always a divide between the two of us.

I hope this works out for you one way or the other. Best wishes.....

 

Id agree w/the majority. Dont encourage his experimentation unless you really believe he is worthwhile. Try and talk about the issue with him, and see where it goes

 

I am a bit confused on this thread. His profile is that of a male. What is the importance of whether his boy friend is bi-sexual or not? Have I missed somethimng here or is this just specious dialogue

 

Personally I think he just wants you to dominate him and by you using a strap on it would put you in the drivers seat

 

This is very true, not uncommon for straight men to want to experiment, its not in anyway gay or bi thinking. Most however are too scared to ask.

This could also be true, but not only that it could be other sexual (or non) aspecs of BDSM. He may make a good slave... asuming you have the 'girl balls' enough to be a strict and strong Mistress.

Although you have a long distance relationship, maybe its best when you are ont he phone to try to seriously control is actions. demand him what to do, if he doesn't make it well aware there will be consiquenses, and next time you see him bring some sort of spanking or whiping device or just bend himover your knee and let him know who the boss is. If he complys unquestionably then make sure he knows he will be rewarded for good behaviour.

If he doesn't like that idea then maybe just indulge in some light play he wants to do. If it makes you uncomfortable then you need to talk to him.

 

Some guys have odd fantasies, I personally would love the idea of a girl fucking me with a strap on. Im not gay, I just think it would be so much fun but of course the girl would have to think so too.

 

I never had a gay., but I fantasise about being fucked wearing my lovely pantyhose on so let him do it.

 

T.janna is a male according to the profile. I don't understand! at the same time why assume when you can ask.

So I am going to ask, also - are you a male or a female? I know men and women can both choose to be monogamous, but I think we are missing an important part of the picture!

 

sex is sex - and i will say that people will explore what they want to with or without their partner. I would much rather be apart of that life with mine so communication is key IMHO. If you can talk about and through it and your both comfotrable with things then go with it.
dont forget to talk about limits and where lines are

 

I believe considering the importance of the guy for the girl in this matter would be selfish. The guy simply NEEDS to experiment. If acting upon the fantasies shifts his sexuality more towards the gay side then, well.. it's better to know now than later, isn't it?

 

We have a lying OP in our midst. He is a she and a he. Or a "shim" as I call them