Hey guys this is my first post... heres the scoop...
I'm 21 and my gf is 18. I am a virgin but she is not. We have went out a few times and when we do i finger her but all she does it moan a couple times then says that she is soar. the whole thing lasts anout 10 minutes, mabey less. Is there something i am doing wrong?

Also... she has given me a couple blowjobs but she cant seem to get me off... it feels amazing but for some reason i just cant seem to get there. How do i (a virgin) tell my gf (non-virgin) she isnt doing something right?

Please help.
Mr2inch - - nice name huh lol

 

Post a pic of her

 

No. I dont think you will ever find of pic of her or myself on here...unless i find out she into that sort of thing... but then you wouldnt see us here, it would be in the video section haha

 

Yes, it sounds like you are doing something wrong. "I am sore" is another way of her saying "whatever you think you are doing down there isn't working and I really wish you would stop because this isn't going anywhere!" Another, possibly more popular phrase to which this could be translated is "Not tonight dear, I have a headache."

I seriously doubt we will be seeing you two on any video posts. Sorry.

You may just need to stay outside of the pleasure box for awhile. Try stimulating her with conversation and then lead up to soft kissing and fondling. If she is ready for you to plunge into her pussy, she'll tell you, one way or the other. When that happens, she won't be "sore".

 

My advice, open communication.

If you love her, and she loves you, you should be able to talk about anything. Talk about what is working and not working, and what you could do differently.

 

I'd back up what Nympho had to say. If the relationship is going to go anywhere, you have to be able to talk about anything that affects it, including sex. Tell her what you're feeling, ask her what you're doing wrong, or what she wants you to do that you're not. If it's meant to be, that'll get the ball rollling.

 

Also maybe because she is not very aroused and she is saying "she is sore" maybe you should try using sume lube when you finger her....also im sure most women prefer their clit being rubbed rather then being fingered...atleast the girls I go with prefer it.
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You might not be getting off for a number of reasons...if you're feeling nervous or uncomfortable then you won't be able to and also if you are stressed, worried etc.
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Try going to see your doctor about it, maybe it's something medical....

 

Well thanks guys. I have talked to her but i cant get a straight answer. But actually id have to agree with Ben. Its the harsh truth.
So she said she likes it when my fingers go in really deep because of some spot in the back on bottom... so to all you ladies out there what is that spot and what feels the best on it... pressure? circular motions?

Also its not entirely my fault that she didnt get off... she wont let me touch her clit... so if i were to get a girl off without directly touching it what would it be

Range its not medical lol... i get off whenever i want... she just cant do it to me... but thanks for the lube tip... now i just need a lube that edible because she wants me to go down on her... well... i want to go down on her haha

 

The spot in the back of the vagina is her cervix. It sounds like you need an anatomy lesson. I find it odd that she won't let you touch her clit. As long as you aren't touching the really sensitive spot, it's amazing. Other than clitoral orgasms, girls have g-spot orgasms. The g-spot is located on the top, inside about 2 inches. It feels kind of spongy. Use one or two fingers and do a "come hither" motion. It will take lots of practice to get it right.

 

Thanks insanity. Yea so i might need a little anatomy lesson haha. I was always the "nice guy" and never wanted to get sexual so she is my first for EVERYTHING haha.
Umm... what do you mean by the really sensitve spot... it seems to me the whole thing is sensitive... this has helped alot... anyone got any other hints for me?

 

oh you'll know when you find it, just play it out. if you guys are comfortable enough it should not be awkward when things dont flow as well, just comical. learn to laugh.

i was the nice guy too but i started my fun at 16

 

use your tongue

 

Yea taco its not really awkward just makes me mad that i cant get her off and she wont tell me what the problem is. Believe me next time i will be using my tongue... As embarrasing as this is I watched alot of porn last night... not for pleasure but for education haha... so now im a little more confident i can do this right... Now i just need an opportunity haha

 

Thanks. I realized that I was being harsh and I usually do not write critically on this forum. I usually take the approach of "if you don't have anything nice to say..."

That being said, the slow approach usually works the best until there is a complete understanding between two people. If she will not allow you to directly stimulate her clit then don't. Work all around it until she begs you to attack it, which I am guessing she will. Using your mouth is also a great suggestion (above), although if she doesn't want you touching her clit, she may not accept the oral stimulation. Something I have never understood about women but some actually don't like oral sex, and I don't mean them giving head. Some don't like it when someone goes down on them. Maybe it's too personal for them (my wife included) and/or they just cannot accept the pleasure because of this fear.

Good luck and keep us posted.

 

lots of tongue.........then some more.....lynni

 

Its ok Ben. No harm no foul. Well she does want me to go down on her but it will be a little hard bc she is still under her parents roof and we dont have alot of time to be alone unless we are in a car. The pleasures and pain of young love huh lol. But next time ill make her beg for it. Thanks Ben.

 

get her to pm me

 

Dude take your time and build up to the finger-bang.



Oh and trim your nails.

 

Yea thats what i thought.

As for the blow job thing dont worry about it. I have only came a few times in my life from oral and thats came from like 30 mins of being teased and dry humping lol.