My eldest daughter (eight years old) has recently asked me how did the baby get in my belly (I am eight months pregnant).

Anyway I have tried to be honest to her about it, and explain in kid language what mummies and daddies do together etc etc. I have a suspicion that she busted us bonking recently. Anyhoo

When I think about it, I may not have been that easy to understand.
So what I want to know is... do any of you have any pearls of wisdom that may have come from your own B&B talk you got from your parents. Did your parents ever explain it in a way that may have warped your view of what sex is? I don't want to unknowing make this kind of mistake. My parents didn't give me the 'talk', and well look where that got me?!

 

Well when I was 8, I had my first menstration so I was taught the birds and the bees then, just in basic terms.

My youngest brother ( 12 ) and I had the talk just last summer, but he already knew due to kids on his bus and classmates who were already sexually active. All I could do was clarify stuff for him (if oral sex was safe sex, can a girl get pregnant the first time, how to politely turn down an unwanted sexual advance) and what not.

Here is how it was explained to me.
"When two people are in love and make a vow to stay together, they make love which can create a baby. The daddy has a special fluid in him that when it goes in the mommy, it combines with her egg and forms a baby. Do you have any other questions?"
I already knew boys had penises and girls didn't so it made explaining it easy. Just keep a line of communication open with her. Do not act embarrassed or she will think it's shameful, just answer her questions the best you can and as simply as you can. As she gets older, you can explain more things in depth. Congrats on your pregnancy, may it go smoothly.

 

Not everyone would agree, but I personally have an aversion to what you refer to as "kid talk". Kids are really good at sensing when you're dumbing things down for them, or evading their questions. I think the best thing to do is to give her a pretty straight answer. She's probably smarter (and less shockable) than you think.

There's a scene in "To Kill a Mockingbird" (the book) in which Scout (age 6?) asks Atticus (her lawyer father) what rape is.

Atticus sighs heavily and says: "Rape is carnal knowledge of a female by force and without consent."

She says: "Is THAT all??"

 

*nodding* Very good.

 

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I asked my mom when I was about 5. She was surprised (she said she didn't expect it this early), but just busted out a book with a diagram and calmly explained about a girl's vagina, and how a guy sticks his penis in her vagina, squirts semen into her, and how sperm swims up to the egg.

It didn't shock me or anything, I thought it was all very interesting.

 

My mum told me it was like making a milkshake mix milk and flavour together to make a baby. I love milk shakes

 

'darling, when I spread my legs for a guy he puts his penis into my vagina.
sometimes a woman can get pregnant and make baby, other times not.
Its is the guy's white cum from his dick.
magic pill stops having baby!'

'you mean a fuck?'

 

Oh my . . .

 

my mom had the talk with she said how it all worked...at the end I was so scared I get her knoch up my first time I did not came :wall: I now know it would have been fric'n great......

my wife thinks ''give them rubbers'' so you don't get grandkids....I think thats like saying '' here son have this nice cold beer but don't drink it your to young''.........

 

awsome lol

 

At that age, i think u need to b pretty straight forward. I wouldnt go into anything about cum or special fluids. the worst thing you can do to your kids is to mak them feel patronized. Talk to the kid normaly without dumbing it down, unless u dont want to be the source of future advice to said kid.

As good as the advice you are getting here is....why are you coming to this forum for parenting advice?

 

It's good that you opened up the conversation so, if you can keep it up by adding more as she ages and gain her trust I'm sure she'll feel she can talk to you when it's really needed? Trust your heart there's no hard fast rule just don't flat out lie to them, that catches up eventually! Conversations with my kids started at about 9-11 with an opening of,"You can always ask me anything and I hope I can ask you too?"

 

Why come to us? If anything she may know what "Not" to do if someone here feels they were steered wrong with no knowledge! (The worst way just ask my wife)