okies I've been having sex for 2years now, and have had a couple of partners and none of them have been able to make me orgasm, we've tried everything.

I've never masturbated and I cant bring myself to do it, and even when guys do it to me I can never climax.
I'm not saying I've never had unsatisfactory sex because I enjoy sex where i can feel the penis days after.
At the moment its coming to a point where my current partner is doubting himself because he cant make me cum.

Anyone got any suggestions on how I can somehow fix myself?

 

There is the possibility that there is a mental block preventing you achieving orgasm. I also believe the fact that you have yet to masturbate a factor as well. As most women who do have orgasm first discover them through the act of masturbation. I think you will need to discover why you cannot bring your self to masturbate, resolve that and then discover yourself through the act of masturbation. Once you find your G-sport the rest should flow into place.

Best of luck to you.

 

Just play with urself a while and find out wat works best for u!
after that it should be easier

 

could be some kind of medical problem who knows ask a doctor

 

So far I've had sex with 3 girls and made them orgasim ten minutes flat each time. The way I do it (hopefully works for you) is to have the girl on top and kind of squeeze her legs on his. Have the girl get really close to the guy and put her arms behind his neck. Then have the guy push down on her ass and push the guys finger tips medium hardness around her pussy.

Hope this makes sense it was hard describing being a guy and trying to tell a girl what to do .

Hope it helps

 

Nessa,

I hope this helps. But when i was younger i had the same problem. I would have amazing sex, but i couldn't orgasm. I later figured out that i was so set on orgasming mentally, that i made it impossible to physically have that release.

Also, an orgasm is going to be harder to have with a partner, if you, yourself don't know how to please YOU.

I know you said you can't bring yourself to it, but try this. Go into your room, and turn out the lights, put on some music, or something relaxing and lay back, allow your hands to wonder over your body, and you will eventually find that spot.

If you cant bring yourself to touch your clit, or pussy. THen start with your breasts, stomach and pelvic area. Play with your breasts , then make your way down. Just every time you do it, try to get a bit closer...


If you still aren't able to orgasm, it might be best to go see your Ob/Gyn and see if it is something physical.

I hope this helps,


Always, Chloe

 

It may be a medical issue,but before going to your doctor go to your room and let your mind go,sex isnt a thinking game just relax and dont think about having one.

 

According to a statistic I read, only about 17% of all women get an orgasm from penetration, during sex.

But.. like it's been said, you need to find what you like yourself, then when you have sex, you adjust and get to where you like it.

 

Thank you all for everything.
medical problem? :-S
i'd prefer to be called a nut case . . .

 

No, I'M the nutcase!!!!! But I agree with Chloe.

I had a friend who was uptight about certain things about sex due to her family strictness. She wouldn't touch herself, go down on someone or let someone go down on her. She didn't enjoy sex very much because she kept thinking sex was dirty.

I'm not saying this is you, but perhaps you just are not allowing yourself to have an orgasm?

Get yourself drunk and take advantage of yourself! lol =^.^=

I do hope everything works out for you though.

 

Getting myself drunk really does sound like a plan.
I'm strange... I'd rather give pleasure than recieve it.

 

There's nothing strange about that. I like it better too. It's an emotional high that's addictive. (but orgasms are nice too heh)

 

You need to overcome your phobia about masturbation, sweetie. I don't know what's behind that, but if you're ever going to get those neural pathways properly trained, you need to take matters into your own hands and find out just what it takes to get you to the next level.

 

Giving is always more fun then getting :excited:

 

Maybe your like me...I cannot (or have never, i'm not sure which it really is) orgasm without having my pussy licked, i dont know why, but its the only way its ever happened...have you tried that?

 

I took all of your suggestions about myself masturbating tonight, then had sex with a close friend of mine.
And no matter how good anything felt it just didnt happen.
I think I may have come very close though.
I'm sure with a little more practice i can get this whole orgasm thing nailed. x

 

Sounds like nothing more than a lil' mental block...! It will happen - the great news is you are open & willing to talk about it so this will get better..!!

 

Whatever it is that keeps you from masturbating, is more than likely the same thing that keeps you from achieving an orgasm while having sex with a guy.

let yourself go.

 

If your partner is up for it get yourself a vibrator (you can get them off the internet so you don't have to go into any shops or anything) and let your partner use it on you. Or you can use it on yourself if you can bring yourself to do that. It's probably the easiest way to start, and then you can find the places that feel the best for future reference.

 

I'd rather have real cock than prosthetic cock.
'least with real cock we both get to have fun. And we've spoken about using "aids" before.. just for the experience but we've decided that its not the way forward. (mainly on his part)
he's not very open minded.