Well you can have cock as well, it's not necessarily and either/or situation. If he's the one against it and you can become comfortable with playing with yourself then you could experiment with toys then. It all depends on what you're comfortable with, trying to force anything with enevitably make getting to orgasm harder.

I could also suggest trying not to orgasm, just try to relax and enjoy how it feels, telling yourself that even if you get close you're NOT going to try to orgasm. This may work best if you're happy reciving oral/fingering because then you're not trying to focus on doing something else.

And just one fact I thought you might be interested in; it takes, on average, 20 minutes of stimulation before a woman is at a point that she can achieve orgasm. I don't have a reference for this so I cannot garentee it's accuracy and I'm sure some forum members would contest its accuracy, but it shows the importance of a nice long warm up

 

oh I never actually try to climax. I just think its stupid that i never have. =(

 

ahh, well, I'm sure it'll happen in the end then you'll be having them all the time
I wish you well,
Barbie xXx

 

Personally, this is about what ive found its taken, apart from on two occasions... and that took a rather awkward (if extremely pleasurable) position, which did take a rather large amount of flexibilty, with the penetration ending up deeper than we had achieved through grinding... This was her quickest and most powerful (untill three weeks later) orgasm ever, and, whilst feeling bloody good for me, i did manage to pull a back muscle, so not really for the faint-of-heart...

If you want more details on the position, nessy, youve got my msn

 

I could be suggestive and tell you that you're going to have to teach me yourself

 

thats true
Hahah xD

 

Could be medical, but before you waste money on a co-pay...go play with yourself, lol. People can't please their partners without fully understanding how to please themselves. Find out how to make yourself climax, and you'll figure out how to do it during sex.

 

It's not strange, i'd rather give an orgasm then recieve a million

 

Masturbate, masturbate, masturbate!

An ex of mine had a similar issue as you. She is the daughter of a Baptist minister and masturbation was a no-no (so were a lot of things, including me).

At first she just couldn't have an orgasm. I nearly got lockjaw at one point *sigh*. Anyway, I figured if she could get herself to orgasm she'd know what needed to be done on her end during our love-making. But she had this hangup about masturbation so we both stripped down and we sat on the bed , me behind her. I took her hand and touched her with it, guiding her, kissing her neck. Eventually I took my hand away and focused on her nipples and kissing her neck.

She didn't get there the first time. The second time she got close. The third time it happened for her. Then we would have sex after her "lessons". After the second time she came.

Your results may vary but it'll be a fun attempt. Oh and the guy should be someone you love and trust. It'll make it easier.

Good luck and happy orgasms.

 

when i started masturbating when i was 9, i used to watch the playboy channel through the squiggly lines. i'd sit on the edge of my bed and while squeezing my legs together, i'd grind against the edge of the bed. eventually, i would be grinding, and it'd feel so good, that i'd climax. not all orgasms come from penetration. try just squeezing your pussy muscles together, kind of like you're holding in your pee. watch some porn, or read an erotic story. once you're dripping wet, you'll know what to do don't be shy to hump things around the house, like your pillow for example. lol

also, my first orgasm with a guy was when he fingered me. you just have to close your eyes and focus on how it feels. make sure he goes at a slow pace... this isn't foose ball. rub your clit a little, and let go!

 

That......is a really hot story.

 

And the first time it does, you're going to become seriously addicted to it.

 

It was extremely erotic. Focusing so much on another's pleasure. The feel of her soft warm skin under my hands and lips. The feel of her ass and lower back crushing my penis against my stomach when she'd press into me. The way her left hand gripped my hair and pulled my lips more tightly against her. The taste of her juices on her fingers when I sucked them clean for her...

*clears throat*

Anyway, yeah, it was hot. :excited:

 

See, you're getting the hang of it! Writing, I mean....

 

you two have to teach me lol!!!!!!

pweese lol.
i guess if i could write like either of you two.. then i'd possibly be able to make myself orgasm without having to touch myself. XD

 

u can use a vibrator and the real thing at the same time.. me and the wifey do that pretty often. she had the same problem your having now. So I read a book, went and got a "clit" vibrator, talked her in letting me use it on her and once we found her "little man in the boat" she was grabbing everything she could get her hands on, finally after about 4 or 5 minutes she just Exploded. she was 23 when that happen, now if she wants to orgasm we put the clit vibrator on her clit while I'm in her or while doggy style I'll do a little reach around and play with her clit,and it makes for AWEsome sex, messy but worth it. hopes this helps

 

My girlfriend has a similar problem. She has never been able to orgasm, even through masturbation. We did some research and found out that it is possible for the anti-depressants she is on, specifically SSRIs, to cause anorgasmia, the inability to orgasm.

I don't know if this information is relevant to this case, but it is something to think about if you are on SSRIs.

 

The only think I think might help is know yourself, know your body and find out what you like, and also don't give up, try and try and try again, I think you will get it, just don't give up.

 

Lots of masturbation is the key. Only you know your body. Get really relaxed and go at it with fingers and dildos and vibrators, work out what is best for you and then in the bedroom you can transfer those skills across.

 

mmmmmmmmmmm MASTURBATION!!!!!!!!!!
Hunny, if you don't masturbate, you'll never get an orgasm. Because only you know your body and what you like at that instant.. your bf doesn't know how you're feeling...
Just start off slowly. Think about how sexy you are.. you don't have to go straight to your pussy, just touch your breasts and your belly sensually. When you feel like you're getting in the mood, reach down below. Find your clitoris and massage it gently with your fingers.. you're going to get a response, whether it's too hard or too soft... and just start slowly exploring yourself... only you can tell you how you feel. If you like a certain motion, do it more. If you don't, try something else.. and when you find what you like and you keep doing it... you'll get so into it you'll get an orgasm. YOu just have to relax and breathe. I think the only reason I can have great orgasms with my bf is because I've masturbated literally my whole life. ... just try it.