I've been dating a girl for about a year now. Right now I'm miserable, but I love her to death.

I feel almost completely ungratified, sexually. We've had sex once. She freaked out and miscounted the days, thought she was pregnant, and "promised god" she wouldn't have sex until she was on the pill. And its always, "oh I'll do it next month" and if i try to say anything beyond that, we get in a fight because our relationship is "all physical" and believe me, if i was in it for sex, I would've left a long time ago.

Recently we hung out with once of her friends, who I was just being nice to. Later that night she accused me of flirting with her friend massively, and absouletely forbade me to talk to her ever again, or hang out with my girlfriend and this particular friend.

She doesnt ask for things, she demands them. I feel like I have no choice at all. But I love her beyond belief.

What do you guys think?

Thank you so much.

 

I also want to add that I finger her a lot, and go down on her a lot. She gives me a blowjob every few months when she decides she feels bad for not doing it in a few months. There's always some excuse, and she always has to get some first, so she can be "too tired" afterwards to do anything to me. Ugh.

 

You ever try to tell her she's being selfish?

 

She is not the only female on the earth...there are other women who wouldn't treat you like crap. I don't know what you're expecting out of your relationship or if it will get any better. I think it's time you moved on.

 

I'm going to suggest basically the same thing, with some caveats.

Gently tell her how you feel and why. No matter what happens, refuse to let it escalate into a shouting match, even if she feels the need to yell at you. Hopefully she'll listen, but if she feels the need to interrupt, quietly wait for her to finish, and then address her concerns with a kind tone. You are only expressing how you feel, and you are entitled to do so, but remember that she is entitled to do the same. She may react unreasonably, but that doesn't mean you should be rattled.

Make sure to tell her that you care about her very much (or love her, if you're using that word) and you want things to work out. Do not add any "but" phrases to that one.

Once you have expressed yourself, ask her if she would be willing to try and consider your needs just like you consider hers.

If she absolutely refuses to discuss this or come to some sort of compromise, it may be time to consider letting her go. Consider this carefully before you express it though, because once said it cannot be taken back.

 

while you may love her it seems that she is a terrible control freak who doesn't really feel your emotions as strongly as you may like. first talk and tell her and if she doesn't listen, drop her like a bad habit. theres plenty of fish in the sea and you don't want to waste anymore time with her whether you love her or not. love sucks sometimes that is what i got out of my past relationship. hopefully you can talk to her and figure it out but if not theres plenty of other pussy out there.

or if you want to be more subtle stop touching her box until you get the appropriate amount of head maybe that might not be the best way, but it could work just throwing it out there

 

Putting your wants/needs on the back burner every once in a while is a normal part of any relationship. But when that becomes the default in a relationship it's time to find someone else to cook with.

Edit: My advice is to move on.

 

honestly my gf is acting the same way and im about to dump her, as much as it sucks cause i care for her alot but i have tried talking with her about it but she just stops for a day or two then starts it right back up so i would suggest try talking with her then if she doesnt stop dump her cuz it's not worth being misrable trust me

 

Hey man! I don't pretend to know you, so I am gonna go easy, just in case this seems weak...

Babe, when you have someone, ANYONE, whom you decide to spend the days of your life with, that ONE SHOULD NOT BE THE SELF-ORDAINED, DEMANDING, NASTY RULE CZAR OF YOU! You're a GROWNASS man, right??

"LOVE SOMEONE BEYOND BELIEF" when they make you feel totally crazy happy and at the VERY LEAST, content; NOT coz they "DEMAND" it! Have you started this thread to be soothed or smacked into reality? I hope the latter; Lean your head over here: "Pop!" upside your head...

Being solo and content is your other option. Take a second to consider...live in the day, to suit yourself, to make yourself happy, to meet YOUR OWN expectations, and not jumping through hoops of frustration that are being held by someone you have no effect on....and at whose whim you are dying from lack of anything positive whatsoever...

Babe, I am sorry to say, BUT I'd Cut And Run if I were you....
Somewhere, Out There.... :excited: LOL

More fish in the sea; nice ones, too! Jump back in the water my boy!

IMHO, I'm just sayin'...

Hope you are happier soon, with whatever decision you make!

 

When do you call it quits in a relationship?

when you have to ask when to call it quits in your relationship.

 

sometimes my girlfriend is the same..
shell expect me to go down on her and do stuff and when i want it back shell always have an excuse. it gets me frustrated.
when i told her about it she didnt think i was being serious about her always having an excuse and just seemed to giggle about it.
so now im forced to masturbate most of the time and get moaned at for being "too horny"..

 

She sounds like a complete bitch.

Try pimping her out.

 

Fuck that sounds familiar. I'm going to go out and say something controversial, I think you might love what you had not her now. You've gotten comfortable with her in the relationship and it seems she's taken control [and that's the way she likes it]. Is it because you feel out of control that you're thinking about calling it quits? I mean that on a deeper level. Either way if you're not happy, you should be talking to her about it. We can give insight and heavily/lightly influence what you do. The choice, however, is up to you.

The thing I've learned about relationships is that if you're not happy, talk about it before you do anything rash.

 

You could have a good heart to heart talk and maybe things will improve. However, people rarely change who and what they are for very long.

I sugest running away as fast as you can. It will probably only get worse.

 

If its any consolation- im going through the same.
i love her like nothing else- but she has really sensitive sexy-bits. whenever i go to touch her, after about 15 minutes it either hurts like all hell or it doesnt feel like anything. when we try to have sex it hurts her to tears.
because shes never really felt much when we screw around- shes not really into it, unless she makes the decision to put out.
i dont want to tell her anything because she'll feel pressured, and thats not really how i want us to work- on pressure.
just remember that most of the sake or a relationship is to do things together- to screw around if you both want and are both comfortable.

"ancient red": you are a genius. listen to him

 

I would drop her ass fast..

 

The solution is all too obvious, the reality is one or the both of you is/are a dead fuck. What you need to do is take up with her friend, put the "pork" to her like there's no tomorrow, find out if it is you, if it is the only way you are gonna get better is practice and you got as much practice from her friend the first time as you have your girlfriend in a year. If she's the dead fuck then you lost nothing, as no more than she is putting out she'll never get better. You need to face the facts dude, getting laid once a year is NOT a relationship, a year of begging is not foreplay. Christ if I only got laid once a year I'd probably kill somebody. She is never going to be the other half of the relationship, it's always going to be on your shoulders. Run Forest, Run.

Doctor Viper has Spoken​

 

For the life of me I can't fathom why you are still in the relationship. You should have kissed her goodbye almost a year ago ! On the other hand, stick with her so that she won't be out there fuckin' with some other guy's head !!

 

I think Ancient Red & Krissy's bagged this one...couldnt have put it better myself....

 

Imo, if u love her that much then you should stay with her. My girlfriend broke up with me about two months ago, we were dating for 21 months. I've been so miserable since. I dont even have any motivation to do ANYTHING. You might feel like you miss out on sex rite now, but in the long run, having love is way more important. But hey thats just me