Well, practice makes perfect, and I'll bet your sub wouldn't complain even if you let her! :-D

 

my playmate is super excited about the idea of me branding her ,i haven't seen it done before ,I'm hesitant about it ! what do you think ? i couldn't find any vids or instructions on how to do it properly ,
Ancient Red: i've read almost all about BDSM in sexuality.org,good read ,I've also read parts to my partner ,so thanks :mrgreen:

 

Hi everybody,

As a newcomer to BDSM I think this thread is great. However the biggest problem for those in my situation is the difficulty in getting into the scene. Whilst I can understand wanting to keep time wasters/immature people out, how does someone go about getting into the scene?

ancient_red, the bdsm group looks great, is there any chance of an invite?

CP

 

Jax, i would say that the best (and only way I can think of that I would approve of personally) would be to find someone who has done it before to take you through it as the risk factor is really quite high, not only with the process it's self but with the aftercare (brands can take months to heal if you want to promote scarring).

My preferred body modification studio, Holier than thou, offers branding as a modification (http://www.holier-than-thou.co.uk/ -> modifications -> branding). If it's about marking your 'property' i would suggest looking at something like this, and I know any professional would advise against doing it yourself.

If you really want to do it yourself for the act then as I said previously, find someone who knows what they're doing who's willing to help.

 

Pilot, I know I've referred others to this site previously, but it's a good source of info on munches etc. in the uk and a good place to meet people and get advice, http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/.

Hope this helps.

 

Wow Barbie, you're on top of things today! saving me some time earned you a gold star! *stick*

 

Thanks for asking! I went ahead and sent you an invite. Enjoy the group, and don't forget to read the rules before you post.

 

Find it interesting

I find a little BDSM interesting at least to start out with. When making out with a guy in bed, I always find myself with my arms above my head as if tied up. I have asked a guy who I was comfortable with to actually tie me up and blind fold me - but he just didn't get off on it as much as I would have liked. I would like to find a guy (or girl) who would take it slow and show me the "ropes" (lol). And then take it a bit further the next time. I'd have to stop it at the pain - at least the extreme pain. I have had my nipples twisted (actually I did it myself) during sex and enjoyed it. I also bought a set of nipple clamps held with a chain and have worn them out a few times underneath my clothing discreetly.

 

Ahh, so that's when I was helpful - thanks for the star though :-D

 

i enjoy occasional light BDSM. but nothing 2 crazy

 

perfectly normal start to this....it all starts in fantasy. My advice: Find someone you trust....and don't allow a tie the first time. Have your Dominant tie some loose bowlines that you can slip your hands out of. That way you can slip out of them, or keep them on. You don't have to have them tied too loose or too tight. This will allow you to explore being tied with confidence.....and if any Doms on this thread can't tie a bowline....then shame on you.....and go to this site.....

http://www.animatedknots.com/bowlineboating/index.php

 

thanks a million Barbie !!! :rose::rose:

 

I don't think Master would know a bowline from a reef knot (which is to my knowledge what you call a square not though I may be mistaken, it's been a few years since I was in the guides now) this is not to disrespect him in any way, but he doesn't really use knots, the only time I can think of when he's really used knots is when making pretty harnesses, he usually just uses twists, plaits and binds, which I guess are similar, but not what I would call a true knot.

-Sorry if I'm rambling, it's late

 

No worries! ramble away!

In my experience, all you really need to know are square and overhand knots. Of course it's pretty to do decorative knots too, but really I don't see the bowline used that often by anyone I know.

Most important to tying is having fun together. Really creating a mind scape for your bottom. Creating atmosphere is much more important than fussing over how perfectly aligned your shibari is.

Anyhow, I have three days to write an article. What would you, and your master like to hear about?

 

I used to have a bit of a thing for being tied up, but since I met my husband it just doesn't do anything for me.

My husband is excellent at dominating me, and because I trust him completely, it doesn't bother me when he grabs me by the throat or pulls my hair or stops me breathing. I suppose I indulge in a lot of bdsm things, but with none of the restraints...

 

Physical restraints aren't always the focus, Mouse. M'lord actually prefers to use verbal restraints, just telling me not to fucking move. We had some fun with ties and clipped cups in the early stages, but now a simple command is just as effective as yards and yards of rope. The only restraint He still likes to use is my hair. He loves to truss me up like a thanksgivng turkey using nothing but my hair.

 

If that's the case, I'm in the BDSM crowd.

I, for one, am shocked.

 

Thanks SWB Another question if I may: What exactly goes on at munches? From what I've read they seem to fall into two categories: 1 - Held at a pub/bar, very public, seems like just a casual meet and drink with people who have a similar interest 2 - Held in a private venue, private (obviously) playing may occur. Am I right in thinking this?

 

That's the basic idea. Mostly, I recommend checking out munches that have more of a meet and greet format first. Get to know people and be polite, just like you would anywhere else, and you will get along quite well.